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Anger is a strong sense of annoyance aroused by a wrong

• Anger: A strong sense of annoyance, displeasure or hostility. Oxford Dictionary
• Anger: A strong feeling that makes you want to hurt someone or be unpleasant because of something unfair or unkind that has happened.  Cambridge Dictionary
• Anger: A strong sense of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong; wrath; ire.  Dictionary.com
• Resentment,  Hate,  Emotions,  Violence

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Anger is a poison that eats you from the inside …

• Learn this from me. Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from inside. We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us. But hatred is a curved blade. And the harm we do, we do to ourselves. Mitch Albom
• Malice drinks one-half of its own poison. Seneca
• Resentment is an extremely bitter diet, and eventually poisonous. I have no desire to make my own toxins.   Neil Kinnock
• Holding anger is a poison…It eats you from inside…We think that by hating someone we hurt them…But hatred is a curved blade…and the harm we do to others…we also do to ourselves. Mitch Albom
• Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. Malachy McCourt
• Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies. Nelson Mandela
• Every time you get angry, you poison your own system. Alfred A. Montapert
• Anger is poison. You must purge it from your mind or else it will corrupt your better nature. Christopher Paolini

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… and can do much damage to you

• A man can’t eat anger for breakfast and sleep with it at night and not suffer damage to his soul. Garrison Keillor
• Anger is a killing thing: it kills the man who angers, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before — it takes something from him. Louis L’Armour
• Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Joan Lunden
• You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger. Buddha
• If you kick a stone in anger, you’ll hurt your own foot. Korean Proverb

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Anger hurts you much more than the person you’re angry with

• Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured. Mark Twain
• Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. Buddha
• Resentment always hurts you more than it does the person you resent. While your offender has probably forgotten the offense and gone on with life, you continue to stew in your pain, perpetuating the past. Those who hurt you in the past cannot continue to hurt you now unless you hold on to the pain through resentment. Your past is past. Nothing will change it. You are only hurting yourself with your bitterness. For your own sake, learn from it, and then let it go. Rick Warren
• Anger is the most impotent of passions. It effects nothing it goes about, and hurts the one who is possessed by it more than the one against whom it is directed. Carl Sandburg

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The consequences of anger are often more hurtful than the injury that provoked it

• Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it. Seneca
• Consider how much more you often suffer from your anger and grief, than from those very things for which you are angry and grieved. Marcus Antonius
• Anger is often more hurtful than the injury that caused it. English Proverb
• How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it. Marcus Aurelius
• When anger reigns, negative consequences occur. Charles D. Lelly
• When anger rises, think of the consequences. Confucius
• Whate’ers begun in anger ends in shame. Benjamin Franklin

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A grudge is the heaviest thing to carry

• To carry a grudge is like being stung to death by one bee. William H. Walton
• Life is too short to hold a grudge, also too long. Robert Brault

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Anger can be a most dangerous emotion

• Anger is one letter short of danger. Eleanor Roosevelt
• Anger based on calculated reason is more dangerous than anger based on blind hate. Richelle Mead
• Anger is a violent emotion, vindictive, and as dangerous to he who is driven by it as to anyone on whom it is turned. Dean Koontz
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Anger can paralyze and and make you lose control

• Anger … it’s a paralyzing emotion … you can’t get anything done. People sort of think it’s an interesting, passionate, and igniting feeling — I don’t think it’s any of that —it’s helpless … it’s absence of control — and I need all of my skills, all of the control, all of my powers … and anger doesn’t provide any of that — I have no use for it whatsoever. Toni Morrison
• Anger does not solve anything; it builds nothing. Thomas S. Monson
• Anger is like a flame blazing up and consuming our self-control, making us think, say, and do things that we will probably regret later. Thich Nhat Hanh
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Anger can cause great damage and destruction that cannot be undone

• Great anger is more destructive than the sword. Indian Proverb
• The one who cannot restrain their anger will wish undone, what their temper and irritation prompted them to do. Horace
• Those whom God wishes to destroy, he first makes angry. Euripides
• Anger is like those ruins which smash themselves on what they fall. Seneca

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Anger turned inward leads to mental and physical ill health

• The old saw that depression is anger turned inward is often quite true. Richard O’Connor
• When anger is not trampling roughshod through our nervous system, it is sitting sullenly in some unspecified internal organ. “She’s got a lot of anger in her,” people will say (it nestles, presumably, somewhere in the gut), or, “He’s a deeply angry man” (as opposed, presumably, to a superficially angry one). If anger isn’t released, it “turns inward” and metamorphoses into another creature altogether. Carol Tavris
• Anger is generally seen as an unwelcome presence in our midst, however natural it may be. Although each person, and each society, is charged with how anger is to be appropriately channeled, the denial of anger, or its continuous repression, is a deep source of our psychopathology and will invariably seek its expression in a less healthful fashion. James Hollis
• Holding on to anger only gives you tense muscles.
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Anger destroys relationships

