Non-attachment (quotes)


What is letting go of attachment?


Letting go of attachment means ending your dependency on something

  • Breaking attachments leads to freedom, but breaking attachments does not mean abandoning a loving and meaningful relationship, a relationship that nourishes your soul. It means ending dependency on any person or thing. Love is never a dependency. Brian L. Weiss
  • Learn to love all the things of the world, just as means but don’t get attached to them. This is the secret—the philosophy of non-attachment.  Swami Rama
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Letting go of an attachment means no longer getting your sense of identity from something external to you

  • How do you let go of attachment to things? Don’t even try. It’s impossible. Attachment to things drops away by itself when you no longer seek to find yourself in them. Eckhhart Tolle

The price of attachment


Don’t make your happiness dependent on an attachment

  • Enjoy everything in your life, but never make your happiness or success dependent on an attachment to any person, place or thing. Wayne Dyer
  • Don’t let your happiness depend on something you may lose. S. Lewis
  • You can have anything you wish in your life, but if your sense of self-worth or your happiness depends on it, then you are attached to it. Whoever or whatever you are attached to can manipulate you. You are no longer free. Michelle Mayur
  • What you usually call your happiness is actually your chain: Your job, your home, your possessions… Anthony de Mello
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Attachment causes suffering because nothing in life is permanent

  • Attachment only causes anguish in the long run because nothing is permanent in this world. Don’t mourn over the loss of something. Be happy that it happened instead. Celestine Chua
  • Most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for and attachment to things that we misapprehend as enduring entities. The Dalai Lama
  • The more you cling to things, the more you love them, the more the pain you suffer, when they’re taken from you… Stephen Joshua Sondheim
  • The wise are so totally detached, pain is for those who are attached. K.Misra
  • All of our miseries are nothing but attachment. Our whole ignorance and darkness is a strange combination of a thousand and one attachments. And we are attached to things which will be taken away by the time of death, or even perhaps before. You may be very much attached to money, but you can go bankrupt tomorrow. You may be very much attached to your power and position… but they are like soap bubbles. Today they are here, tomorrow not even a trace will be left.  Osho
  • Be aware of the ephemeral nature of material things. Lose your attachment to them. Shui-ch’ing Tzu
  • Life is not suffering; it’s just that you will suffer it, rather than enjoy it, until you let go of your mind’s attachments and just go for the ride freely, no matter what happens. Dan Millman
  • Letting go is the lesson. Letting go is always the lesson. Have you ever noticed how much of our agony is all tied up with craving and loss? Susan Gordon Lydon
  • The Buddha said that suffering is not inherent in the world of impermanence; suffering arises when we cling. When clinging disappears, impermanence no longer gives rise to suffering. The solution to suffering, then, is to end clinging, not to try to escape from the transient world. Gil Fronsdal
  • If you realize that all things change, there is nothing you will try to hold on to. Lao Tzu
  • Misery is nothing but the shadow of attachment. And hence all stagnancy. The attached person becomes a stagnant pool — sooner or later he will stink. He flows no more.  Osho
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Attachment stops us from attaining true stillness and awareness

  • Attachment is the food for the mind to continue. Non-attached witnessing is the way to stop it without any effort to stop it. And when you start enjoying those blissful moments, your capacity to retain them for longer periods arises. Osho
  • Being attached is what prevents us from seeing, it is what clouds this miraculous awareness. Geoffrey Shugen Arnold
  • Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be attained only by someone who is detached. Simone Weil
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Letting go of attachment


Anything that can be lost is not truly yours to start with so consider it a temporary loan

  • In spiritual life there is no room for compromise. Awakening is not negotiable; we cannot bargain to hold on to things that please us while relinquishing things that do not matter to us. A lukewarm yearning for awakening is not enough to sustain us through the difficulties involved in letting go. It is important to understand that anything that can be lost was never truly ours, anything that we deeply cling to only imprisons us. Jack Kornfield
  • To live a pure unselfish life, one must count nothing as one’s own in the midst of abundance. Buddha
  • Anyone who has lost something they thought was theirs forever finally comes to realise that nothing really belongs to them. Paulo Coelho

