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You are already complete and whole, just as you are

• Everything you need you already have. You are complete right now, you are a whole, total person, not an apprentice person on the way to someplace else. Your completeness must be understood by you and experienced in your thoughts as your own personal reality. Wayne Dyer
• I will grow. I will become something new and grand, but no grander than I now am. Just as the sky will be different in a few hours, its present perfection and completeness is not deficient. Wayne Dyer
• Self-esteem,  Self-worth,  Oneness

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Gain a sense of completeness by living a full life …

• A superior man always assumes complete responsibility, knowing that, ultimately, he has no control at all and everything is out of his hands. He acts with impeccable courage and persistence, expecting nothing but the inherent feeling of completeness he enjoys in the fullest giving of his life. David Deida
• Embrace life

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… and by living your life for something

• Be a life long or short, its completeness depends on what it was lived for. David Starr Jordan
• Making a difference

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Gain a sense of completeness by giving yourself completely to what you do

• One of the great undiscovered joys of life comes from doing everything one attempts to the best of one’s ability. There is a special sense of satisfaction, a pride in surveying such a work, a work which is rounded, full, exact, complete in its parts, which the superficial person who leaves his or her work in a slovenly, slipshod, half-finished condition, can never know. It is this conscientious completeness which turns any work into art. The smallest task, well done, becomes a miracle of achievement. Og Mandino
• Immerse yourself in what you do

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We often look for a sense of completeness from our children

• Completeness? Happiness? These words don’t come close to describing my emotions. There truly is nothing I can say to capture what motherhood means to me. Anita Baker

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We also look for a sense of completeness from our relationships

• When you come together with your other half, you immediately experience a sense of wholeness and completeness. Andrew Cohen
• Principles for healthy relationships

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However, the purpose of relationships is not to have someone complete you

• The purpose of a relationship is to decide what part of ourselves we would like to experience and express – not what part of another we can capture and hold. Not to have someone to complete us but to have another with whom to share our completeness. Neale Donald Walsch
• I don’t want to be your other half. I believe that one and one make two. Alanis Morissette
• In any relationship in which two people become one, the end result is two half people. Wayne Dyer
• To make one, there must be two. H. Auden

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If you rely on someone to complete you, it will likely lead to needing and clinging and conflict

• People need each other and think it is love. There’s no hanging on to, or fencing in, of the other one when one loves. Lester Levensen
• What is commonly called “falling in love” is in most cases an intensification of egoic wanting and needing. You become addicted to another person, or rather to your image of that person. It has nothing to do with true love, which contains no wanting whatsoever. Eckhart Tolle
• Marriage is like a well-built porch. If one of the two posts leans too much, the porch collapses. So each must be strong enough to stand on its own. Deb Caletti

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You must complete and fulfil yourself …

• When we’re incomplete, we’re always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we’re still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfilment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter. Tom Robbins
• Fulfilment

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… and only then are your relationships likely to be healthy

• Eliminate dependency. I may want but I do not need. I am the sunshine of my life and having you in it makes it even brighter. Wayne Dyer
• I finally understand, the only time to be in a relationship is when I don’t ‘need’ to be in a relationship to feel whole. Jilly Robertson
• Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling. Anthony de Mello
• We must be our own before we can be another’s. Ralph Waldo Emerson
• Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other. Jackson Brown Jr.
• In a strong relationship, you should love your companion more than you need them. Steve Maraboli
• Principles for healthy relationships

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The source of all desire is a craving for a sense of completeness, but attaining desires won’t make you feel complete for long

• The mind can never be satisfied. Wallace Stevens
• …there’s nothing inherently wrong with the desires of the Wanting Mind—it’s just that we are doomed to disappointment when we think they’ll bring any kind of lasting fulfilment. Brent Kessel
• The desire to have, to acquire and possess, is in principle insatiable, and rarely generates the sense of fulfilment and happiness it promises. Tom Morris
• Desire,  Cravings

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The problem is that the human ego has an empty space that cannot be filled

• The ego wants more and more (possessions, reputation, approval, attaining goals, even food) to gain a sense of completeness. But these are all short lived. They don’t fill the empty space. So I’m always left wanting. Completeness is never attainable this way. Eckhart Tolle
• Another aspect of the emotional pain that is an intrinsic part of the egoic mind is a deep-seated sense of lack or incompleteness, of not being whole… If it is unconscious, it will only be felt directly as an intense craving, wanting and needing. People will often enter into a compulsive pursuit of ego- gratification and things to identify with in order to fill this hole they feel within.  So they strive after money, success, power, recognition, or a special relationship, basically so they can feel better about themselves, feel more complete.  But even when they attain all these things, they soon find that the hole is still there, that is is bottomless.  Eckhart Tolle
• Transcending the ego

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The secret to more lasting sense of completeness is to let go of the ego and become present in the moment

• Even my desire to become free or enlightened is just another craving for fulfilment or completion in the future. So don’t seek to become free of desire or “achieve” enlightenment. Become present. Eckhart Tolle
• Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfilment, for validation, security, or love – you have a treasure within that is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer. Eckhart Tolle

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