• Anger destroys the angry person and all those around him or her. The angry father can cause fear and terror among his children. The angry wife and mother can manipulate with a force and subtlety that can be felt for years. Open anger roars through human relations with a destructive force–a firestorm. The hidden anger that burns and attacks and manipulates can last for years. It destroys the underbrush; it twists and poisons the ground growth. And so with us. The ferocious exterior flame is uncontrollable except over a long period of work and time. We must isolate our anger and allow it to burn itself out. Edward J. Lavin
• Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest words. Joyce Brothers
• Principles for healthy relationships

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Anger destroys good human qualities

• Anger is the real destroyer of our good human qualities; an enemy with a weapon cannot destroy these qualities, but anger can. Anger is our real enemy. The Dalai Lama
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Getting angry over little things makes you little

• A man is about as big as the things that make him angry. Winston Churchill
• If a small thing has the power to make you angry, does that not indicate something about your size? Sydney Harris
• Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you are. Cherie Carter- Scott

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Anger makes the mind stop working clearly

• Anger blows out the lamp of the mind. Robert G. Ingersoll
• Anger is a bad counsellor. French Proverb
• Anger is the wind which blows out the lamp of the mind. Bodie Thoene
• Anger so clouds the mind, that it cannot perceive the truth. Cato the Elder
• No man can think clearly when his fists are clenched. George Jean Nathan
• Angry people are not always wise. Jane Austen
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Anger is a stupidity and often leads to folly

• Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools. Albert Einstein
• Anger is stupid, and stupidity will kill you more surely than your opponent’s blade. Patricia Briggs
• Anger and folly walk cheek by jole. Benjamin Franklin
• An angry man is always a stupid man. Chinua Achebe
• Anger glances in the breasts of wise men; but rests in the bosom of fools. Wellins Calcott
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Anger is a short-lived madness

• Anger is short-lived madness. Horace
• Anger is a momentary madness, so control your passion or it will control you. Horace
• Anger is a choice, as well as a habit. It is a learned reaction to frustration, in which you behave in ways that you would rather not. In fact, severe anger is a form of insanity. You are insane whenever you are not in control of your behavior. Therefore, when you are angry and out of control, you are temporarily insane. Wayne Dyer
• Anger is a short madness. Dutch Proverb
• Anger is a wound gone mad. Vanna Bonta
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Anger is a form of pain and suffering

• Pain is inevitable as long as you are identified with your mind, which is to say as long as you are unconscious, physically speaking. I am talking here primarily of emotional pain, which is also the main cause of physical pain and physical disease.  Resentment, hatred, self-pity, guilt, anger, depression, jealousy, and so on, even the slightest irritation, are all forms of pain.  Eckhart Tolle
• Pain,  Suffering

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An angry person is never in the right

• The angry person is never in the right even when right. Shantidasa
• So long as a man is angry he cannot be in the right. Chinese Proverb
• The worst-tempered people I’ve ever met were people who knew they were wrong. Wilson Mizner
• In a controversy, the instant we feel anger we have already ceased striving for the truth, and have begun striving for ourselves. Buddha
• Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding. Mahatma Gandhi
• If a man be under the influence of anger his conduct will not be correct. Confucius
• Anger may be foolish and obsurd, and one may be irritated when in the wrong; but a man never feels outraged unless in some respect he is at bottom right. Victor Hugo

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Anyone who angers you, conquers you

• Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him. Epictetus
• Anyone who angers you, conquers you. Sister Kenny
• As a girl, my temper often got out of bounds. But one day when I became angry at a friend over some trivial matter, my mother said to me, “Elizabeth, anyone who angers you conquers you. lizabeth Kenny
• He who angers you conquers you. Elizabeth Kenny

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Anger, if continually fed, becomes a habit

• Every angry thought makes it a little easier to get angry the next time, and a little more likely. Eknath Easwaran
• If you do not wish to be prone to anger, do not feed the habit; give it nothing which may tend to its increase. Epictetus
• If you would cure anger, do not feed it. Say to yourself: ‘I used to be angry every day; then every other day; now only every third or fourth day.’ When you reach thirty days offer a sacrifice of thanksgiving to the gods. Epictetus
• Whenever you are angry, be assured that it is not only a present evil, but that you have increased a habit. Epictetus
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Anger keeps you from happiness

• Often, we allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. We lose many irreplaceable hours brooding over grievances that, in a year’s time, will be forgotten by us and by everybody. No, let us devote our life to worthwhile actions and feelings, to great thoughts, real affections and enduring undertakings. André Maurois
• For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness. Ralph Waldo Emerson
• Anger is a thief who steals away even the nicest moments.
• Happiness,  Unhappiness