Detachment means letting go

  • Detachment means letting go and non-attachment means simply letting be. Stephen Levine
  • Let go of your attachments: your attachment to being right, to having total control, or to living forever. This process of letting go is integral to the process of becoming whole. Judith Hanson Lasater
  • Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go. Herman Hesse
  • Let your greatest possession be the ability to let go of any possession, joyfully. Bryant McGill
  • Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose. Yoda
  • To have,–to hold,–and,–in time,–let go! Laurence Hope
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Let go of your attachment to expected results…

  • Desire and intent are different. Desire has attachment. Intent does not. It’s imperative that we harness the power of our pure intention— independent of the outcomes of our actions. Deepak Chopra
  • The Law of Detachment says that in order to acquire anything in the physical universe, you have to relinquish your attachment to it. This doesn’t mean that you give up the intention to create your desire. You don’t give up the intention, and you don’t give up the desire. You give up your attachment to the result. Deepak Chopra
  • To rid yourself of excuses, you must learn to practice contemplating what you intend to manifest and simultaneously detach from the outcome. Wayne Dyer
  • Intentions are a form of desire. Desire per se is not the root of suffering; craving is. The key is to have wholesome intentions without being attached to their results. Rick Hanson
  • I embrace desires but I am not bound by them, I’m not attached to them. I can have a desire, and drop the desire if it’s not fulfilled… I don’t get stuck anywhere. Zen Master Genpo Roshi
  • Learn the magic of nonattachment. Nonattachment means: “I’ll do everything possible, I’ll put the odds in my favor, I’ll work hard and concentrate. I’ll do my best to succeed. But, if I don’t, that’s okay, too.” Richard Carlson
  • The moment you relinquish your attachment to the result, combining one-pointed intention with detachment at the same time, you will have that which you desire. Deepak Chopra
  • Become detached from the outcome of your actions and paradoxically your level of performance will climb. Wayne Dyer
  • Always perform your duty efficiently and without attachment to the results, because by doing work without attachment one attains the Supreme. Bhagavad Gita
  • But better still is surrender of attachment to results (of one’s actions), because there follows immediate peace. Bhagavad Gita
  • When you begin your transcendental training, focusing your best efforts, without attachment to outcomes, you will understand the peaceful warrior’s way. Dan Millman
  • You go from reacting to observing. There is an emotional disconnection that must take place; non- attachment. This doesn’t mean not feeling anything, but being okay with whatever outcome manifests. Swami Premodaya
  • Loving, hating, having expectations: all these are attachments. Attachment prevents the growth of one’s true being. Lao Tzu
  • Abandon all attachment to the results of action and attain supreme peace. Krishna from The Bhagavad Gita
  • An example of a paradox: Have intentions for the future but be free from any attachment to a particular future. This includes being free and unattached to producing results. It is a Purposeful Paradox to remain committed to certain results and outcomes, while at the same time remaining unattached. Brad Swift
  • Practice allowing. Release all emotional desperation and attachment to your goals. Tess Marshall
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… for this allows you live in the present

  • Relinquish your attachment to the outcome. This means giving up your rigid attachment to a specific result and living in the wisdom of uncertainty. It means enjoying every moment in the journey of your life, even if you don’t know the outcome. Deepak Chopra
  • Intention combined with detachment leads to life centered, present- moment awareness. My intent is for the future, but my attention is in the present. I accept the present and intend the future. I let go of my attachment to outcome. I enjoy every moment in the journey of life. Deepak Chopra
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Let go of your attachment to how you think things should be

  • When things don’t seem to go my way, I let go of my attachment to how I think they should be, trusting that I am not seeing the big picture. If I knew the big picture, I would understand that there is a reason for things unfolding the way they are, and that the cosmos has a plan for me much grander than anything I have conceived. Deepak Chopra

