Negativity (quotes)


Negativity is an attitude that is not hopeful or enthusiastic


Our negativity bias


As humans, we have a negativity bias

  • Because of the brain’s negativity bias, we tend to fixate on what’s wrong with ourselves instead of what’s right. If you do twenty things in a day and nineteen go fine, what’s the one you think about? Probably the one that didn’t go so well. Rick Hanson
  • Because we have learned to believe negativity is more realistic, it appears more real than any positive voice.  Bell Hooks
  • In effect, the brain is like Velcro for negative experiences, but Teflon for positive ones. That shades implicit memory—your underlying feelings, expectations, beliefs, inclinations, and mood—in an increasingly negative direction. Rick Hanson
  • It takes far more courage to notice the positive than the negative. You’ve been conditioned by your culture and the mainstream media to focus on what could go wrong instead of what’s working well. What you pay attention to expands, so have the courage to remain positive whenever possible. Christiane Northrup
  • Scientists believe that your brain has a built-in negativity bias. This is because, as our ancestors dodged sticks and chased carrots over millions of years of evolution, the sticks had the greater urgency and impact on survival. Rick Hanson

We only have to watch the evening news to know this is true

  • The news is not the news. It is the bad news. It is deliberate shock. The more you accept it as the news, the more you believe that “that’s the way it is,” and the more fearful and cynical you will become. If we realized exactly how much vulgar, pessimistic, and manipulative negativity was deliberately packed into every daily newspaper and most television shows and Hollywood movies, we would resist the temptation to flood our brains with their garbage. Most of us are more particular about what we put in our automobile’s gas tank than we are about what we put in our own brain every night. We passively feed ourselves with stories about serial killers and violent crime without any conscious awareness of the choice we’re making. Steve Chandler

Most of us think thousands of negative thoughts a day

  • According to scientists, we have about 60,000 thoughts a day. That’ one thought per second during every waking hour. No wonder we’re so tired at the end of the day! And what’ even more startling is that of those 60,000 thoughts, 95 percent are the same thoughts you had yesterday, and the day before, and the day before that. Your mind is like a record player playing the same record over and over again…Talk about being stuck in a rut…Still, that wouldn’t be so bad if it weren’t for the next statistic: for the average person, 80 percent of those habitual thoughts are negative. That means that every day most people have more than 45,000 negative thoughts. Marci Shimoff

Negativity is a product of the ego

  • Thinking, or more precisely identification with thinking, gives rise to and maintains the ego, which, in our Western society in particular, is out of control. It believes it is real and tries hard to maintain its supremacy. Negative states of mind, such as anger, resentment, fear, envy, and jealousy, are products of the ego. Eckhart Tolle
  • All Negativity is Resistance. In this context, the two words are almost synonymous. Negativity ranges from irritation or impatience, to fierce anger, from a depressed mood or sullen resentment to suicidal despair. Sometimes the resistance triggers the emotional pain- body, in which case even a minor situation may produce intense negativity, such as anger, depression or deep grief. The ego believes that through negativity it can manipulate reality and get what it wants. Once you have identified with some form of negativity, You do not want to let it go and on some deep level, you do not want positive change. It would threaten your identity as a depressed, angry, or hard-done-by person. You will then ignore, deny, or sabotage the positive in your life. This is a common phenomenon. It is also insane. Eckhart Tolle
  • Transcending the ego

The price of negativity


Our negativity can make us deeply unhappy

  • We all engage in negative mental activity from time to time, and any isolated set of thoughts probably isn’t going to make much of a difference. The problem is when this type of thinking becomes a habit—so much so that we’re not even aware that we’re doing it. We simply go on practicing, practicing, and practicing some more. The question is, What are we practicing? The answer is unhappiness. Richard Carlson
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Negativity can also work strongly against us …

  • Leading behavioral researches have told us that as much as 75% of everything we think is negative, counter- productive and works against us. Shad Helmstetter

… for if we’re not careful, negativity can be a self-fulfilling prophecy

  • If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. Peace Pilgrim
  • There is a basic law that like attracts like. Negative thinking definitely attracts negative results. Conversely, if a person habitually thinks optimistically and hopefully, his positive thinking sets in motion creative forces – and success, instead of eluding him, flows toward him. Norman Vincent Peale
  • Thoughts of fear and poverty, and all negative thoughts serve as stimuli to your subconscious mind, unless you master these impulses and give it more desirable food upon which it may feed. Napoleon Hill
  • If you keep on saying things are going to be bad, you have a good chance of being a prophet. Isaac Bashevis Singer