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Anger keeps you from the present moment

• There are people moving around us who are consumed by their past, terrified of their future, and stuck in their anger and jealousy. They are not alive; they are just walking corpses. Thich Nhat Hanh
• There are some people who eat an orange but don’t really eat it. They eat their sorrow, fear, anger, past, and future. Thich Nhat Hanh
• You will notice something. When you are plugged in to the present moment—when you’re right here loving and thriving in the now—there’s no more worry or anger. Some would use the word fearless to describe how that feels. Steve Chandler
• Let us not look back in anger, nor forward in fear, but around in awareness. James Thurber
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Anger keeps you from love

• A heart filled with anger has no room for love. Joan Lunden
• Don’t hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love. Leo Buscaglia
• Remember Grace, if you let anger into your heart, it will push out your ability to love. Bree Despain
• The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present. Barbara Angelis
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Anger keeps you from peace

• Those who seek inner peace and clarity find that their daily lives and routines flow more easily and harmoniously. Those who get stuck in anger, resentment, and other self-sabotaging emotions and beliefs find that they tend to draw more chaos into their lives. Christin Sander
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Anger comes from frustrated expectations

• Anger always comes from frustrated expectations. Elliott Larson
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Anger comes from unfulfilled need

• At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled. Marshall B. Rosenberg
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Anger comes from wounded affection

• Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor hell a fury like a woman scorned. William Congreve
• There is nothing like wounded affection for giving poignancy to anger. Elizabeth Gaskell
• What anger worse or slower to abate than lovers love when it turns to hate. Euripides

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Anger comes from crossed boundaries

• Anger is our reaction to the violation of our boundaries. Kathleen Dowling Singh

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The source of anger is in the mind and the way you process your world

• No one can create anger or stress within you. Only you can do that by virtue of how you process your world. Wayne Dyer
• The components of anxiety, stress, fear, and anger do not exist independently of you in the world. They simply do not exist in the physical world, even though we talk about them as if they do. Wayne Dyer
• The source of peace is within us; so also the source of war. And the real enemy is within us, and not outside.  The source of war is not the existence of nuclear weapons or other arms.  It is the minds of human beings who decide to push the button and to use those arms out of hatred, anger or greed. The Dalai Lama
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Anger is of the ego and comes from identification with thinking

• Thinking, or more precisely identification with thinking, gives rise to and maintains the ego, which, in our Western society in particular, is out of control. It believes it is real and tries hard to maintain its supremacy. Negative states of mind, such as anger, resentment, fear, envy, and jealousy, are products of the ego. Eckhart Tolle
• What is the real origin of my own anger? Is it the ego defending its territory, or is it something that has its source in the desire for the well-being of all? Jean-Yves Leloup
• Transcending the ego

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This means the seed of anger is in you, not the external world

• At the moment you become angry, you tend to believe that your misery has been created by another person. You blame him or her for all your suffering. But by looking deeply, you may realize that the seed of anger in you is the main cause of your suffering. Many other people, confronted with the same situation, would not get angry like you. They hear the same words, they see the same situation, and yet they are able to stay calm and not be carried away. Why do you get angry so easily? You may get angry very easily because your seed of anger is too strong. And because you have not practiced the methods for taking good care of your anger, the seed of anger has been watered too often in the past. Thich Nhat Hanh

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Anger cloaks other emotions …

• Anger is a symptom, a way of cloaking and expressing feelings too awful to experience directly–hurt, bitterness, grief and, most of all, fear. Joan Rivers
• Because anger is both an emotion and often a coping response, it falls into a special category, which Nicholas R.M. Martin, author of An Operator’s Manual for Successful Living, calls “secondary emotions.” He states that most of us have learned to feel more comfortable with anger that the underlying feelings it covers, and we are often more quick to express that anger than the “softer” feelings closer to the heart. He mentions four standard feelings that tend to precede anger: fear, hurt, frustration, and injustice.  Although the list of possible underlying feelings may be much longer, Martin feels these four are perhaps the most common and could be called “the four pillars that hold up the roof of anger.  John Marks Templeton
• In days that follow, I discover that anger is easier to handle than grief. Emily Giffin
• Red-hot anger takes away a lot of the heartache. Victoria Ashton
• Sometimes anger acts as a shield against feeling hurt or scared. Knowing that your anger is a secondary emotion and that your primary emotion is fear will help you manage your feelings effectively. Karyn Hall, PHD
• Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath. Eckhart Tolle
• Anger is just a cowardly extension of sadness. It’s a lot easier to be angry at someone than it is to tell them you’re hurt. Tom Gates
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… especially fear

