Loving yourself (quotes)


Recognise your own beauty and worth


Realise you are perfect as you are

  • A powerful realization that has helped me is simply this: You’re already good enough, you already have more than enough, and you’re already perfect. Leo Babauta
  • You are already perfect. You don’t have to listen to anything that doubts that. Inadequacy is just a thought. Bentinho Massaro
  • Think of yourself as a perfect being among perfect beings, and meet every person as an equal, not as either a superior or an inferior. Wallace D. Wattles
  • We think that you misunderstand the task because you’re looking at yourself as flawed and in need of a cleaning, and we’re looking at you as perfect and in need of awareness that you’re perfect. Abraham-Hicks
  • Drop the idea of becoming someone, because you are already a masterpiece. You cannot be improved. You have only to come to it, to know it, to realize it.  Osho
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Realise you are already complete

  • Everything you need you already have. You are complete right now, you are a whole, total person, not an apprentice person on the way to someplace else. Your completeness must be understood by you and experienced in your thoughts as your own personal reality. Wayne Dyer
  • Each of us is already whole and complete and free and “self- developed.” We’re only limited by the thoughts we hold in mind. Karl Moore
  • Yet on a deeper level you are already complete, and when you realize that, there is a playful, joyous energy behind everything you do. Eckhart Tolle
  • You are wholly complete and your success in life will be in direct proportion to your ability to accept this truth about you. Dr. Robert Anthony
  • Life is your deepest inner Being. It is already whole, complete, perfect.  Eckhart Tolle
  • Who you are, in truth, who everyone is, is whole and perfect and beautiful. And if that can be recognized, then it is possible that self- torture can stop!  Gangaji
  • I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’m learning to not want to be someone else, to just be who I am, as is, with nothing extra added on.  Jaimal Yogis
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Recognise you are already more than enough

  • Who you really are is enough. Oriah Mountain Dreamer
  • What I am is good enough if I would only be it openly. Carl Rogers
  • Believing in our hearts that who we are is enough, is the key to a more satisfying and balanced life. Ellen Sue Stern
  • The bottom line for everyone is I’m not good enough. It’s only a thought, and a thought can be changed. Louise Hay
  • Our whole spiritual transformation brings us to the point where we realize that in our own being, we are enough.  Ram Dass
  • You are everything you should be, and all that is enough. Be proud of who you are, and love who you will become. Jeanine Henning Nhakira
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Recognise you are unique, incomparable and unrepeatable

  • To love oneself is to struggle to rediscover and maintain your uniqueness. Leo Buscaglia
  • It is essential to remember to work with, not around, your own uniqueness. Mary-Elaine Jacobsen
  • The secret is to find your own unique style and talents and bring them forth. No one has ever attained mastery by replicating another. Alen Cohen
  • At bottom every man knows well enough that he is a unique being, only once on this earth; and by no extraordinary chance will such a marvelously picturesque piece of diversity in unity as he is, ever be put together a second time. Friedrich Nietzsche
  • Every one of us is, in the cosmic perspective, precious. In a hundred billion galaxies, you will not find another.  Carl Sagan
  • Ride the energy of your own unique spirit. Gabrielle Roth
  • Must you know that yours will be the “better” picture before you pick up the brush and paint? Can it not simply be another picture? Another expression of beauty? Must a rose be “better” than an iris in order to justify it’s existence? I tell you this: you are all flowers in the Garden of the Gods. Neale Donald Walsch
  • Since you are like no other being ever created since the beginning of time, you are incomparable. Brenda Ueland
  • You are unrepeatable. There is a magic about you that is all your own. D.M. Dellinger
  • Often what we think of as the things ‘wrong’ with us are only our expressions of our individuality. This is our uniqueness and what is special about us. Nature never repeats itself. Since time began on this planet, there have never been two snowflakes alike or two raindrops the same. And every daisy is different from every other daisy. Our fingerprints are different, and we are different. We are meant to be different. When we can accept this, then there is not competition and no comparison. To try to be like another is to shrivel our soul. We have come to this planet to express who we are. Louise L. Hay
  • Within our core self is an indelible blueprint of unrivaled individuality—the singular being that each of us exists to express. Michael Bernard Beckwith
  • We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light. Mary Dunbar
  • Nature never repeats herself, and the possibilities of one human soul will never be found in another.  Elizabeth Cady Stanton
  • Everybody is unique. Compare not yourself with anybody else lest you spoil God’s curriculum.  Baal Shem Tov
  • Drop the idea of becoming someone, because you are already a masterpiece. You cannot be improved. You have only to come to it, to know it, to realize it.  Osho
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Recognise you have great worth…

  • Contrary to popular thinking, being worthy isn’t something you earn, it’s something you recognize. Mike Dooley
  • You were never greater than you are right now, nor will you ever be. Your worth is already complete and never changes, only your relationship to it evolves. Michael Tamura
  • Self-worth cannot be verified by others. You are worthy because you say it is so. If you depend on others for your value it is other-worth. Wayne Dyer
  • You are always a valuable, worthwhile human being, not because anybody says so, not because you’re successful, not because you make a lot of money, but because you decide to believe it and for no other reason. Wayne Dyer
  • No matter what response you get from anyone you meet, you are a worthwhile person. Susan Jeffers
  • You’re worthy because you are born and because you are here. Your being here, your being alive makes worthiness your birthright. You alone are enough.  Oprah Winfrey
  • A person’s worth in this world is estimated according to the value they put on themselves.  Jean De La Bruyere
  • Learn to value yourself, which means: fight for your happiness.  Ayn Rand
  • Your problem is you’re… too busy holding onto your unworthiness.  Ram Dass
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… inherent worth that has nothing to do with your accomplishments or status in the external world

  • We’re taught by society that our worth is found in the idols of our culture—technology, status, youth, sex, power, money, attractiveness, and romantic relationships.  If you base your self-worth on the external world, you’ll never be capable of self-  love.  Your inner critic will flood you with thoughts of, “I’m not enough, I don’t have enough, and I don’t do enough.”  Feelings of lack are never-   ending. Every time a goal is reached or you possess the next big thing, your ego will move the line.  Tess Marshall

Recognise you are divinely generated and God doesn’t make mistakes

  • One can never love himself as he ought until he esteems himself in terms of his spiritual heritage—a divinely generated being, destined to win, to achieve, and to express the nature of his source. Ervin Seale
  • I know that God doesn’t make mistakes, so whatever levels of personal strength and intellectual proficiency I possess are absolutely perfect. In short, I’m content, grateful for who I am and all that I’ve been given. Wayne Dyer
  • I am perfect because I am inseparable from the infinite, the force of life that creates the stars and the entire universe of light. I am God’s creation. I don’t need to be what I am not.  Miguel Ruiz
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Recognise how much you deserve your love