Let go of being overly attached to what you desire

  • If thou wilt make a man happy, add not unto his riches but take away from his desires. Epicurus
  • The secret of happiness is to admire without desiring. Carl Sandburg
  • I have learned to seek my happiness by limiting my desires, rather than in attempting to satisfy them. John Stuart Mill
  • I see nothing wrong with the human trait to desire. In fact, I consider it integral to our success mechanism. Becoming attached to what we desire is what causes the trouble. If you must have it in order to be happy, then you are denying the happiness of the here and now. Peter McWilliams
  • If men could regard the events of their own lives with more open minds, they would frequently discover that they did not really desire the things they failed to obtain. André Maurois
  • Desire and fear walk hand in hand. Katie Davis
  • You can have anything you want, providing you first let go of wanting it. Lester Levinson
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Let go of grasping and hanging onto things

  • You only lose what you cling to. Buddha
  • The bird of paradise alights only upon the hand that does not grasp. John Berry
  • He who grasps, lets slip. Lao Tzu
  • Don’t hang onto anything too tightly – all things must change and you have to allow room for them to grow and blossom. Rachael Bermingham
  • One means of reducing clinging is to see the transient nature of what we cling to. This insight can either show us the futility of trying to find lasting happiness in what is impermanent, or it can encourage us to examine deeply why we cling. Gil Fronsdal
  • When a thing becomes indispensable, it’s time to give it up. Marty Rubin

Let go of all attachment to things you have no control over

  • The reason many people in our society are miserable, sick, and highly stressed is because of an unhealthy attachment to things they have no control over. Steve Maraboli
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Let go of attachments that deplete your energy


Let go of over-attachment to pleasure for this can lead to addiction and pain

  • Contrary to what some people might believe, there is nothing wrong with having pleasures and enjoyments. What is wrong is the confused way we grasp onto these pleasures, turning them from a source of happiness into a source of pain and dissatisfaction. Lama Yeshe
  • There is no such thing as pure pleasure; some anxiety always goes with it. Ovid
  • We can often endure an extra pound of pain far more easily than we can suffer the withdrawal of an ounce of accustomed pleasure.  Sydney J. Harris
  • Throw moderation to the winds, and the greatest pleasures bring the greatest pains. Democritus
  • So called pleasures, when they go beyond a certain limit, are but punishments. Seneca
  • When will pleasure crash with regret? Terri Guillemets
  • For some, pleasure is a fever they can’t shake… Terri Guillemets
  • Man will endure a lot of pain to obtain a little pleasure.
  • From such a gentle thing, from such a fountain of all delight, my every pain is born. Michelangelo
  • An over-indulgence of anything, even something as pure as water, can intoxicate. Criss Jami
  • Pleasure that is obtained by unreasonable and unsuitable cost, must always end in pain. Samuel Johnson
  • There is something self-defeating in the too-conscious pursuit of pleasure. Max Eastman
  • In diving to the bottom of pleasure we bring up more gravel than pearls. Honore de Balzac
  • Every pleasure or emotional high contains within itself the seed of pain: it’s inseparable opposite, which will manifest in time. Eckhart Tolle
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Let go of your attachment to the past

  • Renew, release, let go. Yesterday’s gone. There’s nothing you can do to bring it back. You can’t “should’ve” done something. You can only DO something. Renew yourself. Release that attachment. Today is a new day!  Steve Maraboli
  • A person who lives moment to moment, who goes on dying to the past, is never attached to anything. Attachment comes from the accumulated past. If you can be unattached to the past every moment, then you are always fresh, young, just born. You pulsate with life and that pulsation gives you immortality. You are immortal, only unaware of the fact. Osho
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Let go of your attachment to your perceived needs

  • Needing leads to bleeding–to almost all inevitable suffering. Albert Ellis
  • You never truly need what you want. That is the main and thoroughgoing key to serenity. Albert Ellis
  • The secret self knows the anguish of our attachments and assures us that letting go of what we think we must have to be happy is the same as letting go of our unhappiness. Guy
  • You need much less than you think you need to be happy, and you usually have a lot more than you think you have. Marc and Angel Chernoff
  • All I have is all I need and all I need is all I have in this moment. Byron Katie
  • It is a tremendous fact that all you need is already within you. Wallace D. Wattles
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Let go of your attachment to your thoughts and rigid beliefs