• Anger is a disguised form of fear. Eckhart Tolle
• Anger is a response that can lead to harm if we don’t evaluate what we are upset about. Ask yourself what you are afraid of, as anger is almost always fear in disguise.  If we think something or someone threatens us, we feel fear– fear that we are inadequate, that our lives are out of control, that things won’t go our way. Then we fight.  Find out what you’re upset about.  We rarely are upset for the reason we think.  Jennifer James
• Anger is fear under pressure. Behind every angry upset there is a fear. If you attempt to deal with anger at the level of anger alone – by either venting it or repressing it – you are manipulating the symptom without addressing the cause. If you can discover the fear behind the anger and dismantle it in the light of awareness, the anger dissipates. The next time you are angry, ask yourself, What am I afraid of? Alan Cohen
• Anger very often masks deep fear and insecurity. Accepting these feelings and allowing ourselves to really feel them can bring us to a point of then being able to release them. Amanda Harvey
• Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to the dark side. Bree Despain
• Most hatred is based on fear, one way or another. Yeah. I wrapped myself in anger, with a dash of hate, and at the bottom of it all was an icy centre of pure terror. Laurell K. Hamilton
• The angry people are those people who are most afraid. Robert Anthony
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Anger is not sinful; it’s what you do with it that can be

• Anger is not a sinful emotion. But how we act when we are angry may well be a sin. Doris Moreland Jones
• Anger, in general, is healthy. Just like sadness or happiness, it’s a normal emotion. Where people get into trouble is when anger becomes a behavior that is physically, verbally or emotionally inappropriate. Arole D. Stovall
• Anger is energy, and energy must be transferred into activity. Anger comes from our passions, but it becomes sin when it is destructive, either to others or to ourselves. Pent-up anger will either explode uncontrollably or eat away at our hearts and souls until it takes up all of our interior space. Unless and until we deal with our anger, there is no room in us for anything else. G. Porter Taylor
• All anger is not sinful, because some degree of it, and on some occasions, is inevitable. But it becomes sinful and contradicts the rule of Scripture when it is conceived upon slight and inadequate provocation, and when it continues long. Wilson Mizner
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Anger, in the right degree and at the right time, can be a useful emotion if used constructively

• In certain situations, manifesting anger is the right attitude; in others it is not the right thing to manifest because it will only add to the violence. In the first case, anger unblocks the conflict and causes another to become more conscious. In the latter, it only adds to the unconsciousness and inflames the conflict. Jean-Yves Leloup
• There’s nothing wrong with anger provided you use it constructively. Wayne Dyer
• Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy. Aristotle
• A wonderful emotion to get things moving when one is stuck is anger. It was anger more than anything else that had set me off, roused me into productivity and creativity. Mary Garden
• Sometimes, you have to get angry to get things done. Ang Lee
• If you have a healthy relationship with anger, you have learned how to transform anger from a weapon that wounds others and yourself to a tool that promotes understanding and healthy change in relationships. Anger is most constructive when it is used to solve a problem, rather than merely to prove a point or vent your feelings. Beverly Engel
• Like all passions, anger has degrees, ascending from slight vexation through deepening clouds to rage, and finally to fury, which is a black and horrible tempest. In its mid-region, where it is neither too little to be motive nor too furious to be ungovernable, it has usefulness. For all feeling is as fuel, and where there is none life has no fire, and then no flame of ascent. James Vila Blake

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In fact, anger harnessed in a healthy way can lead to positive change

• I have learnt through bitter experience the one supreme lesson to conserve my anger, and as heat conserved is transmuted into energy, even so our anger controlled can be transmuted into a power which can move the world. Mohandas Gandhi
• Usually when people are sad, they don’t do anything. They just cry over their condition. But when they get angry, they bring about a change. Malcolm X
• The world needs anger. The world often continues to allow evil because it isn’t angry enough.  Bede Jarrett
• If we all got angry together something might be done. J. R. R. Tolkien
• When you have been done an injustice, anger flares up before you have a chance to understand what has happened. It’s as though someone else is looking out for you and letting you know immediately that you have been wronged. Anger gives you the impetus you need to change conditions that need to be changed. In this way, anger is like a dark guardian angel, a daimonic force–a daimon is an unnamed but felt invisible presence–that offers guidance and spiritual support. Thomas Moore
• Anger is not bad. Anger can be a very positive thing, the thing that moves us beyond the acceptance of evil. Joan Chittister
• What you need is sustained outrage…there’s far too much unthinking respect given to authority. Molly Ivins
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Anger can clear the air

• A man who cannot get angry is like a stream that cannot overflow, that is always turbid. Sometimes indignation is as good as a thunderstorm in summer, clearing and cooling the air. Henry Ward Beecher

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Anger can lead to courage

• Anger is the prelude to courage. Eric Hoffer
• Anger prepares us to fight and fear prepares us to flee. Chip Heath
• Grab the broom of anger and drive off the beast of fear. Zora Neale Hurston
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Anger is a kind of aliveness