  • You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. Buddha
  • You can search the entire universe and not find a single being more worthy of love than you. Buddha

Accept and love yourself as you are


Therefore, love yourself unconditionally as you are

  • Love yourself, for if you don’t how, can you expect anyone else to love you?
  • Love yourself unconditionally, just as you love those closest to you despite their faults. Les Brown
  • Love yourself just as you are. Your finest work, your best moments, your joy, peace, and healing come when you love yourself. You give a great gift to the world when you do that. You give others permission to do the same: to love themselves. Revel in self-love. Roll in it. Bask in it, as you would the sunshine. Melody Beattie
  • Keep your heart open, for as long as you can, as wide as you can, for others and especially for yourself. Morrie Schwartz
  • Our first and last love is self-love. Christian Nestell Bovee
  • Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy? This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself. The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth. Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from inside out. Alan Cohen
  • The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
  • Dare to love yourself as if you were a rainbow with gold at both ends.  Aberjhani
  • The real object of our love is not outside of us, the real object of our love is ourselves. We have to know how to love ourselves, how to return to our true nature, to see the wholesome, the good, the true and beautiful within us.  Thich Nhat Hanh
  • Like the sky opens after a rainy day we must open to ourselves. Learn to love yourself for who you are and open so the world can see you shine. James Poland
  • Behold thyself in glory. Love thyself as I love you. In this way you honour Me. It is your duty to love yourself deeply, totally, unconditionally. To see yourself as something of great worth. To do less is to deny the task for which you were born. John Kehoe
  • I love myself for I am a beloved child of the universe and the universe lovingly takes care of me now.  Louise Hay
  • To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. Oscar Wilde
  • We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create.  John Lennon
  • It is possible to be in love with you just because of who you are.  Maggie Stiefvater
  • Loving everything about yourself-even the parts you consider unacceptable-is an act of personal power. It is the beginning of healing.   Dr. Christiane Northrup
  • If you must love your neighbor as yourself, it is at least as fair to love yourself as your neighbor.   Nicholas de Chamfort
  • I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.  Lucille Ball
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Loving yourself unconditionally requires total self-acceptance

  • Accept everything about yourself. I mean everything. You are you, and that is the beginning and the end; No apologies, no regrets. Clark Montanas
  • Accept yourself as you are right now. I may not be perfect, but I am okay just the way I am. Richard Carlson
  • Accept your humanness as well as your divinity, totally and without reserve.
  • Accept who you are… and revel in it. Mitch Albom
  • To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. Thich Nhat Hanh
  • Your job is you. Unless you fill yourself up first, you have nothing to give anybody. Rhonda Byrne
  • I cannot be truly myself, cannot build self-esteem, if I cannot accept myself. Nathaniel Branden
  • Practising self-acceptance is about refusing to be in an adversarial relationship with myself. Nathaniel Branden
  • One has just to be oneself. That’s my basic message. The moment you accept yourself as you are, all burdens, all mountainous burdens, simply disappear. Then life is a sheer joy, a festival of lights. Osho Rajneesh
  • The essence of being alive is loving acceptance of yourself, for once we accept ourselves we unleash the beauty that lies within our soul. Micheal Teal
  • Clearly recognizing what is happening inside us, and regarding what we see with an open, kind and loving heart, is what I call Radical Acceptance. Tara Brach
  • A total acceptance of yourself brings about a total transcendence of yourself.  Adyashanti
  • The greatest success is successful self-acceptance.  Ben Sweet
  • Our entire life consists ultimately in accepting ourselves as we are.  Jean Anouih
  • Sometimes we fight who we are, struggling against ourselves and our natures. But we must learn to accept who we are and appreciate who we become. We must love ourselves for what and who we are and believe in our talents.  Harley King
  • The most important point is to accept yourself and stand on your two feet.  Shunryu Suzuki
  • Stop hating yourself for what you aren’t and start loving yourself for what you are.
  • Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it’s conditional.  Albert Ellis
  • I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them. Albert Ellis
  • We’re not here to get over our humanness, but rather to accept and make peace with it… and to remember our Divine nature.  Sonia Choquette
  • Until you make peace with who you are, you’ll never be content with what you have.  Doris Mortman
  • Embrace your innate weirdness.  No one is normal. Everyone has quirks and insights unique to themselves. Don’t hide these things—they are what make you interesting.  Jessica Hagy
  • Perhaps the most important thing we can undertake toward the reduction of fear is to make easier for people to accept themselves, to like themselves.   Bonard W. Overstreet
  • When we accept ourselves exactly as we are, in exactly this moment, we shift from living for tomorrow to appreciating today. Acceptance heals. Rejection harms. Nurture and nourish yourself.   Kris Carr
  • Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are… completely.  Stacey Charter
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Allow yourself to be human


To accept ourselves means to value your imperfections as much as your perfections

  • All you have to do is revise your point of view. Instead of trying to achieve perfection, simply relax and enjoy human imperfectability. With that perspective you achieve the ultimate godhead. You see man as infinite possibility always in the process of becoming. You see finally that man, in emulating the creative process, is nothing less than God. Robert H. Rimmer
  • To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections.  Sandra Bierig
  • There are none so tense as those who try to be outwardly perfect. There is great release in acknowledging your foibles and laughing at your mistakes. Ervin Seale
  • The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself. Anna Quindlen
  • Accept your humanness as well as your divinity, totally and without reserve.  Emmanuel
  • Growth begins when we start to accept our own weakness.  Jean Vanier
  • Everything starts to be seen as a manifestation of spirit, including your humanness, with all of its strengths and weaknesses and all of its funny little quirks. You discover that your humanness is in no way separate from the divinity within you, which is what you actually are. Adyashanti
  • You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.  Amy Bloom
  • When you acknowledge the less than perfect parts of yourself, something magical begins to happen. Along with the negative, you’ll also begin to notice the positive, the wonderful aspects of yourself that you may not have given yourself credit for, or perhaps even been aware of.  Richard Carlson
  • I like flaws. I think they make things interesting.  Sarah Dessen
  • My imperfections and failures are as much a blessing from God as my successes and my talents and I lay them both at his feet.   Mohandas K. Gandhi