  • Attachment to beliefs and ideologies have led to global war, famine, political, social and economic upheavals, destruction of our habitat and general dysfunction on all levels of society because they divide us from each other. Clair
  • A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years. Byron Katie
  • Sometimes we find that we like our thoughts so much that we don’t want to let them go. Pema Chodron
  • We don’t attach to people or to things; we attach to uninvestigated concepts that we believe to be true in the moment. Byron Katie
  • With the ending of ignorance and the arising of knowledge he clings neither to sense-pleasures, nor does he cling to views, nor to precepts and vows, nor to a Self-doctrine.  Buddha
  • Most of the world’s religions serve only to strengthen attachments to false concepts such as self and other, life and death, heaven and earth, and so on. Those who become entangled in these false ideas are prevented from perceiving the Integral Oneness. Lao Tzu
  • It is not our thoughts that cause problems, but our attachments to them. Eckhart Tolle
  • Attachment to views is the greatest impediment to the spiritual path. Bound to narrow views, one becomes so entangled that it is no longer possible to let the door of truth open.  Thich Nhat Hanh
  • The ego’s voice becomes impersonal, something in the landscape that has no more personal relevance than a bird’s song or the temperature of the room. We still experience it, but we don’t experience it as our voice, and we are no longer compelled to follow it or express it. Once we gain some detachment from the ego’s voice, it’s possible to experience the Experiencer, the true self. Gina Lake
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Let go of attachment to your opinions

  • Attachment to views is the greatest impediment to the spiritual path. Thich Nhat Hanh
  • Don’t seek the truth. Just cease to cherish opinions. Zen saying
  • The greatest obstacle to discovery is not ignorance – it is the illusion of knowledge. Daniel Boorstin
  • The truth you believe and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new. Pema Chodrun
  • Why is it that so few people are truly free? Because they try to conform to ideas, concepts, and beliefs in their heads. They try to concentrate their way to heaven. But freedom is about the natural state, the spontaneous and un-self- conscious expression of beingness. If you want to find it, see that the very idea of “a someone who is in control” is a concept created by the mind. Take one step backward into the unknown. Adyashanti
  • To expound and propogate concepts is simple, to drop all concepts is difficult and rare. Nisargadatta Maharaj
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Let go of your attachment to being right

  • Let go of your attachment to being right, and suddenly your mind is more open. You’re able to benefit from the unique viewpoints of others, without being crippled by your own judgment. Ralph Marston
  • Attachment to being right creates suffering. When you have a choice to be right, or to be kind, choose kind and watch your suffering disappear. Wayne Dyer
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Let go of your attachment to having things be other than what they are right now

  • Every moment of mindfulness renounces the reflexive, self-protecting response of the mind in favor of clear and balanced understanding. In the light of the wisdom that comes from balanced understanding, attachment to having things be other than what they ar falls away. Sylvia Boorstein