• Try as much as possible to be wholly alive, with all your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell and when you get angry, get good and angry. Try to be alive. You will be dead soon enough. William Saroyan
• People are unjust to anger – it can be enlivening and a lot of fun. Philip Roth
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Anger is energy that can be transmuted

• When we are angry, our anger is our very self. To suppress or chase away our anger is to suppress or chase away ourselves. When anger is born, we can be aware that anger is an energy in us, and we can change that energy into another kind of energy. If we want to transform it, first we have to know how to accept it. Thich Nhat Hanh
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Anger means the absence of indifference

• Anger is not only inevitable, it is necessary. Its absence means indifference, the most disastrous of all human failings. Arthur Ponsoby
• Love implies anger. The man who is angered by nothing cares about nothing. Edward Abbey
• Anger is not the opposite of love, for the opposite of love is indifference. To be angry is to care tremendously. It is a signal that your caring extends beyond polite conversation, and that you are willing to risk a confrontation to share how you feel. Doris Moreland Jones
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It is your choice whether you use your anger to build or destroy

• Anger is just anger. It isn’t good. It isn’t bad. It just is. What you do with it is what matters. It’s like anything else. You can use it to build or to destroy. You just have to make the choice. Jim Butcher

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It takes strength to face and acknowledge anger

• Confronting our feelings and giving them appropriate expression always takes strength, not weakness. It takes strength to acknowledge our anger, and sometimes more strength yet to curb the aggressive urges anger may bring and to channel them into nonviolent outlets. It takes strength to face our sadness and to grieve and to let our grief and our anger flow in tears when they need to. It takes strength to talk about our feelings and to reach out for help and comfort when we need it. Fred Rogers
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Anger is a valid human emotion that must be acknowledged, not repressed or ignored

• Anger is a valid emotion. It’s only bad when it takes control and makes you do things you don’t want to do. Ellen Hopkins
• Anger arises for specific and understandable reasons, just like any other emotions, such as happiness and sadness. Emotions are an essential part of being a human being, so if your goal is to completely eliminate anger from your life, forget it! First of all, this would be an impossible task. Second, you wouldn’t want to do that, even if you could, any more than you would want to eliminate love, joy, or fear. All emotions have their proper place in a man’s life; the experience of emotion is what makes life rich. And there are times when anger is an appropriate reaction to events and people. Thomas Harbin
• Anger is neither legitimate nor illegitimate, meaningful nor pointless. Anger simply is. To ask, “Is my anger legitimate?” is similar to asking, “Do I have the right to be thirsty? … Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel–and certainly our anger is no exception.  Harriet Goldhor Lerner
• The first stage in freeing yourself from anger is to acknowledge the anger. Leonard Jacobson

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Anger must be expressed to be released

• Anger as soon as fed is dead – ‘Tis starving makes it fat. Emily Dickinson
• Anger ventilated often hurries toward forgiveness; and concealed often hardens into revenge. Edward G. Bulwer- Lytton
• I was angry with my friend: I told my wrath, my wrath did end. I was angry with my foe: I told it not, my wrath did grow. William Blake
• If anger is recognized, felt, and expressed in an appropriate manner, it can then usually be released. Amanda Harvey
• You know why babies don’t hold grudges? Because when you make them mad they let you hear it. That’s how you heal emotionally. Acknowledge your anger and have a good scream about it. Adam Appleson
• Get mad, then get over it. Colin Powell

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Anger that is denied and unexpressed can turn to hate

• Anger is an essential part of being human. People are taught to deny themselves anger, and in this, they are actually opening themselves up to hate. The more you deny yourself the freedom to be angry, the more you will hate. Let yourself be angry, and hate will disintegrate, and when hate disintegrates, forgiveness prevails! The more you deny that you are angry, in attempts to be “holy” the more inhuman you will become, and the more inhuman you will become, the harder it will be to forgive. C. JoyBell C.
• Anger is like flowing water; there’s nothing wrong with it as long as you let it flow. Hate is like stagnant water; anger that you denied yourself the freedom to feel, the freedom to flow; water that you gathered in one place and left to forget. Stagnant water becomes dirty, stinky, disease-ridden, poisonous, deadly; that is your hate. On flowing water travels little paper boats; paper boats of forgiveness. Allow yourself to feel anger, allow your waters to flow, along with all the paper boats of forgiveness. Be human. JoyBell C.
• Anger may repast with you for an hour, but not repose with you for a night. The continuance of Anger, is hatred; the continuance of hatred becomes malice; that Anger is not warrantable that has suffered the sun to set on it. Wellins Calcott
• Hatred is settled anger. Marcus Tullius Cicero
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Express your anger when you’re alone rather than venting it on others

