Non-resistance (quotes)


Resistance is the refusal to accept something


The price of resistance


Spiritual teaching are all about learning to let go of resistance

  • Every true spiritual teaching is about entering the state of non-resistance voluntarily, that is to say consciously. Eckhart Tolle
  • All of your pain and suffering comes from your resistance to what is. Dick Sutphen’s one sentence summary of the teachings of Buddha
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Resistance causes what you resist to persist and grow stronger

  • Anything that you fight with or struggle against grows larger. You give power to lower energies by focusing upon them. You don’t eliminate darkness by arguing with it. The only way to eliminate darkness is to turn on a light. Doreen Virtue
  • What you resist, persists. If you are resisting something, you are feeding it.  Any energy you actively fight, you are feeding.  If you are using negative energy to push something away, you are inviting it to stay.  Marc and Angel Chernoff
  • Whatever we fight, we shall strengthen, for the mere fact of fighting it is witness to our belief in it……Belief is but worship by degree. Resistance of any kind achieves the opposite of its intent. Peter Erbe
  • Whatever you are pushing against, you are stuck to. Werner Erhard
  • When you antagonize any given situation, you give it power against yourself. But when you offer mental non- resistance the opposition will crumble before you.  Alan A. Rowbotham
  • What you resist always persists. This is because by resisting something you are directing negative energy to that object. Simona Rich
  • If you are resisting something, you are feeding it. Any energy you fight, you are feeding.  If you are pushing something away, you are inviting it to stay. Michael Singer
  • That which you resist stays. David R. Hawkins

Resistance causes pain and suffering

  • All of your pain and suffering comes from your resistance to what is. Dick Sutphen’s one sentence summary of the teachings of Buddha
  • The pain that you create now is always some form of nonacceptance, some form of unconscious resistance to what is. On the level of thought, the resistance is some form of judgment. On the emotional level, it is some form of negativity. The intensity of the pain depends on the degree of resistance to the present moment, and this in turn depends on how strongly you are identified with your mind. Eckhart Tolle
  • Pain is a relatively objective, physical phenomenon; suffering is our psychological resistance to what happens. Events may create physical pain, but they do not in themselves create suffering. Resistance creates suffering. Stress happens when your mind resists what is… The only problem in your life is your mind’s resistance to life as it unfolds. Dan Millman
  • The resistance to the unpleasant situation is the root of suffering. Ram Dass
  • Move towards the pain. See if you can soften around any resistance you may feel towards it. This is counter- intuitive but if you try to ignore it or push it away, it will just scream louder. Use the breath to help with this. Vidyamala
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Resistance leads to great frustration, stress and negativity

  • It is not life’s events that are causing problems or stress. It is your resistance to life’s events that is causing this experience. Since the problem is caused by using your will to resist the reality of life passing through you, the solution is obvious—stop resisting. Michael Singer
  • When you catch yourself slipping into a pool of negativity, notice how it derives from nothing other than resistance to the current situation. Donna Quesada
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Resistance closes you to life

  • Resistance is an inner contraction, a hardening of the shell of the ego. you are closed. Yielding means inner acceptance of what is. You are open to life. Eckhart Tolle
  • The only problem, the only thing that causes you any trouble, the only thing that slows you down, the only thing that keeps you from what you want, the only thing that makes you sick is resistance. Abraham-Hicks
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Stop resisting and arguing against what is

  • How do I know that the wind should blow? It’s blowing! I realized that it’s insane to oppose it. When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100% of the time. Byron Katie
  • I’m a lover of reality. When I argue with What Is, I lose, but only 100% of the time. Byron Katie
  • The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want. Byron Katie
  • You can’t argue with what is. Well, you can, but if you do, you suffer. Eckhart Tolle
  • Rather than fighting it internally, wouldn’t it be much better just to accept what is first – and then change what you want, if you still want to? Karl Moore

Stop resisting the present moment

  • Are you trying to escape the moment, fleeing from it and struggling against it? Or are you inhabiting the moment effortlessly? Leo Babauta
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Stop resisting the inevitable

  • Be willing to have it so. Acceptance is the first step in overcoming the consequences of misfortune. We need to allow ourselves to cooperate with the inevitable, take things in our stride with strength. As we stop fighting the inevitable, we release energy that enables us to create a richer life. Dale Carnegie
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Stop resisting your problems

  • Stop resisting your problems so furiously in your mind. Stop struggling to solve them. If you do that, a great sense of peace followed by a great sense of power will come to you. Norman Vincent Peale
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Stop struggling against the universe

  • I will practice Acceptance. Today I will accept people, situations, circumstances, and events as they occur. I will know that this moment is as it should be, because the whole universe is as it should be. I will not struggle against the whole universe by struggling against this moment. My acceptance is total and complete. I accept things as they are this moment, not as I wish they were. Deepak Chopra
  • The whole Universe has brought this moment about. Who am I to fight it? Eckhart Tolle
  • When you struggle against this moment, you’re actually struggling against the entire universe. Deepak Chopra

Stop resisting the openness of who you are

  • The word “surrender” is often interpreted as giving up, as weakness, as admitting defeat. Although this is one way to use the word, we will use it in a different way. Surrendering means letting go of your resistance to the total openness of who you are. It means giving up the tension of the little vortex you believe yourself to be and realizing the deep power of the ocean you truly are. It means to open with no boundaries, emotional or physical, so you ease wide beyond any limiting sense of self you might have. David Deida
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Stop resisting your sense of oneness with all