Let go of attachment in relationships

  • Non-attachment does not mean indifference or non-loving. Non-attachment and love are one and the same. Non- attachment gives freedom, but attachment brings bondage. Swami Rama
  • Even when the relationship is a good one, love can be spoiled by attachment with its insecurity, possessiveness, and pride; and then when love is gone, all you have left to show for it are the “souvenirs” of love, the scars of attachment. Sogyal Rinpoche
  • Eliminate dependency. I may want but I do not need. I am the sunshine of my life and having you in it makes it even brighter. Wayne Dyer
  • People need each other and think it is love. There’s no hanging on to, or fencing in, of the other one when one loves. Lester Levensen
  • Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling. Anthony de Mello
  • What is commonly called “falling in love” is in most cases an intensification of egoic wanting and needing. You become addicted to another person, or rather to your image of that person. It has nothing to do with true love, which contains no wanting whatsoever. Eckhart Tolle
  • Love lets go. Need holds on. This is the way you can tell the difference between need and love. Let go of expectation, let go of requirements and rules and regulations that you would impose on your loved ones. Neale Donald Walsch
  • The purpose of a relationship is not to have another who might complete you; but to have another with whom you might share your completeness. Neale Donald Walsch
  • We must be our own before we can be another’s. Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.   Jackson Brown Jr.
  • Love without attachment is light. Norman O. Brown
  • If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to the rest of his fellow men, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism. Erich Fromm
  • Love is when I am concerned with your relationship with your own life, rather than with your relationship to mine. . . . there must be a commitment to each other’s well-being. Most people who say they have a commitment don’t; they have an attachment.  Commitment means, “I am going to stick with you and support your experience of well-being.”  Attachment means, “I am stuck without you.”  Stewart Emery
  • The next core problem is the difficulty of letting go of emotional love – not because of the love itself but because of the attachment to that which is loved. We think that the loss of a love object brings grief, but actually, the grief is about the loss of the attachment itself, which is due to viewing the object of love as the source of happiness. David R. Hawkins
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Let go of attachment to possessions and financial wealth

  • Softly and kindly remind yourself, ”I cannot own anything.” It is a valuable thought to keep in mind as you struggle to improve your financial picture, worry about investments, and plan how to acquire more and more.  It is a universal principle which you are part of.  You must release everything when you truly awaken.  Are you letting your life go by in frustration and worry over not having enough?  If so, relax and remember that you only get what you have for a short period of time.  When you awaken you will see the folly of being attached to anything.  Wayne Dyer
  • To live a pure unselfish life, one must count nothing as one’s own in the midst of abundance. Buddha
  • Anyone who has lost something they thought was theirs forever finally comes to realise that nothing really belongs to them. Paulo Coelho
  • Once you become detached from things, they don’t own you any longer. Wayne Dyer
  • Material objects are just tools to help you enjoy your life. You do not carry them with you when you die. So, don’t invest yourself in them. Rather, invest yourself in the development of your consciousness. Celestine Chua
  • Prosperity in the form of wealth works exactly the same as everything else. You will see it coming into your life when you are unattached to needing it. Wayne Dyer
  • People exaggerate the value of things they haven’t got. George Bernard Shaw
  • Don’t let your possessions possess you. Jackson Brown Jr.
  • Everything we possess that is not necessary for life or happiness becomes a burden, and scarcely a day passes that we do not add to it. Robert Brault
  • The more things you own, the more they own you.
  • It is preoccupation with possessions, more than anything else, that prevents us from living freely and nobly. Bertrand Russell
  • The things you used to own, now they own you. Chuck Palahniuk
  • Anything that is given can be at once taken away. We have to learn never to expect anything, and when it comes it’s no more than a gift on loan. John McGahern
  • Pray to God that your attachment to such transitory things as wealth, name, and creature comforts may become less and less every day. Ramakrishna
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Let go of attachment and identification with the body

  • Much is being missed because of fear. We are too attached to the body and we go on creating more and more fear because of that attachment. The body is going to die, the body is part of death, the body is death — but you are beyond the body. You are not the body; you are the bodiless. Remember it. Realize it. Awaken yourself to this truth — that you are beyond the body. You are the witness, the seer. Osho
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Let go of attachment to the known

  • The search for certainty and security is an attachment to the known. The known is the past. There is no evolution in that. Uncertainty on the other hand is the fertile ground of pure creativity and freedom. I relinquish my attachment to the known and step into the field of all possibilities. Deepak Chopra
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Let go of attachment to self-judgement and guilt

  • Our attachment to judgment, rather than making us more responsible and accountable to our thoughts, feelings and actions, makes us less so because it is an obstacle to authenticity. Clearing away the veil of guilt allows us to be more connected to what it is that we are experiencing, our thoughts and our actions in light of that experience and, thus, to be more present with our experience, our emotions and ourselves. Michael J. Formica
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Let go of attachment to tranquility

