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Unfortunately, love can often be full of cheating and deceit …

• As to the deceit perpetrated upon women, let it pass, for, when love is in the way, men and women as a general rule dupe each other. Giacomo Casanova
• Deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance. Oscar Wilde
• In love, deceit almost always goes further than mistrust. François de la Rochefoucauld
• The deceptions which the two sexes play off upon each other bring as many ill-sorted couples into the bonds of Hymen as ever could be done by the arbitrary pairing of a legal matchmaker. Lord Byron
• The one charm about marriage is that it makes a life of deception absolutely necessary for both parties. Oscar Wilde
• We always deceive ourselves twice about the people we love – first to their advantage, then to their disadvantage. Albert Camus
• Delusion detests focus and romance provides the veil. Suzanne Finnamore
• When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one’s self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what world calls a romance. Oscar Wilde
• It seems we are capable of immense love and loyalty, and as capable of deceit and atrocity. It’s probably this shocking ambivalence that makes us unique. John Scott
• Love is a game in which one always cheats. Honore de Balzac
• Deceit,  Lying,  Dishonesty,  Love,  Loyalty

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… and lies often abound in a relationship

• I never lie,” I said offhand. “At least not to those I don’t love. Anne Rice
• Oh, what lies there are in kisses. Heinrich Heine
• When your lover is a liar, you and he have a lot in common, you’re both lying to you! Susan Forward
• The cruelest lies are often told in silence. Robert Louis Stevenson
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It’s easy to be deceived and betrayed by one who you love

• One is easily fooled by that which one loves. Jean Baptiste Poquelin Moliere
• Betrayal can only happen if you love.  John Le Carre

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There are different opinions on the seriousness of infidelity

• Some will say that adultery is wrong because it is against the will of God. Others will say that adultery is wrong if, and only if, it has harmful consequences. Still others will claim that the wrongness of adultery consists in the evil will of the adulterer, his or her selfishness, or lack of concern for obligations to others. Some may argue that adultery is not evil, but marriage is, or that adultery is not evil if both partners agree to it. Eugene Kelly

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The bible is clear in labeling adultery as a sin …

• Thou shalt not lie carnally with thy neighbor’s wife, to defile thyself with her. Leviticus 18:20
• Thou shalt not commit adultery. Exodus 20:14
• You have heard that it was said, “Do not commit adultery.” But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:27-28
• When adultery occurs, three of the Ten Commandments are broken: you shall not commit adultery, not lie, and not covet your neighbor’s spouse. Dennis P. Hollinger
• But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding; he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. Proverbs 6:32
• And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. Bible
• He saith unto him, Which? Jesus said, Thou shalt do no murder, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, / Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. Bible
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… as are other religions

• The evils of the body are, murder, theft, and adultery; of the tongue, lying, slander, abuse, and idle talk; of the mind, covetousness, hatred, and error. Buddha
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Others see adultery in a less serious light

• Adultery is not a crime, it’s an amusement. Kathleen Winsor
• Adultery is the application of democracy to love. H. L. Mencken
• As a musician I tell you that if you were to suppress adultery, fanaticism, crime, evil, the supernatural, there would no longer be the means for writing one note. Georges Bizet

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Many excuse it and say their partners should too

• You may build castles in the air, and fume, and fret, and grow thin and lean, and pale and ugly, if you please. But I tell you, no man worth having is true to his wife, or can be true to his wife, or ever was, or will be so. Sir John Vanbrugh
• Wise married women don’t trouble themselves about infidelity in their husbands. Samuel Johnson
• A woman one loves rarely suffices for all our needs, so we deceive her with another whom we do not love. Marcel Proust

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Some even advocate it

• A mistress should be like a little country retreat near the town, not to dwell in constantly, but only for a night and away. William Wycherley
• Adultery is a most conventional way to rise above the conventional. Vladimir Nabokov
• Fidelity is for phonographs. Saul Bellow
• My own feeling is that if adultery is wickedness then so is food. Both make me feel so much better afterward. Kurt Vonnegut
• You know, of course, that the Tasmanians, who never committed adultery, are now extinct. William Somerset Maugham

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Whether a sin or not, infidelity often comes at a high price