Small leaks of negativity can sink a large ship

  • An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down unless you allow it to get inside you. Goi Nasu
  • Avoid destructive thinking. Improper negative thoughts sink people. A ship can sail around the world many, many times, but just let enough water get into the ship and it will sink. Just so with the human mind. Let enough negative thoughts or improper thoughts get into the human mind and the person sinks just like a ship. Alfred Montapert

How to transcend negativity


Negative thinking is a habit and a habit can be changed …

  • For many, negative thinking is a habit, which over time, becomes an addiction… A lot of people suffer from this disease because negative thinking is addictive to each of the Big Three – – the mind, the body, and the emotions. If one doesn’t get you, the others are waiting in the wings. Peter McWilliams
  • Habits of thinking need not be forever. One of the most significant findings in psychology in the last twenty years is that individuals can choose the way they think. Martin Seligman
  • Habit

… by learning not to pay so much attention to our negative thoughts …

  • Practice ignoring your negative thoughts. You can alalyze your negative thoughts – ponder, think through, study, think some more – or you can learn to ignore them –  dismiss, pay less attention to, not to take so seriously.  The latter option is infinitively more effective in terms of learning to be more peaceful.  Richard Carlson
  • If you were determined to get enjoyment out of every moment, you would learn to do whatever it took. What it takes is not listening to negative thoughts, yours or anyone else’s. Disregarding negative thoughts isn’t hiding our head in the sand, but simply not allowing the negative to clutter and influence over our experience of the present moment. The moment is never improved or helped by negativity, although we are programmed to think our negative thoughts, worries, and fears serve a useful function. When you really examine this idea, however, you see that negativity doesn’t serve. Focusing on negativity and fears doesn’t make anyone a better person, nor does doing that help us function better in the world. In fact, the truth is quite the opposite. Gina Lake
  • Learn to see negative thoughts as a form of mental static, and you can stop paying so much attention to them. Wayne Dyer
  • Learn to divert your attention away from negative thoughts. Postpone them to particular times in the day and set a time- limit.  Elly Prior
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… by guarding against negative thoughts and interrogating the ones that get through …

  • Be vigilant; guard your mind against negative thoughts. Buddha
  • I say “Out” to every negative thought that comes to my mind. No person, place, or thing has any power over me, for I am the only thinker in my mind. I create my own reality and everyone in it. Louise L. Hay
  • Look that negative thought squarely in the face and tell it to go; it does not belong to you, and you must know—and stick to it—that you are now free. Ernest Holmes
  • Don’t feed your mind with negative thoughts. If you do, you will come to believe them. Catherine Pulsifer
  • Never let a negative thought complete itself in your head. Wayne Dyer
  • Put every negative thought out of your mind once and for all. Ernest Holmes
  • Withdraw only positive thoughts from your memory bank. Let the others fade away. And your confidence, that feeling of being on top of the world, will zoom upward. You take a big step forward toward conquering your fear when you refuse to remember negative, self- deprecating thoughts. David J. Schwartz
  • Try giving up all the thoughts that make you feel bad, or even just some of them, and see how doing that changes your life. You don’t need negative thoughts. All they have ever given you was a false self that suffers. They are all lies. Gina Lake
  • A negative thought is there for you to scrutinize and to interrogate. How do you interrogate it? By asking, “How does this thought serve me?” The question isn’t whether a thought like “My life sucks” is irrational or unreasonable. The question is whether or not it serves you. That is the measure of any thought you think — does it serve you in your efforts to earn the experience of authenticity? Eric Maisel