  • You might be tempted to avoid the messiness of daily living for the tranquility of stillness and peacefulness. This of course would be an attachment to stillness, and like any strong attachment, it leads to delusion. It arrests development and short-circuits the cultivation of wisdom. Jon Kabat-Zinn
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Let go of attachment through witnessing the mind

  • All cravings are the mind seeking salvation or fulfillment in external things and in the future as a substitute for being. As long as I am my mind, I am those cravings, those needs, wants, attachments, and aversions… Don’t seek to become free of desire or “achieve” enlightenment.  Become present.  Be there as the observer of the mind.  Eckhart Tolle
  • Attachment is the food for the mind to continue. Non-attached witnessing is the way to stop it without any effort to stop it. And when you start enjoying those blissful moments, your capacity to retain them for longer periods arises. Osho
  • Every moment of mindfulness renounces the reflexive, self-protecting response of the mind in favor of clear and balanced understanding. In the light of the wisdom that comes from balanced understanding, attachment to having things be other than what they are falls away. Sylvia Boorstein

Let go of attachment through giving

  • Practice giving things away, not just things you don’t care about, but things you do like. Remember, it is not the size of a gift, it is its quality and the amount of mental attachment you overcome that count.  So don’t bankrupt yourself on a momentary positive impulse, only to regret it later.  Give thought to giving.  Give small things, carefully, and observe the mental processes going along with the act of releasing the little thing you liked. Robert A.F. Thurman
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Let go of attachment daily

  • Each day, accept everything that comes to you as a gift. At night, mentally give it all back. In this way, you become free. Daniel Levin

The rewards of non-attachment


Letting go of attachments brings happiness

  • The secret of happiness lies in the mind’s release from worldly ties. Buddha
  • Enjoy everything in your life, but never make your happiness or success dependent on an attachment to any person, place or thing. Wayne Dyer
  • The secret of happiness is simply this… your happiness does not depend on getting what you want. Michael Neill
  • You must choose between your attachments and happiness. Adyashanti
  • Happiness never comes from the outside. Only when you are not depending on anything from the outside for your happiness are you totally independent. Sri Swami Satchidananda
  • Happiness is living without expectations. Peter Cajander
  • Most cultures understand happiness to mean, ‘You get what you want so you are happy!’ But that’s not happiness. That’s a thrill… that’s getting what you want. But thrills, fun and pleasure are NOT happiness. What are they? They’re thrills, they’re fun, they’re pleasure…they are not happiness. Happiness is a state of non- attachment. Anthony De Mello
  • Happiness does not come from having much, but from being attached to little. Cheng Yen
  • To be without some of the things you want is an indispensable part of happiness. Bertrand Russell
  • Overcoming attachment does not mean becoming cold and indifferent. On the contrary, it means learning to have relaxed control over our mind through understanding the real causes of happiness and fulfillment, and this enables us to enjoy life more and suffer less. Kathleen McDonald
  • When your inner dependency on form is gone… the outer forms, tend to improve greatly. Things, people, or conditions that you thought you needed for your happiness now come to you with no struggle or effort on your part, and you are free to enjoy and appreciate them … Eckhart Tolle
  • The secret self knows the anguish of our attachments and assures us that letting go of what we think we must have to be happy is the same as letting go of our unhappiness. Guy Finley
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Letting go of attachment goes hand in hand with equanimity …

  • Equanimity allows you to open your heart and offer love, kindness, compassion, and rejoicing, while letting go of your expectations and attachment to results. Frank Jude Boccio
  • Perform all thy actions with mind concentrated on the Divine, renouncing attachment and looking upon success and failure with an equal eye. Spirituality implies equanimity. The Bhagavad Gita
  • He who would be serene and pure needs but one thing, detachment. Meister Eckhart
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Letting go of attachment brings freedom…