• Guilt and no guilt: these were the worst things. The only thing worse than the guilt was the fear of getting caught. Elin Hilderbrand
• Adultery is a disguised detour en route to your personal demise. Paul Davis
• Four things does a reckless man gain who covets his neighbor’s wife – demerit, an uncomfortable bed, thirdly, punishment, and lastly, hell. Seneca
• No adultery is bloodless. Natalia Ginzburg

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Infidelity is a betrayal that can deeply wound the person deceived

• People are always fascinated by infidelity because, in the end – whether we’ve had direct experience or not – there’s part of you that knows there’s absolutely no more piercing betrayal. People are undone by it. Junot Diaz
• Cheating on a girl is deeper than people realize. It destroys her outlook on love, her future relationships and peace within herself.
• Love is understood, in a historical way, as one of the great human vocations – but its counterspell has always been infidelity. This terrible, terrible betrayal that can tear apart not only another person, not only oneself, but whole families. Junot Diaz
• Because I’ve been on the receiving end of infidelity, I know how much it hurts. Rachel Hunter
• Those who are faithless know the pleasures of love; it is the faithful who know love’s tragedies.  Oscar Wilde
• It might sound ordinary for a woman to find out her husband’s cheating on her, but not if you’re the woman and it’s your husband. Melissa Bank
• What irritated me most in that entire situation was the fact that I wasn’t feeling humiliated, or annoyed, or even fooled. Betrayal was what I felt, my heart broken not just by a guy I was in love with, but also by, as I once believed, a true friend. Danka V.
• Of all the agonies in life, that which is most poignant and harrowing–that which for the time annihilates reason, and leaves our whole organization one lacerated, mangled heart–is the conviction that we have been deceived where we placed all the trust of love. William Henry Bulwer
• I think you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that I’m not enough for you. I knew this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for falling in love with another woman. I’m not angry, either. I should be, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong. Haruki Murakami
• When my husband had an affair with someone else I watched his eyes glaze over when we ate dinner together and I heard him singing to himself without me, and when he tended the garden it was not for me. He was courteous and polite; he enjoyed being at home, but in the fantasy of his home I was not the one who sat opposite him and laughed at his jokes. He didn’t want to change anything; he liked his life. The only thing he wanted to change was me. Jeanette Winterson
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Infidelity can destroy relationships, break lives and kill love

• Fuck You for cheating on me. Fuck you for reducing it to the word cheating. As if this were a card game, and you sneaked a look at my hand. Who came up with the term cheating, anyway? A cheater, I imagine. Someone who thought liar was too harsh. Someone who thought devastator was too emotional. The same person who thought, oops, he’d gotten caught with his hand in the cookie jar. Fuck you. This isn’t about slipping yourself an extra twenty dollars of Monopoly money. These are our lives. You went and broke our lives. You are so much worse than a cheater. You killed something. And you killed it when its back was turned. David Levithan
• It takes two people to create a successful relationship. It only takes one person to make it fail.  Truth About Deception
• There are all kinds of ways for a relationship to be tested, even broken, some, irrevocably; it’s the endings we’re unprepared for. Katherine Owen

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Infidelity destroys trust that can never be put together again

• Trust is like a paper; once it’s crumpled it can never be perfect again.
• Trust is like glass. Once it’s broken, it cannot be repaired, only replaced.
• I liken an affair to the shattering of a Waterford crystal vase. You can glue it back together, but it will never be the same again. John Gottman
• Physical infidelity is the signal, the notice given, that all fidelities are undermined. Katherine Anne Porter
• I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you. Friedrich Nietzsche
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Infidelity diminishes you

• When people cheat in any arena, they diminish themselves-they threaten their own self-esteem and their relationships with others by undermining the trust they have in their ability to succeed and in their ability to be true. Cheryl Hughes
• It is necessary to the happiness of man that he be mentally faithful to himself. Infidelity does not consist in believing or in disbelieving; it consists in professing to believe what he does not believe. Thomas Paine

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Adultery is the breaking of a sacred commitment

• The heart of the moral wrong of adultery is that a covenant, a sacred commitment, has been broken. The one-flesh union which set this relationship apart from all others has been torn asunder by one of the spouses and by a third party that has now entered into the oneness of the relationship. Dennis P. Hollinger
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Infidelity constantly takes but is left with empty hands