… by turning negative thoughts into more positive thoughts …

  • Replace negative thoughts with more constructive ones. Neil Fiore
  • When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts—thoughts that negate your highest idea about a thing—think again! I want you to do this, literally. If you think you are in a doldrum, in a pickle, and no good can come of this, think again. If you think the world is a bad place, filled with negative events, think again. If you think your life is falling apart, and it looks as if you’ll never get it back together again, think again. Neale Donald Walsch
  • Positive anything is better than negative thinking. Elbert Hubbard
  • It has been proven now scientifically that, an affirmative thought is hundreds of times more powerful than a negative thought. Michael Beckwith
  • It takes but one positive thought when given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an entire army of negative thoughts. Robert H. Schuller
  • Depression puts a negative spin on everything, including the way you see yourself, the situations you encounter, and your expectations for the future. But you can’t break out of this pessimistic mind frame by “just thinking positive.” Happy thoughts or wishful thinking won’t cut it. Rather, the trick is to replace negative thoughts with more balanced thoughts.   Jeanne Segal
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a type of therapy which works to alter common patterns of negative thinking called cognitive distortions in order to eliminate depression. Numerous studies have shown that CBT is an effective treatment for both depression and anxiety. Nancy Schimelpfening

… by no longer feeding our mind with negative inputs

  • The only diet that does work is a mental diet—dieting from negative thoughts. Louise L. Hay
  • People tend to be generous when sharing their nonsense, fear, and ignorance. And while they seem quite eager to feed you their negativity, please remember that sometimes the diet we need to be on is a spiritual and emotional one. Be cautious with what you feed your mind and soul. Fuel yourself with positivity and let that fuel propel you into positive action. Steve Maraboli
  • Don’t feed your mind with negative thoughts. If you do, you will come to believe them. Catherine Pulsifer
  • Thoughts of fear and poverty, and all negative thoughts serve as stimuli to your subconscious mind, unless you master these impulses and give it more desirable food upon which it may feed. Napoleon Hill
  • Negativity can only feed on negativity. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Transcend negativity by letting go of the habit of worrying …

  • Worry is the darkroom in which negatives can develop. Wanda E. Brunstetter
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… by swapping negative expectations with positive expectations …

  • Fear is nothing more than a negative expectation. Think about it, when you’re afraid, what are you imagining? You’re imagining what could go wrong. If you want to get rid of the fear, you’ve got to swap your negative expectation for a positive one. It really is that simple. Brian Johnson
  • For every negative imagining (worry thought), practice positive pretending (imagining the most wonderful outcome). Marta Davidovich Ockuly
  • Fear is nothing more than a negative expectation. Think about it, when you’re afraid, what are you imagining? You’re imagining what could go wrong. If you want to get rid of the fear, you’ve got to swap your negative expectation for a positive one. It really is that simple. Brian Johnson
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… by writing down your negative thoughts and worries …

  • Write down your worries. Keep a pad and pencil on you, or type on a laptop, smartphone, or tablet. When you experience anxiety, write down your worries. Writing down is harder work than simply thinking them, so your negative thoughts are likely to disappear sooner. Robert Segal
  • Write down your negative thoughts, and then consider ways to reinterpret the situation. In the process, ask yourself questions like…What else could this situation or experience mean? Can anything good come from it? Does it present any opportunities for me? What lessons can I learn and apply to the future? Did I develop any strengths as a result? Sonja Lyubomirsky
  • Getting your fears down on paper is important, because trying to think them through never works. You get caught in endless loops of negativity that only lead you further down the rabbit hole and make your life miserable. Henri Junttila

… by creating fixed time periods to deal with worries

  • Learn to divert your attention away from negative thoughts. Postpone them to particular times in the day and set a time- limit.  Elly Prior
  • Create an anxiety worry period. Choose one or two 10 minute “worry periods” each day, time you can devote to anxiety. During your worry period, focus only on negative, anxious thoughts without trying to correct them. The rest of the day, however, is to be designated free of anxiety. When anxious thoughts come into your head during the day, write them down and “postpone” them to your worry period. Jeanne Segal

See each experience of negativity as an opportunity to challenge the lens through which you see the world …

  • Within each experience of pain or negativity is the opportunity to challenge the perception that lies behind it, the fear that lies behind it, and choose to learn with wisdom. The fear will not vanish immediately, but it will disintegrate as you work with courage. When fear ceases to scare you, it cannot stay. When you choose to learn through wisdom, to evolve consciously, your fears surface one at a time in order for you to exorcise them with inner faith. This is how it happens. You exorcise your own demons. Gary Zukav
  • If you see the world and yourself through a lens smudged by negativity then you’ll find much misery. If you look outwards and inwards through a lens brightened by positivity, you’ll find much to be happy and appreciative about. Henrik Edberg
  • No one can create negativity or stress within you. Only you can do that by virtue of how you process your world. Wayne Dyer
  • An obvious fact about negative feelings is often overlooked. They are caused by us, not by exterior happenings. An outside event presents the challenge, but we react to it. So we must attend to the way we take things, not to the things themselves. Vernon Howard
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… especially your attitudes …