• People are often very frightened of their anger. They feel it will cause them to do something harmful.  If you have this fear, create a safe situation where you can express your anger, alone or with a trusted therapist or friend.  Allow yourself to talk angrily, shout, hit pillows, whatever you feel like. Once you’ve done this in a safe environment, you will have released some of the charge, and you can look underneath the anger to find what you need to do to take better care of yourself. Like any emotion, anger is a valuable tool, teaching us who we are and how we feel. Shakti Gawain
• My recipe for dealing with anger and frustration: set the kitchen timer for twenty minutes, cry, rant, and rave, and at the sound of the bell, simmer down and go about business as usual. Phyllis Diller

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Express your anger with a healing intention

• If you vent anger with the object of spreading your toxic feelings, the result will have nothing to do with healing. Your anger is your weapon. On the other hand, if you release anger the way you’d expel a rock from your shoe, your intention clearly has healing behind it. Once the anger starts flowing, both of these alternatives might feel the same. Anger is anger. But if you have a healing intention, two things will happen: you will feel more peaceful after your anger has been released, and you will feel like an old, fixed belief in enemies and injustice has started to move. Deepak Chopra
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Wherever possible, delay your reaction to anger till you’ve cooled down

• The greatest remedy for anger is delay. Seneca
• When angry, count four; when very angry, swear. Mark Twain
• If you are patient in a moment of anger, you will escape one hundred days of sorrow. Chinese Proverb
• When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred. Thomas Jefferson
• When anger walks it is strongest; let it rest and it gets weak. Edward Counsel

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Throwing temper tantrums never solves anything

• Temper tantrums, however fun they may be to throw, rarely solve whatever problem is causing them. Lemony Snicket
• Never do anything when you are in a temper, for you will do everything wrong. Baltasar Gracian

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Never vent your anger on someone else

• Never respond to an angry person with a fiery comeback, even if he deserves it…Don’t allow his anger to become your anger. Bohdi Sanders

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No matter how angry you feel, you never have a right to be cruel

• Sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
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Don’t allow anger to make you say things you’ll regret later

• Anger is a feeling that makes your mouth work faster than your mind. Evan Esar
• At times anger will trigger harsh words. After a cooling period wisdom sets in; finally, the ability to speak from the heart with love and compassion. Ana Monnar
• Not the fastest horse can catch a word spoken in anger. Chinese Proverb
• Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret. Ambrose Bierce
• The best answer to anger is silence. German Proverb
• The sharpest sword is a word spoken in wrath. Gautama Buddha
• There is nothing that so much gratifies an ill tongue as when it finds an angry heart. Thomas Fuller
• When your rage is choking you, it is best to say nothing. Octavia E. Butler
• When anger spreads through the breath, guard thy tongue from barking idly. Sappho
• It is easier to swallow angry words than to have to eat them.
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Don’t allow anger to become resentment

• Get angry, get furious but never crumble to resentment. Dodinsky
• Anger left to its own devices has a nasty habit of gaining intensity, not to mention inviting some of its horrible pals like resentment and hostility along for the ride. Amanda Harvey
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Don’t allow anger to turn to rage

• Anger is useful only to a certain point. After that, it becomes rage, and rage will make you careless. Lauren Oliver
• Men in rage strike those that wish them best. William Shakespeare

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Don’t allow anger to turn to bitterness

• Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean. Maya Angelou

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Don’t allow anger to turn to aggression

• It’s important for people to keep in mind that while anger is a feeling that everybody has, aggression is a choice. Carole D. Stovall
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Don’t allow anger to turn to revenge

• An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind. Mahatma Gandhi
• Before you begin on the journey of revenge, dig two graves. Proverb
• It is useless to meet revenge with revenge. It will heal nothing. R.R. Tolkien
• Never be tempted by the need for revenge for it only fuels anger’s poisons
• Take no revenge that you have not pondered beneath a starry sky, or on a canyon overlook, or to the lapping of waves and the mewing of a distant gull. Robert Brault
• While seeking revenge, dig two graves – one for yourself. Doug Horton

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Reflect on the source of your anger

• If you try to get rid of fear and anger without knowing their meaning, they will grow stronger and return. Deepak Chopra
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Use anger to understand yourself better

• Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves. Carl Jung
• When you are offended at any man’s fault, turn to yourself and study your own failings. Then you will forget your anger. Epictetus
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Never deny your anger but pay attention to what is telling you

