Very often, we want things in life because we think it will make us feel the way we want to feel 

• You’re not chasing the goal itself. You’re chasing the feelings that you hope attaining the goal will give you.  Danielle LaPorte
• The essence of your desire is a desired feeling. Your heart’s longing is your core desired feelings.  Danielle LaPorte
• The object of your desire is not an object. Jack Gardner
• Be clear what you want in life,  Begin with the end in mind,  Emotion,  Clarity

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Often we get so caught up achieving our goal that we forget that’s it’s fulfilment and a certain feeling we’re after 

• Most goal-setting systems fail to harness the most powerful driver behind any aspiration: your preferred feelings; and they foster an uptight determination that can keep us from the vitality we crave. Danielle LaPorte
• We have the procedures of achievement upside down. We go after the stuff we want to have, get, accomplish, and experience outside of ourselves. And we hope, yearn, pray that we’ll be fulfilled when we get there. It’s backwards. It’s outside in. And it’s running us in circles. Danielle LaPorte
• Goal setting

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Before you lay out your intentions, goals and plans, be very clear exactly what feeling it is that you are after 

• What if, first, we got clear on how we actually wanted to feel in our life, and then we laid out our intentions? What if your most desired feelings consciously informed how you plan your day, your year, your career, your holidays — your life? Danielle LaPorte
• So what if, first, we got clear on how we actually want to feel within ourselves and then we designed our to do lists, set our goals and wrote out our bucket lists. Danielle LaPorte
• First, get clear on how you want to feel. Then, do stuff that makes you feel that way. Danielle LaPorte

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This will bring great rewards 

• You know what will happen with that kind of inner clarity and outer action? You’ll feel the way you want to feel more often than not. Decisions will be easier to make: You’ll know what to say no, thank you to and what to say hell yes! to. I bet you’ll complain less. You’ll be more optimistic, more open-hearted. It will be easier for you to return to your centre in the midst of a challenge. Danielle LaPorte

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Life becomes clearer and more balanced 

• Knowing how you actually want to feel is the most potent form of clarity that you can have. Generating those feelings is the most creative thing you can do with your life. Danielle LaPorte
• When you get clear on how you want to feel, your external goals will shift into a more comfortable place in your psyche and you will feel much more integrated. The quality of the journey and the destination will begin to merge in your heart.  Danielle LaPorte
• Clarity,  Balance

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Your desired feelings can act as a guide to your decisions and choices 

• Use your desired feelings as a guide for making choices. Danielle LaPorte
• Regard your feelings as road signs to your soul. Danielle LaPorte
• Choices,  Decision making

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Pursue your goals in a way that is life affirming, not soul depleting 

• And not only do we have to put our feelings at the heart of our ambitions, we have to pursue our desires in a way that is life- affirming, rather than soul-depleting. Rigid goal-chasing is burning us out. Soul-anchored intentions are the way to get home. Danielle LaPorte

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Questions to ask yourself

• How do you want to feel? Narrow down your list to three to five desired feelings.  
• What can you do today, as in right now, to feel the way you want to feel?
• What are five to ten accomplishments or experiences that will make me feel this way?
• What are three things I will do today to generate these feelings?
• Who are three people to collaborate with who help me feel this way?

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