  • The world is your mirror and your mind is a magnet. What you perceive is in this world is largely a reflection of your own attitudes and beliefs. Life will give you what you attract with your thoughts think, act and talk negatively and your world will be negative. Think and act and talk with enthusiasm and you will attract positive results. Michael LeBeuf
  • So many people fail to eliminate their problems because they attempt to solve them with the same mental attitude that created their problems in the first place. Negative thinking never gives birth to positive solutions and results. Edmond Mbiaka
  • The central method for achieving a happier life is to train your mind in a daily practice that weakens negative attitudes and strengthens positive ones. The Dalai Lama
  • There is nothing more detrimental to your ability to positively attract than a negative attitude toward yourself. Esther and Jerry Hicks
  • There is very little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative. W. Clement Stone
  • Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one. Dr. Hans Selye
  • Attitude

… and your beliefs

  • Creative power has to filter through our beliefs, attitudes, emotions, and habits. The more negative and constricted our beliefs and patterns are, the more they block the creative energy. Most people hope that by ignoring negativity, it will go away, but the reverse is actually true. Through recognizing, acknowledging, and experiencing it, the blocked energy can be released.  You are then free to replace it with positive beliefs and attitudes.  Shakti Gawain
  • Our negative thoughts are valuable messages to us about our deeper fears and negative attitudes. These usually are so basic to our thinking and feeling that we don’t realize they are beliefs at all.  We assume that they are simply “the way life is.”  We may be consciously affirming and visualizing prosperity, but if our unconscious belief is that we don’t deserve it, then we won’t create it. Once we become aware of our core negative beliefs, they begin to heal.  Shakti Gawain
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Transcend negativity by not allowing negative emotions to affect your life …

  • If we allow our negative emotions too much control over our lives, they can affect our choices, our happiness, and our motivation. Amanda Harvey

… by acknowledging and allowing yourself to feel negative emotion so it can flow through

  • Always be open to feel your negative emotions rather than repressing them, for only then can you free them
  • Any negative emotion that is not fully faced and seen for what it is in the moment it arises does not completely dissolve. It leaves behind a remnant of pain. … This energy field of old but still very- much- alive emotion that lives in almost every human being is the pain-body. Eckhart Tolle
  • Negative human emotions are not fun to have but ignoring them or denying them will not make them go away. Emotions need to be understood, accepted, and validated – much like naughty children. Only then can they begin to become happy and positive. Amanda Harvey
  • A very powerful way of being able to express and release negative emotions is through tears. Just as laughter allows us to express our joy, crying is a natural and healthy expression of pain and sorrow. Amanda Harvey
  • Being mindful with emotions

… by using your negative emotions for self-understanding and clarity

  • Anytime you feel negative emotion, stop and say: ‘Something is important here, otherwise I would not be feeling this negative emotion. What is it that I want?’ And then simply turn your attention to what you DO want. In the moment that you turn your attention to what you want, the negative attraction will stop, and in the moment the negative attraction stops, the positive attraction will begin. And in that moment, your feelings will change from not feeling good to feeling good. Abraham-  Hicks
  • A clear understanding of a negative emotion dismisses it. Vernon Howard
  • It is sometimes suggested that the root of almost every negative emotion is fear, and I believe that this holds some truth. Whatever other emotions we are feeling, if we keep looking deeper into our hearts, we will often discover underlying fears. Amanda Harvey
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Transcend negativity by becoming more of an optimist

  • An optimist isn’t someone that always thinks positively. That’s physiologically impossible! Rather, an optimist is someone who knows how to interrupt, intercept, and stop negative thoughts before they can be completed. They turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Vic Johnson
  • Optimism is about looking for the opportunities, lessons and positives in all situations, even if they appear negative at first. Graeme Myburgh
  • Unlike dieting, learned optimism is easy to maintain once you start. Once you get into the habit of disputing negative beliefs, your daily life will run much better, and you will feel much happier. Martin Seligman
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Transcend negativity by learning to love yourself