After all, there is no such thing as a perfect being

  • Warriors of the light are not perfect. Their beauty lies in accepting this fact and still desiring to grow and to learn. Paulo Coelho
  • There are no perfect human beings! Persons can be found who are good, very good indeed, in fact, great. There do in fact exist creators, seers, sages, saints, shakers, and movers… even if they are uncommon and do not come by the dozen. And yet these very same people can at times be boring, irritating, petulant, selfish, angry, or depressed. To avoid disillusionment with human nature, we must first give up our illusions about it. Abraham Maslow
  • There is no worse sickness for the soul, o you who are proud, than this pretense of perfection. Rumi
  • I’m screwed up, you’re screwed up. Now, let’s talk!  Anthony de Mello
  • I’m not OK, you’re not OK-and that’s OK. William Sloane Coffin
  • Until you stop breathing, there’s more right with you than wrong with you.  Jon Kabat-Zinn
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Allow yourself to be human and let go of all self judgement and criticism

  • Loving the self, to me, begins with never criticizing ourselves for anything. Criticism locks us into the very pattern we are trying to change. Understanding and being gentle with ourselves helps us to move out of it. Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. Louise L. Hay
  • Each one of us has a three-year-old child within us, and we often spend most of our time yelling at that kid in ourselves. Then we wonder why our lives don’t work. Be kind to yourself. Begin to love and approve of yourself. That’s what the little child needs in order to express itself as its highest potential. Louise L. Hay
  • The most dangerous of our prejudices reign in ourselves against ourselves. To dissolve them is a creative act. Hugo von Hofsmannsthal
  • What of your faults and inadequacies? Resolve to love them as part of who you are. You are beautiful because of them. They are part of your uniqueness, like markings on a wild animal. They give you flavour. Make you real. John Kehoe
  • Allow yourself and others to make mistakes, miss opportunities, and make foolish decisions. Recognise and accept your vulnerability and fragility. Your quirks and idiosyncrasies – all part of who you are. You are beautiful and special because of your humanness – in fact, this is where your true beauty lies. As the day accepts the sun and the night accepts the moon, so you accept yourself. And so you become complete and whole. John Kehoe
  • Translate all self-judgments into self-empathy.  Marshall B. Rosenberg
  • Let go of the need to judge

Demanding perfection in yourself and others takes a heavy toll…

  • Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal. Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves the way we are, and why we don’t accept others the way they are. Miguel Ángel Ruiz

… whereas allowing yourself to be human allows you to flower and bloom

  • When I allow myself to be human and let go of my harsh judgements, I flower and bloom. My eyes are opened to my worth. Talents and gifts I never knew I had, begin to reveal themselves. Every part of me bathes in the warm glow of love and acceptance. Strengths, abilities, weaknesses and inadequacies. All things become new. No regret or shame. A life nourished from within. As the day accepts the sun and the night accepts the moon, so I accept myself. And so I become complete and whole. John Kehoe

Realise that sometimes you will make mistakes and bad decisions and that is ok

  • I resolve to renounce all guilt and remorse for all mistakes, past and future. I do my best. No more is asked. Sometimes I will make bad decisions. Sometimes consequences will result which will hurt others. I am human. But I will not pay too much heed to these things. I will offer a silent prayer and move on. There is no point in regret or self-    recrimination. For no matter how dire the consequences I imagine, the sun will still shine. Rivers will still run. The tree will produce fruit. The ocean tides will ebb. John Kehoe
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Revel in who you are


Adopt a positive attitude to yourself

  • A bad attitude is merely a reflection of how you feel about yourself.   David Roppo
  • There is nothing more detrimental to your ability to positively attract than a negative attitude toward yourself. Esther and Jerry Hicks
  • The way in which we think of ourselves has everything to do with how our world sees us.  Arlene Raven
  • Be gentle with yourself, learn to love yourself, to forgive yourself, for only as we have the right attitude toward ourselves can we have the right attitude toward others.  Wilferd A. Peterson
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Revel in who you are today

  • Do not wish to be anything except what you are. Francis de Sales
  • Above all, don’t forget to bless the utterly beautiful person you are. Pierre Pradervand
  • Realize how good you really are. Og Mandino
  • Glorify who you are today, do not condemn who you were yesterday and dream of who you can be tomorrow. Neale Donald Walsch
  • People are crying up the rich and variegated plumage of the peacock, and he is himself blushing at the sight of his ugly feet. Sa’Di

Embrace your light and let it shine strongly

  • Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. Marianne Williamson
  • We can run not only from our dark side but also from our bright side — from anything that threatens to make us stand out or stand alone, or that calls for the awakening of the hero within us, or that asks that we break through to a higher level of consciousness and reach a higher ground of integrity. The greatest crime we commit against ourselves is not that we may deny or disown our shortcomings, but that we deny and disown our greatness —because it frightens us. Nathaniel Branden
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Only by loving yourself can you truly give and receive love


Your relationship with yourself should be your first priority…

  • By all means, love your family (and everyone else on this planet). Treasure all of your relationships, but first and foremost make your relationship to your highest self your priority. Wayne Dyer
  • Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. Lucille Ball
  • The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.  Diane Von Furstenberg
  • Love yourself for you know that you are the one person that will always be there for you.  Audra Colbert

…for it sets the tone for all your other relationships

  • Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. Robert Holden
  • I believe with all my heart that the cliches are true, that we are our own best friends and best company, and that if you’re not right for yourself, it’s impossible to be right for anyone.  Rachel Machacek
  • The way you treat yourself, sets the standard for others. Sonya Friedman
  • As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. Marianne Williamson
  • When you feel good about yourself, others will feel good about you, too.  Jake Steinfeld
  • Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.  Leo F. Buscaglia
  • How we relate with other people is dependent on how we rate ourselves and what we think about ourselves.  Stephen Richards
  • How I relate to my inner self influences my relationships with all others. My satisfaction with myself and my satisfaction with other people are directly proportional.  Sue Atchley Ebaugh
  • Learn to live with self and you will learn to live with others.  Edgar Cayce
  • Most people fail to realize that their feelings toward others are determined by their feelings towards themselves. Sydney J. Harris
  • It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others. Sidney J. Harris
  • If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?  Maya Angelou
  • When you affirm your own rightness in the universe, then you co-operate with others easily and automatically as part of your own nature. You, being yourself, helps others be themselves. Because you recognize your own uniqueness you will not need to dominate others, nor cringe before them.   Jane  Roberts
  • The way I treat myself reflects the way I treat others. When I treat myself with dignity and respect, it will be reflected in the way I treat others. If I treat myself with disdain and contempt, that will be reflected in the way I treat others. Kevin Hall