• Cheating is easy. There’s no swank to infidelity. To borrow against the trust someone has placed in you costs nothing at first. You get away with it, you take a little more and a little more until there is no more to draw on. Oddly, your hands should be full with all that taking but when you open them there’s nothing there. Jeanette Winterson

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Cheat on someone and you cheat on yourself

• If you cheat on someone that’s willing to do anything for you, you actually cheated yourself. Nishan Panwar
• To cheat oneself out of love is the most terrible deception; it is an eternal loss for which there is no reparation, either in time or in eternity. Soren Kierkegaard
• When you betray somebody else, you also betray yourself. Isaac Bashevis Singer

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Infidelity, some argue, is often a sign of a dying relationship

• When a couple gets to the last stage, one or both partners may have an affair. But an affair is usually a symptom of a dying marriage, not the cause. The end of that marriage could have been predicted long before either spouse strayed. John Gottman
• People generally didn’t cheat in good relationships. Emily Giffin

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Where love dies in a marriage, infidelity often follows

• If love be not thy chiefest motive, thou wilt soon grow weary of a married state, and stray from thy promise, to search out thy pleasures in forbidden places. William Penn
• Where there is marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. French Saying
• Where there’s Marriage without Love, there will be Love without Marriage. Benjamin Franklin
• If theft is advantageous to everyone who succeeds at it, and adultery is a good strategy, at least for males, for increasing presence in the gene pool, why do we feel they are wrong? Shouldn’t the only morality that evolution produces be the kind Bill Clinton had – being sorry you got caught? Robert J. Sawyer
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Infidelity can be emotional, not just physical

• I think that women are more sensitive to emotional infidelity than men. I think men are more scared of physical infidelity. Olivia Wilde
• There’s so many different ways to cheat. People think infidelity is the way to cheat. I think it’s sometimes far worse to emotionally cheat on somebody. Sandra Bullock

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Some argue that infidelity can even happen in the mind

• I’ve looked on many women with lust. I’ve committed adultery in my heart many times. God knows I will do this and forgives me. Jimmy Carter
• You have heard that it was said, “Do not commit adultery.” But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:27-28
• Passion is the evil in adultery. If a man has no opportunity of living with another man’s wife, but if it is obvious for some reason that he would like to do so, and would do so if he could, he is no less guilty than if he was caught in the act. Saint Augustine

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Infidelity is not an accident but a choice

• Cheating is not an accident. It’s a choice. Raffy from ‘A Secret Affair
• It was your choice to sleep with her Gavin! It didn’t just happen! Belinda G. Buchanan
• When you love someone you don’t hurt them on purpose, and cheating on someone isn’t a mistake.  Sonya Parker
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When we realise that we’re responsible for out own fulfilment, we’re less likely to stray

• When we’re incomplete, we’re always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we’re still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on–series polygamy–until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter. Tom Robbins
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If someone cheats on you, it’s always a good reason to break up

• Cheating and lying aren’t struggles, they’re reasons to break up. Patti Callahan Henry
• What you allow is what will continue.
• Infidelity is a deal breaker for me. I’ve broken up with people over it. You can’t do monogamy 90 percent of the time. Alanis Morissette
• Having your heart broken is the easy part; knowing when to move on is the challenge.
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Marry someone who cheats on his wife, and you’ll likey be cheated on too

• If you marry a man who cheats on his wife, you’ll be married to a man who cheats on his wife. Ann Landers
• Never settle for being someone’s other when you know you have the potential to be someone’s only.

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Some argue you should never confess your infidelity if it happens

• Never tell a loved one of an infidelity: you would be badly rewarded for your troubles. Although one dislikes being deceived, one likes even less to be undeceived.   Ninon De Lenclos

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Men, most argue, are more prone to cheating

• Men are more prone to cheating, definitely. Blu Cantrell
• Men cheat for the same reason that dogs lick their balls… because they can. Kim Cattrall
• Tis my opinion every man cheats in his own way, and he is only honest who is not discovered. Susannah Centlivre
• Infidelity in woman is a masculine trait. Wendell Phillips
• Eighty percent of married men cheat in America. The rest cheat in Europe. James Holt Mcgavran
• I do not think that there are any men who are faithful to their wives. Jacqueline Kennedy-Onassis