  • People who project negativity typically have low self-esteem. They feel badly about themselves, and their negativity is simply a reflection of those feelings. Hendrie Weisinger
  • When you learn to embrace yourself with a sense of appreciation and affection, you begin to glimpse the goodness and light that is in you and gradually you will realize that you are worthy of respect from yourself. When you recognize your limits, but still embrace your life with affection and graciousness, the sense of inner dignity begins to grow. You become freer and less dependent on the affirmation of outer voices and less troubled by the negativity of others. John O’Donohue
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Transcend negativity by being clear on what you want, then throwing out fear and doubt

  • You get your life to “take off” by first becoming very, very clear in your thinking. Think about what you want to be, do and have. Think about it often until you are very clear about this. Then when you are very clear, think about nothing else. Imagine no other possibilities. Throw all negative thoughts out. Release all your doubts. Reject all fears. Discipline your mind to hold fast to the original creative thought. When your thoughts are clear and steadfast, begin to speak them as truths. Say them out loud. Use the great command that calls forth creative power: I am. “I am” is the strongest creative statement in the universe. Whatever you think, whatever you say, after the words “I am” sets in motion those experiences, calls them forth, brings them to you. Neale Donald Walsch
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Transcend negativity by letting go of the need to judge

  • How would your life be different if you stopped making negative judgmental assumptions about people you encounter? Let today be the day you look for the good in everyone you meet and respect their journey. Steve Maraboli
  • Judgment is a negative frequency. Stephen Richards
  • Watch out for the joy-stealers: gossip, criticism, complaining, faultfinding, and a negative, judgmental attitude. Joyce Meyer
  • One always looking for flaws leaves too little time for construction. Lewis F. Korns
  • Let go of the need to judge

Transcend negativity by letting go of the need to complain

  • A complainer is like a Death Eater because there’s a suction of negative energy. Barbara Corcoran
  • Stop complaining. Any complaint is really the expression of a negative emotion or state. It gives the complainer a sense of immediate relief, even pleasure. This is perhaps the reason why it is such a common practice worldwide. Dr. Alejandro Junger
  • To complain is always non-acceptance of what is. It invariably caries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness. Eckhart Tolle
  • Negative people make lots of noise about how bad things are, while positive people quietly and steadily improve things. Marc and Angel Chernoff
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Transcend negativity by letting go of the need to gossip

  • Stay away from people who gossip and spread rumors. They are choosing the path of emotional bullying and negativity. Steve Maraboli
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Transcend negativity by finding a way to crash through

  • Quit thinking that you must halt before the barrier of inner negativity. You need not. You can crash through…whatever we see a negative state, that is where we can destroy it. Vernon Howard
  • We can be negative and cynical or we can be charged and hot-wired to find a way through it, over it, around it under it. Laura Schlessinger

Transcend negativity through laughter

  • The best way of removing negativity is to laugh and be joyous. David Icke
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Transcend negativity by being more present in the moment

  • Whenever you notice that some form of negativity has arisen within you, look on it not as a failure, but as a helpful signal that is telling you: “Wake up. Get out of your mind. Be present. Eckhart Tolle
  • All negativity is caused by denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry—all forms of fear—are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of non-forgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence. Eckhart Tolle
  • Live in the presentPresence

Transcend negativity through the practice of acceptance

  • Or is there something that you “should” be doing but are not doing it? Get up and do it now. Alternatively, completely accept your inactivity, laziness, or passivity at this moment, if that is your choice. Go into it fully. Enjoy it. Either way, there is no inner conflict, no resistance, no negativity. Eckhart Tolle
  • The pain that you create now is always some form of non-acceptance, some form of unconscious resistance to what is. On the level of thought, the resistance is some form of judgment. On the emotional level, it is some form of negativity. The intensity of the pain depends on the degree of resistance to the present moment, and this in turn depends on how strongly you are identified with your mind. Eckhart Tolle
  • When you catch yourself slipping into a pool of negativity, notice how it derives from nothing other than resistance to the current situation. Donna Quesada
  • To complain is always non-acceptance of what is. It invariably caries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness. Eckhart Tolle
  • You accept the “isness” of this moment. Then you take action and do all that you can to get out of the mud. Such action I call positive action. It is far more effective than negative action, which arises out of anger, despair, or frustration. Eckhart Tolle
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Transcend negativity through learning to breathe and relax