Only by loving yourself are you able to love others

  • You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy. Jane Roberts
  • Love thyself, so that you can love another. Love thyself so that you cannot project fear. Love thyself so as to let others love you. Love thyself so as to let people near. Robert Holden
  • Without loving-kindness for ourselves, it is difficult, if not impossible, to genuinely feel it for others. Pema Chodron
  • “To say ‘I love you’ one must know first how to say the ‘I.’ Ayn Rand
  • As you transcend your own limitations and tendencies, you will naturally show loving- kindness to others. As your own light shines more brightly, you illuminate the world. Dan Millman
  • If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.  Barbara De Angelis
  • I suggest that the more you are able to see, love, and accept the one facet of Spirit gazing at you from the mirror, the more you will be able to love Spirit within others. If we are the same awareness shining through a billion separate forms, then all love begins with self- love. For the heart to awaken, it cannot exclude a single soul, including yourself. If you do not love yourself, how can you find the space to love others? Dan Millman
  • Those who love others grandly are those who love themselves grandly. Those who have a high toleration and acceptance of others are those who have a high toleration and acceptance of themselves. Neale Donald Walsch
  • Love is forgiving, accepting, moving on, embracing, and all encompassing. And if you’re not doing that for yourself, you cannot do that with anyone else. Steve Maraboli
  • Love yourself and then learn to extend that love to others in every encounter. Oprah Winfrey
  • To love others, you must love yourself… You can only give to others what you have yourself. Leo Buscaglia
  • When you do not require a person to show up as you imagine you need them to be, then you can drop expectation. Then you love them exactly as they are. Yet this can only happen when you love your Self exactly as you are. Neale Donald Walsch
  • When you love yourself, you will love others. And to the depth and extent to which you can love yourself, only to that depth and extent will you be able to love others. Leo Buscaglia
  • There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self- esteem, the more likely one will treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity. People who do not experience self- love have little or no capacity to love others. Nathaniel Branden
  • Love for yourself is the key to loving other. Love begins with you. Miguel Ruiz,
  • If we do not know how to take care of ourselves and to love ourselves, we cannot take care of the people we love. Loving oneself is the foundation for loving another person.  Thich Nhat Hanh
  • It may be a natural impulse to love one another, but how can we love someone if our own heart is stuck? How do we let someone in if we don’t let ourselves out?   Gabrielle Roth
  • You have to care about yourself before you can really care about other people. If you are continually judging and criticizing yourself while trying to be kind to others, you are drawing artificial boundaries and distinctions that only lead to feelings of separation and isolation. This is the opposite of oneness, interconnection, and universal love-the ultimate goal of most spiritual paths, no matter which tradition. Kristin Neff
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For us to regard others as worthy, we have to regard ourselves as worthy

  • For us to regard others as worthy, we have to begin by regarding ourselves as worthy.  Stephen Richards
  • You can’t make someone feel good about themselves until you feel good about yourself.  Robin S. Sharma
  • You must learn to honor and cherish and love your Self. You must first see your Self as worthy before you can see another as worthy. You must first know your Self to be holy before you can acknowledge holiness in another.  Neale Donald Walsch
  • There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will be to treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity.  Nathaniel Branden
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By loving yourself, you are you free to receive love from others

  • My primary relationship is with myself – all others are mirrors of it. As I learn to love myself, I automatically receive the love and appreciation that I desire from others.  Shakti Gawain
  • Each aspect within us needs understanding and compassion. If we are unwilling to give it to ourselves how can we expect the world to give it to us? As we are, so is the universe.  Debbie Ford
  • We accept the love we think we deserve. Stephen Chbosky
  • No one can love you until you love yourself, and you cannot love anyone else, until you love yourself. Raymond Charles Barker
  • You demonstrate love by giving it unconditionally to yourself. And as you do, you attract others into your life who are able to love you, without conditions. Paul Ferrini

More rewards of loving yourself


Loving yourself helps you to be more tolerant and less judgmental

  • I pull up a chair and get acquainted with the me that exists right now. I am enough. I am beautiful as I am. This is a wonderful and courageous step. I can relax and enjoy myself. I become more tolerant of myself and others. I am able to delight in uniqueness. John Kehoe
  • Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to be gentle with others.  Lama Yeshe
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Loving yourself leads to sustained well-being

  • One of the first principles to honor in your relationship with yourself is to respect and trust your own inner voice. This form of trust is the way of the heart, the epitome of well-being. Michael Bernard Beckwith
  • You cannot say that you have mastered love until you include yourself in its embrace. If you make everyone in your life happy but yourself, you have missed the point of living and loving. Self- honoring is the beginning of true service. When you practice self-        nurturing, others around you will catch the energy and you will create a wave of well- being that far supersedes the illusory benefits of self- sacrifice. Alan Cohen
  • When we expand our thinking and beliefs our love flows freely. When we contract we shut ourselves off. Can you remember the last time when you were in love? Your heart went ahhh!! It was such a wonderful feeling. It is the same with loving yourself except that you will never leave once you have your love for yourself. It’s with you for the rest of your life, so you want to make it the best relationship that you can have.   Louise L. Hay
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Loving yourself allows you to learn, grow and change if you want to

  • An individual’s self-concept is the core of his personality. It affects every aspect of human behavior: the ability to learn, the capacity to grow and change. A strong, positive self- image is the best possible preparation for success in life.  Dr. Joyce Brothers
  • The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change. Carl Rogers
  • The first step toward change is acceptance. Once you accept yourself, you open the door to change. That’s all you have to do. Change is not something you do, it’s something you allow. Will Garcia
  • You will never be who you want to be, until you are happy with who you are.  Thomas F. Shubnell
  • Be what you are.  This is the first step toward becoming better than you are.  Julius Charles Hare
  • Eventually you realize that you can become the person you want to be by accepting who you are. Robert Brault
  • Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.  Albert Einstein
  • Growth begins when we begin to accept our weaknesses.  Jean Vanier
  • Self-approval and self-acceptance in the now are the main keys to positive changes in every area of our lives.  Louise L. Hay
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Loving yourself makes your center strong and resilient