• Anger is your friend. Anger is telling you that someone is stepping on your toes, that something is going on that’s endangering something important to you.  Anger is how we’re supposed to feel when our boundaries are violated. Don’t deny your anger; instead, pay attention to what it’s telling you.  Richard O’Connor
• How often it is that the angry man rages denial of what his inner self is telling him. Frank Herbert
• Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to. Harriet Lerner
• Anger is fuel. We feel it and we want to do something. Hit someone, break something, throw a fit, smash a fist into the wall, tell those bastards. But we are nice people, and what we do with our anger is stuff it, deny it, bury it, block it, hide it, lie about it, medicate it, muffle it, ignore it. We do everything but listen to it. Anger is meant to be listened to. Anger is a voice, a shout, a plea, a demand…. We are meant to use anger as a fuel to take the actions we need to move where our anger points us. With a little thought, we can usually translate the message that our anger is sending us. Julia Cameron

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To control anger is a great sign of strength

• The strong person is not the good wrestler. Rather,the strong person is the one who controls himself when he is angry. Sahih al- Bukhari
• Those who smile rather than rage are always the stronger. Japanese Saying
• As anger is a passion, it is to be ruled; as it is a weak passion, he is weak who rules it not. James Vila Blake
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Don’t fight your anger but treat it with love and care

• I would not look upon anger as something foreign to me that I have to fight… I have to deal with my anger with care, with love, with tenderness, with nonviolence. Thích Nhất Hạnh
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When angry, go for a walk

• The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk. Jacqueline Schiff
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When angry, write a letter, but don’t send it

• Never write a letter while you are angry. Chinese Proverb
• When a man sends you an impudent letter, sit right down and give it back to him with interest ten times compounded, and then throw both letters in the wastebasket. Elbert Hubbard
• You’ll never regret writing any letter out of love. However, it’s a good idea to reread anything you’ve written in anger. Mary Matalin
• Always write angry letters to your enemies. Never mail them.   James Fallows

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Manage anger through constructive action

• You accept the “isness” of this moment. Then you take action and do all that you can to get out of the mud. Such action I call positive action. It is far more effective than negative action, which arises out of anger, despair, or frustration. Eckhart Tolle
• The only real antidote for anger or worry is purposeful action in the direction of your goals. Brian Tracy
• In times of great stress or adversity, it’s always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive. Lee Iacocca
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Manage anger through the practise of meditation

• Meditation is not meant to help us avoid problems or run away from difficulties. It is meant to allow positive healing to take place. To meditate is to learn how to stop—to stop being carried away by our regrets about the past, our anger or despair in the present, or our worries about the future. Thich Nhat Hanh
• The benefits of meditation include a decrease in anxiety, in vulnerability from pain, and in the tendency toward depression and anger, as well as strengthening the power of attention, boosting the immune system, and increasing one’s general well-being. Matthieu Ricard
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Manage anger through the practice of watching it mindfully

• Our habitual reaction to physical discomfort is some form of resistance and aversion, such as frustration or anger. By practicing mindfulness, we can counter that habitual response with one that’s more skilful. Toni Bernhard, J.D.
• Your anger is like a flower. In the beginning, you may not understand the nature of your anger, or why it has come up. But if you know how to embrace it with the energy of mindfulness, it will begin to open. You may be sitting, following your breathing, or you may be practicing walking meditation to generate the energy of mindfulness and embrace your anger. After ten or twenty minutes your anger will have to open herself to you, and suddenly, you will see the true nature of your anger. It may have arisen just because of a wrong perception or the lack of skilfulness. Thich Nhat Hanh
• You have to face your fear. And do the same with anger, do the same with jealousy, do the same with hatred. And a significant point to remember is: if you witness anything—fear, anger, hate—if you simply watch them as they arise, without any judgment or condemnation, they will disappear, leaving a tremendous amount of energy that you can use for creativity. Osho
• When you observe and describe your internal state, that is one step in managing your emotions. For some, this means taking time to identify the specific emotions they’re feeling: jealousy, hurt, anger, or fear? Karyn Hall, PHD
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Manage anger through the practice of equanimity

• The capacity to remain completely calm in situations of great provocation, and to feel genuine compassion for those who are deliberately trying to harm us, is a sign of high spiritual realizations and the result of a great deal of mental preparation. It is unrealistic to expect that we can be like this immediately, but if we use every opportunity that arises in our daily life to train our mind in the following methods for controlling our anger, our patience will gradually improve. Geshe Kelsang Gyatso
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Direct your anger at problems, not people

• It is wise to direct your anger towards problems — not people; to focus your energies on answers — not excuses. William Arthur Ward
• Anger is simply our way of reminding ourselves that we have a problem that needs attention. Frederic Luskin
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Let go of past anger …

• Let today be the day you finally release yourself from the imprisonment of past grudges and anger. Simplify your life. Let go of the poisonous past and live the abundantly beautiful present… today. Steve Maraboli
• Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If, in our heart, we still cling to anything – anger, anxiety, or possessions – we cannot be free. Thích Nhất Hạnh
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… through the practice of forgiveness

• Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you are. Cherie Carter- Scott
• Forgiveness doesn’t mean: “What you did was okay.” It simply means, “I’m no longer willing to carry the heavy toxic burdens of anger, resentment, and victimhood in my soul.” Doreen Virtue
• Release resentment and anger regularly after allowing yourself to feel these emotions fully. Do this by saying, “I now forgive and release [fill in the blank]. I let loose and let go, and I am free. Christiane Northrup
• Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation. Roberto Assagioli
• There is power in forgiveness. Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you. Take your power back from those who have hurt you. Dr Phil McGraw
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Make up with the person you’re angry with

• If you’re angry at a loved one, hug that person. And mean it.  You may not want to hug – which is all the more reason to do so.  It’s hard to stay angry when someone shows they love you, and that’s precisely what happens when we hug each other.  Walter Anderson

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Spiritual growth is about letting go of anger

• There are three fundamental phases to psychological and spiritual growth: being with difficult material (e.g., old wounds, anger); releasing it; and replacing it with something more beneficial. In a nutshell, you let be, let go, and let in. Rick Hanson
• Unfortunate events, though potentially a source for anger and despair, have equal potential to be a source of spiritual growth. Whether or not this is the outcome depends on our response. The Dalai Lama
• Keeping our hearts and minds free of the debris of resentment and animosity is vital to our spiritual awakening. Michael Bernard Beckwith
• To practice Zen Buddhism is to train oneself to eliminate hatred, anger and selfishness and to develop loving-kindness towards all. Thich Thien-An
• With senses, mind, and intellect under control; having liberation as the prime goal; free from lust, anger, and fear; such a sage is verily liberated. Bhagavad Gita
• He who, before he leaves his body, learns to surmount the promptings of desire and anger is a saint and is happy. Bhagavad Gita
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Choose laughter over anger

• The madder it makes you, the harder you need to laugh at it. Destiny Booze
• It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either. Wayne Dyer
• Anger and humour are like the left and right arm. They complement each other. Anger empowers the poor to declare their uncompromising opposition to oppression, and humour prevents them from being consumed by their fury. James Cone
• A lot of my humour does come from anger. It’s like, you’re not gonna pull one over on me – which is pretty much my motto anyways. Courteney Cox
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Don’t let the sun go down on your anger

• Be ye angry and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath. BIBLE, Ephesians 4:26
• Man should forget his anger before he lies down to sleep. Mahatma Gandhi
• Never go to bed mad. Stay up and fight.  Phyllis Diller

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Patience is the antithesis of anger

• If you are patient in a moment of anger, you will escape one hundred days of sorrow. Chinese Proverb
• Patience is the direct antithesis of anger. Allan Lokos
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Learn to deflect the anger of others

• There’s power in the words “Yes, yes, I see exactly what you’re saying. You mean…….” This shows the other person you hear him/her. That’s all they usually want — to be validated. By agreeing with them, you gradually break down the other person’s anger. Stephen Hopson

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Beware the fury of those slow to anger

• Beware of him that is slow to anger; for when it is long coming, it is the stronger when it comes, and the longer kept. Abused patience turns to fury. Francis Quarles
• Beware the fury of a patient man. John Dryden

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• Always write angry letters to your enemies. Never mail them.   James Fallows
• Before you give someone a piece of your mind, make sure you can get by with what is left.
• Getting angry can sometimes be like leaping into a wonderfully responsive sports car, gunning the motor, taking off at a high speed and then discovering the brakes are out of order. Maggie Scarf
• My recipe for dealing with anger and frustration: set the kitchen timer for twenty minutes, cry, rant, and rave, and at the sound of the bell, simmer down and go about business as usual. Phyllis Diller
• If anger were mileage, I’d be a very frequent flyer, right up there in First Class. Gina Barreca
• I got into an argument with a girlfriend inside of a tent. That’s a bad place for an argument, because then I tried to walk out and slammed the flap.  How are you supposed to express your anger in this situation?  Zipper it up really quick?  Mitch Hedberg
• Marriage: Nature’s way of keeping people from fighting with strangers.
• Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.
• Anger: An acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it’s poured.
• Catholics don’t get divorced; they stay together through anger and hatred and festering misery just like God intended. Lenny Clarke
• In certain trying circumstances, urgent circumstances, desperate circumstances, profanity furnishes a relief denied even to prayer. Mark Twain
• Never go to bed mad. Stay up and fight.  Phyllis Diller
• People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing. Will Rogers
• The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off. Gloria Steinem
• In the beginning the Universe was created. This has made a lot of people very angry and been widely regarded as a bad move. Douglas Adams
• My recipe for dealing with anger and frustration: set the kitchen timer for twenty minutes, cry, rant, and rave, and at the sound of the bell, simmer down and go about business as usual. Phyllis Diller

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