  • Negative thoughts do not need to be studied and analysed. Simply recognise that the reason you are feeling sad, angry, stressed or whatever is that you are sweating the small stuff. Instead of rolling up your sleeves and fighting back, back off, take a few deep breaths and relax. Richard Carlson
  • Do not jump into reaction mode at the first appearance of negative energy. Just breathe and relax. Neale Donald Walsch
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Transcend negativity through meditation

  • The way to silence is through meditation. When you arrive in your own silence, you will know true freedom and real power. Stop, take a minute, and listen to the silence within you today. Then be aware of what disturbs you inner silence. It could be negative thought, memories or sensations. And when you are aware, you will know what is draining your creative power, and you will know what needs to change…. on the inside. Karen Beacon
  • Instead of using meditation a way to get rid of negative feelings, consider it a way to feel whatever you are feeling more fully and more freely. Martin Boroson
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Transcend negativity through mindfulness

  • Experiencing pain can often trigger unhelpful and negative thoughts… “This is never going to end,” “This is just going to get worse,” or “I can’t bear this.” In turn, these thoughts lead to anxiety, depression or anger, because we tend to believe the stories we think when we are unmindful, and this further adds to our suffering. The practice of Mindfulness includes becoming aware of our thoughts and seeing that our thoughts are indeed just thoughts and are not facts.  This can be quite a liberating discovery.  Richard Hanson
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Transcend negativity through reflection

  • Introspection enables one to be free from the influence of negativity. Introspection means the desire to be good. Introspection brings the ability to look within and see the true self in the mirror of the heart, thus enabling one to activate the inner spirituality.  Then all effort made will be towards activating this inherent goodness.  And slowly one finds that the behaviour associated with negative traits are no more expressed, as they begin to lose their hold. When I am able to introspect and look within, I can find the goodness that is there within me. Because of this, I naturally am free from expectations from others that they should recognise my goodness or consider me good.  Instead I find myself content with what I am and continue to bring out the best from within me. I continue to learn from all situations and experience progress.  Brahma Kumaris
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Transcend negativity through a connection to God and your soul

  • That experience showed me that I – from moment to moment – am the only person in control of my connection to God. It’s not that God is deciding to connect with me, depending on whether I had a good day, or did good or bad deeds.  It’s all up to me.  God, the awareness of God, the love of God, the blessings of God – that lively ecstasy – is always there.  It’s me who separates from God by judging, by indulging in negativity, by criticizing myself, as well as others.  Barbara De Angelis
  • What we focus on, we empower and enlarge. Good multiplies when focused upon. Negativity multiplies when focused upon. The choice is ours: Which do we want more of? Julia Cameron
  • It’s the simplest properties that will help you clear yourself of negativity … The profound power of a simple prayer. The strength of a deep breath. The gentle guidance of good music. Jeffrey Wands
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Transcend negativity though a deep connection to others

  • When we become isolated, we are prone to being damaged; our minds lose their flexibility and natural kindness; we become vulnerable to fear and negativity. The sense of belonging keeps you in balance amidst the inner and outer immensities. The ancient and eternal values of human life – truth, unity, goodness, justice, beauty, and love are all statements of belonging; they are also the secret intention and dream of human longing. John O’Donohue
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Transcend negativity through forgiveness

  • Forgive the past. It is over. Learn from it and let go. People are constantly changing and growing. Do not cling to a limited, disconnected, negative image of a person in the past. See that person now. Your relationship is always alive and changing. Brian L. Weiss
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Transcend negativity through positive self-talk …

  • Brain wave tests prove that when we use positive words, our “feel good” hormones flow. Positive self-talk releases endorphins and serotonin in our brain, which then flow throughout our body, making us feel good. These neurotransmitters stop flowing when we use negative words. Ruth Fishel
  • Nobody can motivate himself in a positive direction by continually using negative words. John C. Maxwell
  • Affirmations (self-talk)