  • Our freedom can be measured by the number of things we can walk away from. Vernon Howard
  • Remember: no attachment should grow, no clinging should grow. They are all against your independence, your freedom, your individuality. Osho
  • .. who find delight in freedom from attachment in the renunciation of clinging, free from the inflow of thoughts, they are like shining lights, having reached final liberation in the world. Buddha
  • Free yourself from attachment.  Buddha
  • Nonresistance, nonjudgment, and nonattachment are the three aspects of true freedom and enlightened living. Eckhart Tolle
  • The person whose mind is always free from attachment, who has subdued the mind and senses, and who is free from desires, attains the supreme perfection of freedom from Karma through renunciation. Bhagavad Gita
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… especially from fear of loss

  • Attachment comes from a perception of lack – all comes from fear. Yvette Soler
  • You can’t have fear without need. Candace Silvers
  • Attachment creates fear that gets in your way: What if I lose? What if the deal doesn’t go through? What if I’m rejected? Your belief that everything must work out exactly as you want it to with no glitches creates enormous pressure. Nonattachment, on the other hand, works like magic. It allows you to have fun in your efforts, to enjoy the process. It takes the pressure off. You win regardless of the outcome. Richard Carlson
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Until you can let go of something, you will find it hard to hold onto

  • You must be willing to lose it all before you can have it all! What does this mean? It means that until you can let go of everything, you will find it hard to hold onto anything.  Detachment is the key. If you are so attached to something that you are deeply unhappy without it, then you are not simply attached, you are addicted.  Neale Donald Walsch
  • The tighter you squeeze, the less you have. Zen saying

It is loss and the threat of loss that teaches us the worth of things

  • When I was first learning about Buddhism, I travelled to Thailand with several of my friends and teachers and went to the forest monastery of a renowned meditation master named Achaan Chah. Gathering round him after our arrival, we asked him to explain the Buddha’s teachings. He motioned to a glass sitting to one side of him. “Do you see this glass?” he asked us. “I love this glass. It holds water admirably. When the sun shines on it, it reflects the light beautifully. When I tap it, it has a lovely ring. Yet for me, this glass is already broken. When the wind knocks it over or my elbow knocks it off the shelf and it falls to the ground and shatters, I say, ‘Of course’. But when I understand that this glass is already broken, every minute with it is precious.  Mark Epstein
  • Mostly it is loss which teaches us about the worth of things. Arthur Schopenhauer
  • We are like children building a sand castle. We embellish it with beautiful shells, bits of driftwood, and pieces of colored glass. The castle is ours, off limits to others. We’re willing to attack if others threaten to hurt it. Yet despite all our attachment, we know that the tide will inevitably come in and sweep the sand castle away. The trick is to enjoy it fully but without clinging, and when the time comes, let it dissolve back into the sea. Pema Chodron

Attachment is the opposite of separation

  • According to the Buddhist point of view, non-attachment is exactly the opposite of separation. You need two things in order to have attachment: the thing you’re attaching to, and the person who’s attaching. In nonattachment, on the other hand, there’s unity. There’s unity because there’s nothing to attach to. If you have unified with the whole universe, there’s nothing outside of you, so the notion of attachment becomes absurd. Who will attach to what? John Daido Loori
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Final thought

  • Today I will commit myself to detachment. I will allow myself and those around me the freedom to be as they are. I will not rigidly impose my idea of how things should be. I will not force solutions on problems, thereby creating new problems. I will participate in everything with detached involvement. Deepak Chopra
  • Though surely to avoid attachments for fear of loss is to avoid life. Lionel Shriver
  • To manage your mind, know that there is nothing, and then relinquish all attachment to nothingness. Lao Tzu
  • What we have to learn, in both meditation and in life, is to be free of attachment to the good experiences, and free of aversion to the negative ones. Sogyal Rinpoche
  • The world is your oyster. Yes, but in that oyster is the pearl; and to get to the pearl one has to first discard the shell and the flesh. Ian Gardner
  • Consider the trees which allow the birds to perch and fly away without either inviting them to stay or desiring them never to depart. If your heart can be like this, you will be near to the Way. Zen saying
  • Zen asks us to let go of our focus on the ego, to empty ourselves of our selfish attachments, to destroy our mental constructs, and simply be present to the light. Zen teacher
  • A feeling of aversion or attachment toward something is your clue that there’s work to be done. Ram Dass