  • When your center is strong, everything else is secondary. Elie Wiesel
  • Fear comes from uncertainty. When we are absolutely certain of our worth, we are almost impervious to fear. William Congreve
  • Look well into thyself, there is a source of strength which will always spring up if thou wilt always look there. Marcus Aurelius
  • Is the beam from a lighthouse affected by howling wind and rain? It remains perfectly steadfast and unaffected by the storm. Your true self is like that. Nothing can ever harm you once you are consciously aware that it is so. Vernon Howard
  • The more you depend on forces outside yourself, the more you are dominated by them. Harold Sherman
  • The man who has no inner life is a slave to his surroundings. Henri Frédéric Amiel
  • Know that you have a center. Know that you belong there. Know that the path to the center takes no effort. Deepak Chopra
  • Finding the center of strength within ourselves is in the long run the best contribution we can make to our fellow men. Rollo May
  • We must understand that there can be no life without risk—and when your spirit is strong, everything else is secondary, even the risks. Elie Wiesel
  • When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.  African Proverb
  • The human spirit is stronger than anything that can happen to it. C.C. Scott
  • Your inner strength is your outer foundation.  Allan Rufus
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Loving yourself makes you less needy and dependent in your relationships

  • Eliminate dependency. I may want but I do not need. I am the sunshine of my life and having you in it makes it even brighter. Wayne Dyer
  • You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with. Wayne Dyer
  • Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling. Anthony de Mello
  • People who do not understand themselves have a craving for understanding.  Wilhelm Stekel
  • When I accept myself, I am freed from the burden of needing you to accept me.  Dr Steve Maraboli

Loving yourself lets you worry less what people think of you …

  • Self-esteem comes from the self, not from acquisitions and approval. Wayne Dyer
  • When you acquire enough inner peace and feel really positive about yourself, it’s almost impossible for you to be controlled and manipulated by anybody else. Wayne Dyer
  • Get to know your true self.  When you are truly comfortable in your own skin, not everyone will like you, but you won’t care about it one bit.  Marc and Angel Chernoff
  • When you learn to embrace yourself with a sense of appreciation and affection, you begin to glimpse the goodness and light that is in you and gradually you will realize that you are worthy of respect from yourself. When you recognize your limits, but still embrace your life with affection and graciousness, the sense of inner dignity begins to grow. You become freer and less dependent on the affirmation of outer voices and less troubled by the negativity of others.   John O’Donohue
  • The more I like me, the less I want to pretend to be other people. Jamie Lee Curtis
  • Only when we do not fully like or love ourselves are we bothered when someone else does not like us… Robert Beno
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… and makes you less reliant on external approval

  • There is an applause superior to that of the multitudes: one’s own. Elizabeth Elton Smith
  • It’s not your job to like me. It’s mine. Byron Katie
  • Ultimately, love is self-approval. Sondra Ray
  • Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.  Lao Tzu

Loving yourself makes you more attractive

  • The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe. Deepak Chopra
  • When you’re happy with yourself, then all of your other relationships improve, too. A happy person is very attractive to others. If you’re looking for more love, then you need to love yourself more.   Louise L. Hay

Loving yourself allows abundance to flow into your life

  • I find that as we really love and accept and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, then everything in life works. It’s as if little miracles are everywhere. Our health improves, we attract more money, our relationships become much more fulfilling, and we begin to express ourselves in creatively fulfilling ways. All this seems to happen without even trying. Louise L. Hay
  • The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth.  Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from inside out.  Alan Cohen
  • The reason you have to love yourself is because it is impossible to feel good if you don’t love yourself. When you feel bad about yourself, you are blocking all the love and all the good that the Universe has for you. Rhonda Byrne
  • We get what we think we deserve. Brent Kessel
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Loving yourself opens the gates to health and healing

  • Good health begins with loving the self. So do prosperity and love and creative self- expressions. Louise L. Hay
  • Eventually you will come to understand that love heals everything, and love is all there is.  Gary Zukav
  • Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion.  Buddha
  • What happens when people open their hearts?… They get better. Haruki Murakami
  • Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.  Louise L. Hay
  • One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.  Sophocles
  • Love with the Heart of Heaven. Everything that you do with Love will heal you. Dr. Joseph Michael Levry
  • If everyone healed themselves, the world would be healed.
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Loving yourself greatly influences your happiness

  • Happiness is having a sense of self – not a feeling of being perfect but of being good enough and knowing that you are in the process of growth, of being, of achieving levels of joy. Leo Buscaglia
  • Happiness is in many things. It’s in love. It’s in sharing. But most of all, it’s in being at peace with yourself knowing that you are making the effort, the full effort, to do what is right. John Wooden
  • Happiness is looking in a mirror and liking what you see.
  • Having a low opinion of yourself is not “modesty”. It’s self- destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not “egotism”. It’s a necessary precondition to happiness and success.  Bobbe Sommer
  • Learn to value yourself, which means: to fight for your happiness. Ayn Rand
  • Self-esteem is as necessary to the spirit as food is to the body.  Dr. Maxwell Maltz
  • To know that one is worthy of happiness is the essence of self- esteem. Nathaniel Branden
  • Unless you are happy with yourself, you will not be happy. Robert Holden
  • Happiness is really a deep harmonious inner satisfaction and approval.  Francis Wilshire
  • We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.  The Dalai Lama
  • Until you make peace with who you are, you will never be content with what you have.  Doris Mortman
  • You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.  Wayne Dyer
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Loving yourself influences your success in life

  • Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not ‘egotism.’ It’s a necessary precondition to happiness and success.  Bobbe Sommer
  • Of all the judgments you make in life, none is as important as the one you make about yourself. The difference between low self- esteem and high self-esteem is the difference between passivity and action, between failure and success.  Nathaniel Branden
  • When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.  William Arthur War
  • If you say you’re worthy, you are. If you say you’re not worthy, you’re not. Either way, you’ll grow into your story.  T. Harv Eker
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All in all, learning to love yourself can be nothing short of life transforming

  • Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit. e.e. Cummings
  • One has just to be oneself. That’s my basic message. The moment you accept yourself as you are, all burdens, all mountainous burdens, simply disappear. Then life is a sheer joy, a festival of lights. Osho Rajneesh
  • Self-approval and self-acceptance in the now are the main keys to positive changes in every area of our lives. Louise L. Hay
  • When your sense of worth exceeds your conditions, conditions will shift to match your vision. Alan Cohen
  • What a man thinks of himself, it is that which determines, or rather indicates, his fate. Henry David Thoreau
  • Your outlook on life is a direct reflection on how much you like yourself.  Lululemon
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On the other hand, you tend to pay a heavy price for not loving yourself