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There are those that argue that adultery is an invasion of property

• A man commits adultery by taking from the married woman what her husband has claimed as his sole privilege. It is this “property rights” issue that distinguishes adultery. Strictly speaking adultery is not a sex issue. Adultery is not “sex with someone other than one’s spouse.” Adultery is taking what belongs to someone else. Philo Thelos
• Adultery is the highest invasion of property. Court opinion in Regina v. Mawgridge
• Adultery itself in its principle is many times nothing but a curious inquisition after, and envy of another man’s enclosed pleasures: and there have been many who refused fairer objects that they might ravish an enclosed woman from her retirement and single possessor. Jeremy Taylor

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• About adultery: Don’t go looking for pancakes when you have flapjacks at home. Jarod Kintz
• Adultery: Two wrong people doing the right thing.
• Behind every successful man is a woman. Behind her is his wife. Groucho Marx
• CNN found that Hillary Clinton is the most admired woman in America. Women admire her because she’s strong and successful. Men admire her because she allows her husband to cheat and get away with it. Jay Leno
• Do infants enjoy infancy as much as adults enjoy adultery? Murray Banks
• Do you think babies enjoy infancy as much as adults enjoy adultery?
• Don’t expect your girl to play her role, when you have other girls auditioning for her part.
• Earthquakes just happen. Tornadoes just happen. Your tongue does not just happen to fall into some other girl’s mouth! Gemma Halliday
• Eighty percent of married men cheat in America. The rest cheat in Europe. James Holt Mcgavran
• Fidelity: Unadulterated boredom.  Playboy
• Fish in another man’s pond and you will catch crabs. Habeeb Akande
• He and I had an office so tiny that an inch smaller and it would have been adultery. Dorothy Parker
• Here’s to our sweethearts and wives – may they never meet.  Groucho Marx
• Husbands are chiefly good lovers when they are betraying their wives. Marilyn Monroe
• I always say, keep a diary, and some day it’ll keep you. Mae West
• I discovered my wife in bed with another man, and I was crushed. So I said, ‘Get off me, you two!’ Emo Philips
• I found love in the arms of another woman. Who needs two legs, a torso, or talking? Jarod Kintz
• I have good looking kids. Thank goodness my wife cheats on me. Rodney Dangerfield
• I told my wife the truth. I told her I was seeing a psychiatrist. Then she told me the truth: that she was seeing a psychiatrist, two plumbers, and a bartender. Rodney Dangerfield
• I used to date the lead singer of The Cranberries, but she cheated on me. Turns out she had some turkey on the side. Jarod Kintz
• I was thrown out of NYU for cheating-with the deans wife. Woody Allen
• Infants have their infancy; adults, adultery. David P. Barash
• Marriages are like diets–they can be ruined by having a little dish on the side. Croft M. Pentz
• Men cheat for the same reason that dogs lick their balls… because they can. Kim Cattrall
• My wife tells me she doesn’t care what I do when I’m away, as long as I’m not enjoying it.
• Some people claim that marriage interferes with romance. There’s no doubt about it. Anytime you have a romance, your wife is bound to interfere. Groucho Marx
• Someone told me the delightful story of the crusader who put a chastity belt on his wife and gave the key to his best friend for safekeeping, in case of his death. He had ridden only a few miles away when his friend, riding hard, caught up with him, saying ‘You gave me the wrong key! Anaïs Nin
• The Love Bird is 100% faithful to his mate, as long as they are locked together in the same cage. Will Cuppy
• To our sweethearts and wives – may they never meet.
• What a kid I got, I told him about the birds and the bees and he told me about the butcher and my wife. Rodney Dangerfield
• What’s the three words you never want to hear while making love? ‘Honey, I’m home!” Ken Hammond
• Women react differently: a French woman who sees herself betrayed by her husband will kill his mistress; an Italian will kill her husband; a Spaniard will kill both; and a German will kill herself. Bernard Le Bovier Fontenelle
• You can tell a lot about a person’s character by how they do life’s menial tasks. For example, I saw my neighbor washing dishes, and I could immediately tell that he was an adulterer by the way my wife’s naked body glistened through his kitchen window. Jarod Kintz

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