… through the practice of positive affirmations and mantras

  • You are being programmed all day, every day. You can’t stop it, but you can determine if the programming is positive or negative. Randy Gage
  • Negative beliefs cannot simply be erased, they need to be replaced. Try taking one thought that you frequently have and that you know is making you unhappy or discouraged. Create an affirmation to reframe that thought into a positive and powerful phrase.  Amanda Harvey
  • Affirmations help increase negative self-talk awareness! Che Garman
  • Affirm your desires as often as possible. You can’t reprogram a lifetime’s worth of negative self-talk by saying affirmations twice a day. Che Garman
  • The definition of mantra is “that which protects the mind.” That which protects the mind from negativity, or that which protects you from your own mind, is called mantra. Sogyal Rinpoche

Transcend negativity by learning to see the positive, even in the seemingly negative

  • People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong. Why not try and see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom?  Thich Nhat Hanh
  • Negativity sucks away energy. If part of the negativity stems from your attitude or perspective, commit yourself at the beginning of each day and each activity to find something positive in yourself and in others around you. If the people around you are negative and you can’t change that, either remove yourself from the situation or view it simply as one obstacle you face in pursuing your own potential. Stay focused on your own goals and make the best of the situation. Terry Orlick

Be aware that seemingly negative events and situations often contain great gifts

  • Some changes look negative on the surface, but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge. Eckhart Tolle
  • Then, when looking back at your life, you will see that the moments which seemed to be great failures followed by wreckage were the incidents that shaped the life you have now. You’ll see that this is really true. Nothing can happen to you that is not positive. Even though it looks and feels at the moment like a negative crisis, it is not. The crisis throws you back, and when you are required to exhibit strength, it comes. Joseph Campbell
  • Whenever anything negative happens to you, there is a deep lesson concealed.
  • Nothing can happen to you that is not positive. Even though it looks and feels at the moment like a negative crisis, it is not. Joseph Campbell
  • After a negative event put things in perspective by remembering that every difficulty carries within it the seeds of an equal or greater benefit. When faced with adversity, ask yourself the following questions: What’s good about this? What can I learn from this? How can I benefit from this?  Is there something about this situation that I can be grateful for? Marelisa Fabrega

Find gratitude in the negative, for without it the positive wouldn’t be possible

  • Who says you need to feel positive all of the time? It’s completely ok to feel sad. See if you can find gratitude in your sadness. If it wasn’t for winter who would enjoy summer? If it wasn’t for ‘yucky’ work, we wouldn’t enjoy ‘fun’ work’? If it wasn’t for ‘bad relationships’ how would you know when you find a ‘great relationship’?. Find gratitude in the negative. Maybe even celebrate it because the positive wouldn’t be possible without the negative. Andrew Roberts
  • You define a good flight by negatives: you didn’t get hijacked, you didn’t crash, you didn’t throw up, you weren’t late, you weren’t nauseated by the food. So you’re grateful. Paul Theroux

Be aware that …


Be aware that not all pain is negative

  • Not all pain is negative, even though we label all forms of pain as such and resist them. Positive-negativity is a circumstance that causes us to go deeper, to search ourselves, to stop placing blame on the causes of suffering outside ourselves and take self- responsibility. Michael Beckwith
  • Pain

Be aware that detecting negativity can be a positive first step on the journey to growth

  • Encourage yourself by remembering that any detection of negativity within you is a positive act, not a negative one. Awareness of your weakness and confusion makes you strong because conscious awareness is the bright light that destroys the darkness of negativity. Honest self- observation dissolves pains and pressures that formerly did their dreadful work in the darkness of unawareness. Vernon Howard
  • Detection of inner negativity is not a negative act, but a courageously positive act that makes you a new person. Vernon Howard
  • Whenever you notice that some form of negativity has arisen within you, look on it not as a failure, but as a helpful signal that is telling you: “Wake up. Get out of your mind. Be present.” Eckhart Tolle
  • When we are aware of our weaknesses or negative tendencies, we open the opportunity to work on them. Allan Lokos
  • Growth

Be aware that you can’t fight negativity with negativity

  • If you attack negativity with negativity, you merely feed and inflame the source. It’s always best to take the positive in any conflict. If you genuinely love or at least send kind thoughts to a thing, it will change before your eyes. John and Lyn St Clair Thomas
  • What you resist always persists. This is because by resisting something you are directing negative energy to that object. Simona Rich
  • What you resist, persists. If you are resisting something, you are feeding it.  Any energy you actively fight, you are feeding.  If you are using negative energy to push something away, you are inviting it to stay.  Marc and Angel Chernoff