  • When you undervalue who you are, the world will undervalue what you do and vice versa. Suze Orman
  • There is nothing more detrimental to your ability to positively attract than a negative attitude toward yourself. Esther and Jerry Hicks
  • The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself. Mark Twain
  • Unless you are happy with yourself, you will not be happy. Robert Holden
  • “Why is everyone here so happy except me?” “Because they have learned to see goodness and beauty everywhere,” said the Master. “Why don’t I see goodness and beauty everywhere?” “Because you cannot see outside of you what you fail to see inside.” Anthony De Mello
  • When you feel bad about yourself, you block the love and instead you attract more people and situations that will continue to make you feel bad about you. Rhonda Byrne
  • Our stresses, anxieties, pains, and problems arise because we do not see the world, others, or even ourselves as worthy of love. Prem Prakash
  • Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on. Maxwell Maltz
  • Your problem is you are too busy holding on to your unworthiness. Ram Dass
  • Of all afflictions, the worst is self-contempt.  Berthold Auerbach
  • I have had more trouble with myself than with any other man I’ve met.  Dwight Moody
  • Unless I accept my faults, I will most certainly doubt my virtues.  Hugh Prather

Practices for loving and accepting yourself


1.  Be your own best friend

  • We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.  Roderick Thorp
  • Friendship with oneself is all-important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world. Eleanor Roosevelt
  • Before you can successfully make friends with others, first you have to become your own friend.  Stephen Richards
  • You are the best friend you will ever have. In the presence of your true self you will become the most peaceful, the most relaxed, the most natural person possible. Bartholomew
  • If you make friends with yourself, you will never be alone.  Maxwell Maltz
  • Think about what it’s like to be a good friend to someone. Then ask: Am I that kind of friend to myself?  Rick Hanson
  • I will spend more time with myself in this lifetime than anyone else. Let me learn to be the kind of person I would like to have as a friend.  Al-Anon
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2.  Look into the mirror, make eye contact, and say “I love you.”

  • End your day by privately looking directly into your eyes in the mirror and saying, ‘I love you!’ Do this for thirty days and watch how you transform. Mark Victor Hansen
  • Look into a mirror, make eye contact with yourself, and say “I love me” as many times as possible during the day. Wayne Dyer
  • Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror. Byron Katie
  • I ask my clients to pick up a small mirror, look into their own eyes, and say their names and, ‘I love and accept you exactly as you are.’ Louise L. Hay
  • Remove those ‘I want you to like me’ stickers from your forehead and, instead, place them where they truly will do the most good – on your mirror. Susan Jeffers

3.  Treat yourself like you would treat someone you love and respect

  • Talk to yourself in the way in which you would talk to someone you really care about and respect.  Marelisa Fabrega
  • Treat yourself as if you already are what you’d like to become. Wayne Dyer
  • Give yourself a hug. Dr Irene C. Kassorla
  • Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. Veronica A. Shoffstall
  • Before you think or say anything to yourself, ask yourself if you would say that to God; because in essence, you are. Michael Jeffreys
  • Respect heroes above men, gods above demi-gods, but above all, respect yourself. Pythagoras
  • If someone in your life talked to you the way you talk to yourself, you would have left them long ago. Carla Gordon
  • As much as anyone in the universe, you deserve your love and respect. Buddha
  • Self-acceptance is my refusal to be in an adversarial relationship to myself.  Nathaniel Brand
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4.  Make time for yourself to do what fulfils you

  • The greatest gift you can give yourself is a little bit of your own attention. Anthony J. D’Angelo
  • When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.  Jean Shinoda Bolen
  • Do things because you enjoy them, not because you have to win or be the best.  Dr. Irene Kassorla
  • Take the time to come home to yourself every day.  Robin Casarjean
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5. Put your needs first

  • It is fully legitimate to nurture yourself before reaching out to others.  You can’t give someone a drink of water from an empty glass.  Take good care of yourself and you’ll gain genuine insight into how to care for others.  Stephen Covey
  • The more I gave to myself, the more I was able to give to others, and the more I then received.  Stephen Light

6.  Stop “musterbation” and “shoulding on yourself.”

  • Complete 5 sentences that start with “I SHOULD.” Alright. Now, read each one and ask: “Why?” Now, take those five sentences and start them with: “If I really wanted to I could ___________” Louise L. Hay
  • Freedom from “musts” and “shoulds” is freedom from musturbation. Replace “musts” and “shoulds” with “I may” or “I choose.” Albert Ellis

7.  Fire your inner critic and re-instate your fan club

  • Fire your inner critic and reinstate your inner fan club. Alan Cohen
  • Always remember your brilliance. Alexandra Stoddard
  • Care for yourself enough to listen carefully to what you say to yourself. Willis Goth Regier
  • If I had it to do again, I would less often judge myself and more often ask for a jury. Robert Brault
  • You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. Louise L. Hay
  • Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.  Louise L. Hay
  • It is time to stop telling yourself negative things that you wouldn’t dream of saying to a friend, but that you habitually say to yourself.  Amanda Harvey
  • We all have the tendency to believe self-doubt and self-criticism, but listening to this voice never gets us closer to our goals. Instead, try on the point of view of a mentor or good friend who believes in you, wants the best for you, and will encourage you when you feel discouraged.  Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D.
  • There are an inner critic and an inner protector inside each of us. For most people, that inner critic is continually yammering away, looking for something, anything, to find fault with. It magnifies small failings into big ones, punishes you over and over for things long past, ignores the larger context, and doesn’t credit you for your efforts to make amends. That’s why you need your inner protector to stick up for you: to put your weaknesses and misdeeds in perspective, to highlight your many good qualities surrounding your lapses, to encourage you to return to the high road even if you’ve gone down the low one, and—frankly—to tell that inner critic to Hush Up Now.  Rick Hanson
  • When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside.  Joel Osteen
  • I am my own biggest critic. Before anyone else has criticized me, I have already criticized myself. But for the rest of my life, I am going to be with me and I don’t want to spend my life with someone who is always critical. So I am going to stop being my own critic. It’s high time that I accept all the great things about me.   C. JoyBell C.
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8.  That means catching yourself doing things right and celebrating every success, no matter how little

  • Celebrate every little success. Leo Babauta
  • Celebrate any progress. Don’t wait to get perfect. Ann McGee Cooper
  • Redefine a “meaningful accomplishment.” If being peaceful and loving are amongst your primary goals, then why not redefine your most meaningful accomplishments as being those that support and measure qualities such as kindness and happiness. Richard Carlson
  • Learn to pat yourself on the back for your past and present victories, no matter how small. Search for things to acknowledge. Write down every strong point you can come up with in your life, past and present. John Kehoe
  • Do you go around remembering and tallying up your mistakes? Why not switch it around and start keeping track of all the good things you do from now on! At the end of your day, write down all the “Magic Moments” from that day when you felt most alive, when you really felt like you were giving yourself fully to the world. Brian Johnson
  • Take inventory of your good reasons for self-esteem today. Write down what your ‘BAG’ is. Blessings—who and what you are thankful for. Accomplishments—what you have done that you’re proud of so far. Goals—what your dreams and ambitions are. Denis Waitley
  • While working to make your dream a reality, feel the joy of your accomplishment and savor it with celebration and thanksgiving. Sarah Ban Breathnach
  • It is important that you recognize your progress and take pride in your accomplishments. Share your achievements with others. Brag a little. The recognition and support of those around you is nurturing. Rosemarie Rossetti
  • Celebrate how far you’ve come, and not how much you have yet to achieve. The former will empower you to greatness, while the latter is rooted in fear and only serves to hold you back from greatness. Celestine Chua
  • Happiness is made up of those tiny successes. The big ones come too infrequently. And if you don’t collect all these tiny successes, the big ones don’t really mean anything.  Norman Lear
  • To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives. Denis Waitley
  • Make a list of your accomplishments—even the small ones— and add to it daily.  Lori Deschene
  • Always concentrate on how far you’ve come, rather than how far you have left to go.
  • There are exactly as many special occasions in life as we choose to celebrate.  Robert Brault
  • To accomplish more, redirect your mental energy by continuously reminding yourself of all the things you do right.  Brian Koslow
  • It’s important to give yourself a gold star.  Recognizing your achievements–big and small– is an important part of honoring who you are.  Gold stars have the powerful effect of undermining and dethroning all the critical stuff you’ve heard about yourself.  Leslie Levine
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9.  Focus on your positives rather than your faults

  • Ramakrishna once said that if all you think of are your sins, then you are a sinner. And when I read that, I thought of my boyhood, going to confession on Saturdays, meditating on all the little sins that I had committed during the week. Now I think one should go and say, ‘Bless me, Father, for I have been great, these are the good things I have done this week.’ Identify your notion of yourself with the positive, rather than with the negative. Joseph Campbell
  • Being overly concerned with your faults is worse for your spiritual condition than the fault itself. Jeanne Guyon
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10.  Forgive yourself for all your past mistakes

  • The supreme act of forgiveness is when you can forgive yourself for all the wounds you have created in your own life. Forgiveness is an act of self-love. When you forgive yourself, self- acceptance begins and self-love grows.  Don Miguel Ruiz Quotes
  • The day the child realises that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent. The day he forgives then, he becomes an adult. The day he forgives himself, he becomes wise.   Alden Nowlan
  • If you haven’t forgiven yourself something, how can you forgive others?  Dolores Huerta
  • It is important that we forgive ourselves for making mistakes. We need to learn from our errors and move on.  Steve Maraboli
  • To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. Lewis B. Smedes
  • Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently.  Louise L. Hay
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10.  Trust yourself more

  • Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement. Golda Meir
  • Depend upon yourself. Make your judgement trustworthy by trusting it. You can develop good judgement as you do the muscles of your body – by judicious, daily exercise. To be known as a man of sound judgement will be much in your favor. Grantland Rice
  • Trust yourself, then you will know how to live. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
  • Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.  Benjamin Spock
  • Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string.  Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • I have to trust what I do and then do it. Ednita Nazario
  • I learned you have to trust yourself, be what you are, and do what you ought to do the way you should do it. You have got to discover you, what you do, and trust it.  Barbara Streisand
  • Trust in what you love, continue to do it, and it will take you where you need to go. Natalie Goldberg
  • Trust your ability! Itzhak Perlman
  • We must trust our own thinking. Trust where we’re going. And get the job done. Wilma Mankiller
  • Trust that little voice in your head that says “Wouldn’t it be interesting if..”; And then do it.  Duane Michals
  • I’ve learned to trust myself, to listen to truth, to not be afraid of it and to not try and hide it.  Sarah McLachlan
  • Self-trust is the first secret of success.  Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • …in doubt a man of worth will trust to his own wisdom.  J. R. R. Tolkien
  • As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.  Garth Henrich
  • Self-trust is the essence of heroism.  Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • When I’m trusting and being myself… everything in my life reflects this by falling into place easily, often miraculously.  Shakti Gawain
  • Love yourself, trust your choices, and everything is possible. Cherie-Carter Scotts
  • I shall trust myself and listen to my inner voice.  Marelisa Fabrega
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11.  Grow spiritually

  • When you spend time growing spiritually, loving yourself becomes automatic. You become more peaceful, connected, kind, loving and compassionate. You nurture a mind that grows more beautiful by the day. You naturally love yourself in the process. Evelyn Lim
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12.  Make use of positive affirmations

  • Reframe your mind with positive affirmations. For instance, say this to yourself “I love and accept myself completely and unconditionally.” Read your affirmations out loud several times a day.  Evelyn Lim
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13.  Boost your confidence and self-esteem by growing your strengths and not fixating on your weaknesses

  • Make a deliberate attempt to look for opportunities that can help improve your confidence. For instance, if you are particularly good at doing something, set aside more time to indulge and improve your skills on it. Knowing that you have particular gifts can boost your self-esteem.  Evelyn Lim
  • As is our confidence, so is our capacity.  Richard Bach
  • Stop trying to fix your weaknesses. You can’t be perfect. Focus on your strengths and let other people do what you’re bad at. Henri Junttila
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14.  Nurture your dreams

  • Buried under the years and experiences of your life is a memory of a dream, a forgotten wanting, a simple whim.  Capture the memory once again and make it a reality.  Stephen Covey
  • Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. Mark Twain
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15.  Allow yourself to have fun and play more