Be aware that the negativity of others can be very contagious

  • Energy is contagious: either you affect people or you infect people… I believe negative thinking is like having measles of the mind. Instead of scratching, you get bashing; instead of irritation, you get frustration. Now, do you really want to be close to people like that? T. Harv Eker
  • A well-established social psychological law is the law of emotional contagion: an emotion expressed within a group has a ripple effect and becomes shared by the group’s members. People are susceptible to “catching” other people’s emotions. Robert Emmons
  • People inspire you, or they drain you. Pick wisely. Hans F Hansen
  • Others’ attitudes rub off on us, and it’s impossible to maintain an upbeat, affirmative attitude if you are constantly around people who are the opposite. David L Preston
  • It is a pathetic moment in the history of the human condition when the outside world tells us who and what we are – and we start to believe it ourselves. Then, bent over from the weight of the negativity, we start to wither on the outside.  Joan Chittister
  • Low consciousness people hold you back from reaching greater heights. These include energy vampires, critical people, dishonest characters, and people with temperament issues. Let them go from your life and send them love as you do that. Celestine Chua
  • Negativity can only feed on negativity. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
  • Sensitive souls draw in the negativity of others because they are so open. John Gray

The negativity of others


Don’t allow yourself to be affected by the negativity of others

  • Don’t let anyone’s ignorance, drama, or negativity stop you from being the best you can be. Marc and Angel Chernoff
  • Don’t let the negativity given to you by the world disempower you. Instead give to yourself that which empowers you. Les Brown
  • Haters never win. I just think that’s true about life, because negative energy always costs in the end. Tom Hiddleston
  • Ignore the negative rhetoric echoing from the peanut gallery. Marc and Angel Chernoff
  • Negative people have an endless supply of pity party invitations. Don’t RSVP.  Marc and Angel Chernoff
  • Are you a SNIOP? Someone who is Sensitive to the Negative Influence Of Others? Zig Ziglar
  • Ignore people who tell you ‘you can’t’ or try to discourage you. Jeffrey Gitomer
  • I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet. Mahatma Gandhi
  • Don’t walk in my head with your dirty feet. Leo Buscaglia
  • Without doubt, the most common weakness of all human beings is the habit of leaving their minds open to the negative influence of other people. Napoleon Hill
  • Surround yourself with positive people

Don’t take the negativity of others personally

  • Don’t take other people’s negativity personally. Most negative people behave negatively not just to you, but to everyone they interact with.  What they say and do is a projection of their own reality – their own attitude.  Even when a situation seems personal – even if someone insults you directly – it oftentimes has nothing to do with you.  Remember, what others say and do, and the opinions they have, are based entirely on their own self- reflection.  Marc and Angel Chernoff
  • It is easier to avoid the effects of others’ negativity when we question if an action or attitude is appropriately directed at us. If it isn’t, we can choose to sidestep it and let it pass. Sue Patton Theole
  • There is an awful lot of negative energy out there and some of it is directed at us by other people. But other people’s reactions and opinions are simply other people’s reactions and opinions. They are having their own experience and none of it has anything to do with you – it does not make you wrong, guilty, bad, unworthy, famous, loveable, or important. If you take it personally and take on the poison of another’s words, it becomes a very negative agreement you have with yourself. What anybody thinks about you, or says about you, is really about them. Not taking it personally allows you to be in relationship with anyone and not get trapped in their stuff. This agreement can also pertain to things that we take personally that cause us to go into upset. Don Miguel Ruiz
  • Don’t take things personally

Don’t hang around negative people

  • You don’t have to hang around negative people, you know? They are there to teach you that. Let them go and say good bye. Henri Junttila
  • Delete the energy vampires from your life – those people who suck your energy versus elevate it. Robin Sharma
  • Letting go of negative people doesn’t mean you hate them, it just means that you care about your own wellbeing. Every time you subtract negative from your life, you make room for more positive.  Marc and Angel Chernoff
  • Negative people have an endless supply of pity party invitations. Don’t RSVP.  Marc and Angel Chernoff