  • If you know life is supposed to be fun, you know more than almost anybody else knows. Abraham-Hicks
  • If it’s not fun, you’re not doing it right. Bob Basso
  • Make your life as exciting as possible, but always think of it as fun. The adversities as well as the harmony should be enjoyable. Don’t become sober and morose and have a castor oil face in the name of spirituality. Just be happy. Jump with joy. Even if you make a mistake, say, “Hey, I did this? Great! What a wonderful lesson I learned!” If you really want to, you can make everything fun.  Sri Swami Satchidananda
  • In all of living, have much fun and laughter. Life is to be enjoyed, not just endured.  Gordon B. Hinckley
  • Every normal function of life holds some delight. Will Durant
  • We don’t stop having fun when we’re old; we’re old when we stop having fun.
  • I’ve explored and rejected every other possibility. Life after all must be for having fun. Ashleigh Brilliant
  • Life must be lived as play. Plato
  • Live and work but do not forget to play, to have fun in life and really enjoy it. Eileen Caddy
  • The true object of all human life is play. G.K. Chesterton
  • Life is playfulness… We need to play so that we can rediscover the magic all around us. Flora Colao
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16.  Look after yourself properly

  • Other very important practical actions include looking after your physical needs for rest, sleep, exercise, and nutritious food. By taking care of yourself, you are sending a strong message to your subconscious that you value yourself, and that you are worth taking care of.  Amanda Harvey

17.  Surround yourself with positive, affirming people

  • Avoid, whenever possible, being around people whose attitude is negative and critical. Seek out the company of people who feel really good about themselves, and if you open your heart and mind to their positive influence, you will undoubtedly find that some of it will rub off. Angela Smith
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18.   Realise there is inherent goodness in you

  • You do not become good by trying to be good, but by finding the goodness that is already within you.  Eckhart Tolle
  • Look within. Within is the fountain of good, and it will ever bubble up, if thou wilt ever dig.  Marcus Aurelius
  • Each person has inside a basic decency and goodness. If he listens to it and acts on it, he is giving a great deal of what it is the world needs most. It is not complicated but it takes courage. It takes courage for a person to listen to his own good.  Pablo Casals
  • When you learn to embrace yourself with a sense of appreciation and affection, you begin to glimpse the goodness and light that is in you and gradually you will realize that you are worthy of respect from yourself. When you recognize your limits, but still embrace your life with affection and graciousness, the sense of inner dignity begins to grow. You become freer and less dependent on the affirmation of outer voices and less troubled by the negativity of others.  John O’Donohue
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To truly love yourself, you must not just love your mind and your soul, but your body too

  • It’s also helpful to realize that this very body that we have, that’s sitting right here right now…with its aches and its pleasures…is exactly what we need to be fully human, fully awake, fully alive.  Pema Chodron
  • Do something every day that is loving toward your body and gives you the opportunity to enjoy the sensations of your body and live your life.  Golda Poretsk
  • You’ve got your body for life, you might as well learn to get along with it.  Sandy Kumskov
  • Peace, Love, Hope and Confidence are the ingredients to good body image.  Dr Vivian Mehan
  • Start living life fully now, in your present body, because waiting until you lose weight is a big old waste of time.  Linda Bacon
  • There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.  Steve Maraboli
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Final thoughts

  • I am the prism by which all is perceived. I need not change, make myself better or more beautiful – I have merely to behold myself as beautiful and it will be so. Wondrous, it is so. John Kehoe
  • Whatever you are doing, love yourself for doing it. Whatever you are feeling, love yourself for feeling it.  Thaddeus Golas
  • When we start out on a spiritual path we often have ideals we think we’re supposed to live up to. We feel we’re supposed to be better than we are in some way. But with this practice you take yourself completely as you are. Then ironically, taking in pain –  breathing it in for yourself and all others in the same boat as you are – heightens your awareness of exactly where you’re stuck. Pema Chodron
  • Mindful inquiry can heal low self-esteem, for the simple reason that a low self-estimation is really a wrong calculation, a misperception of reality. Jon Kabat-Zinn
  • Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.  Malcolm S. Forbes
  • Your light is seen, your heart is known, your soul is cherished by more people than you might imagine.  If you knew how many others have been touched in wonderful ways by you, you would be astonished.  If you knew how many people feel so much for you, you would be shocked.  You are far more wonderful than you think you are.  Rest with that. Rest easy with that. Breathe again. You are doing fine. More than fine. Better than fine. You’re doing great.  So relax. And love yourself today.  Neale Donald Walsch
  • The search for self-worth begins by finding what is indestructible inside, then letting it be.  Prudence Kohl
  • See yourself as a young child—sweet, vulnerable, precious—and extend this same attitude of loyalty, strength, and caring toward that little boy or girl.  You could get a picture of yourself as a kid and carry it in your wallet or purse, and look at it from time to time.  Rick Hanson
  • Dedicate yourself to the good you deserve and desire for yourself. Give yourself peace of mind. You deserve to be happy. You deserve delight.  Mark Victor Hansen
  • You either like me or you don’t. It took me twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don’t have that kinda time to convince somebody else.  Daniel Franzese
  • The way in which we think of ourselves has everything to do with how our world sees us. Arlene Raven
  • When you consider yourself valuable you will take care of yourself in all ways that are necessary.  M. Scott Peck
  • You’re imperfect, and you’re wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.  Brené Brown
  • Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to be gentle with others.  Lama Yeshe


  • I bask in the exquisite belief that I possess all of the physical and intellectual abilities I could ever need. My life flows naturally from a position of supreme confidence in myself and all of my God- given, natural abilities. I take risks and am capable of trying anything, content with whatever results ensue. I exude courage. I never compare myself to others or evaluate my abilities on the basis of what others do. I know that God doesn’t make mistakes, so whatever levels of personal strength and intellectual proficiency I possess are absolutely perfect. In short, I’m content, grateful for who I am and all that I’ve been given. Wayne Dyer
  • I am Honored that Spirit has chosen to create ME.  Jonathan Lockwood Huie
  • I celebrate both my uniqueness and my connection with all that is.  Jonathan Lockwood Huie
  • I love myself as I truly am – and live courageously.  Jonathan Lockwood Huie
  • I am somebody. I am me. I like being me. And I need nobody to make me somebody.  Louis L Amour

On a lighter note

  • Always remember that you are absolutely unique, just like everyone else. Margaret Mead
  • I’d like to have more self-esteem, but I don’t deserve it.
  • Oh lord, please make me into the man my dog thinks I am.
  • Appreciate me now and avoid the rush. Ashleigh Brilliant
  • How would you rate me on a scale of wonderful to marvellous? Ashleigh Brilliant
  • Why have I been singled out to be so ordinary? Ashleigh Brilliant
  • Never exaggerate your faults. Your friends will attend to that. Robert C. Edwards
  • I may not be totally perfect but parts of me are excellent. Ashleigh Brilliant