  • Why do we consistently refuse to allow love to light our way? We resist the allure of love, while still longing for its comfort.  And what is that resistance, really?  First, it is resistance to the experience of a bigger life, in which our small and separate identity disappears.  What is actually the birth of our spiritual identity feels to the ego like death.  The ego, our small and separate sense of self, is an imposter personality.  It is a false self.  It resists our genuinely remembering God, because in the recognition of our oneness with him lies the death of the ego and the end of all fear.  Marianne Williamson
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Surrender to what is


Allow the present moment to be as it is without resistance…

  • I have learned to offer no resistance to what is; I have learned to allow the present moment to be and to accept the impermanent nature of all things and conditions. Thus I have found peace. Eckhart Tolle
  • Most people treat the present moment as if it were an obstacle that they need to overcome. Since the present moment is Life itself, it is an insane way to live. Eckhart Tolle
  • The master is totally at one with this moment. He or she does not oppose, internally, this moment. He or she offers no inner- resistance to this moment – to the isness of now – to whatever arises now. It is not resisted internally. Eckhart Tolle
  • To be in alignment with what is means to be in a relationship of inner non-resistance with what happens. It means not to label it mentally as good or bad, but to let it be. Eckhart Tolle
  • You must accept the present as is. Accept the present and intend the future. The future is something you can always create through detached intention, but you should never struggle against the present. Deepak Chopra
  • When you surrender and stop resisting and stop trying to change that which you can’t change, but be in the moment, be fully open to the blessings you’ve already received and those that are yet to come & stand in that space of gratitude … and look at where you are and how far you’ve come and what you’ve accomplished …- when you can claim that and see that, the literal vibration of your life will change. Oprah Winfrey
  • Letting go doesn’t mean we don’t care. Letting go doesn’t mean we shut down. Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave. It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible–controlling that which we cannot–and instead, focus on what is possible–which usually means taking care of ourselves.  And we do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible.  Melody Beattie
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… by totally surrendering to it …

  • I surrender to life as it is, not as it should be. Richard Carlson
  • Open your heart to “what is” instead of insisting that life be a certain way. The greater our surrender to the truth of the moment, the greater will be our peace of mind.  Richard Carlson
  • Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? What could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you. Eckhart Tolle
  • Surrender comes when you no longer ask, “Why is this happening to me? Eckhart Tolle
  • The heart surrenders everything to the moment. The mind judges and holds back. Ram Dass
  • At fifteen life had taught me undeniably that surrender, in its place, was as honorable as resistance, especially if one had no choice. Maya Angelou
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Non-resistance doesn’t mean you don’t take action

  • In the state of surrender, I see clearly what needs to be done. I take action, focusing on one thing at a time. Calmly and in the now. Eckhart Tolle
  • The action you take after surrender is always more effective than when you fight against life. Eckhart Tolle
  • Surrender is perfectly compatible with taking action, initiating change, or achieving goals. But in the surrendered state a totally different energy, a different quality, flows into your doing.  Eckhart Tolle
  • Surrender is a purely inner phenomenon. It does not mean that on the outer level you cannot take action and change the situation. Eckhart Tolle
  • Whenever you encounter some difficulty you should never fight it. Acknowledge it, surrender to it and take action from the present moment. Simona Rich
  • Do what you have to do. In the meantime, accept what is. Since mind and resistance are synonymous, acceptance immediately frees you from mind dominance and thus reconnects you with Being. As a result, the usual ego motivations for “doing” – fear, greed, control, defending or feeding the false sense of self – will cease to operate. An intelligence much greater than the mind is now in charge, and so a different quality of consciousness will flow into your doing. Eckhart Tolle
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Non-resistance doesn’t mean you have to say yes to everything

  • If you resist or fight unconscious behavior in others, you become unconscious yourself. But surrender does not mean that you allow yourself to be used by unconscious people. Not at all. It is perfectly possible to say “no” firmly and clearly to a person or to walk away from a situation and be in a state of complete inner non-resistance at the same time. When you say no to a person or a situation let it come not from reaction but from insight, from a clear realization of what is right or not right for you at that moment. Let it be a nonreactive no, a high-quality no, a no that is free from negativity and so creates no further suffering. Eckhart Tolle
  • There is a comfort in non-resistance. This does not mean letting yourself be a doormat or saying yes to everything requested of you. In fact, being extremely passive is just another form of resistance. Being overly- accommodating and passive is just resisting having a difficult conversation, disagreeing, or expressing yourself. In essence, you’re just resisting resisting. So what’s there to do? Observe what’s going on, and just let yourself be with it – – the way you are, the way you aren’t, the way the situation is, the way the situation is not. Quite simply, to stop resisting – – stop resisting!  Jeremy Savage
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Go with the flow


Allow life to unfold without resistance

  • Be very very still and allow every new experience to take place in your life without any resistance whatsoever. You do not have to do anything, you simply have to be and let things happen. Eileen Caddy
  • Acceptance of one’s life has nothing to do with resignation; it does not mean running away from the struggle. On the contrary it means accepting it as it comes. . . . To accept is to say yes to life in its entirety. Paul Tournier
  • Of course there is no formula for success except, perhaps, an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings. Arthur Rubinstein

Instead of resisting, go with the flow

  • Life is beautiful if you flow with its natural beauty. Resistance makes it ugly. Terri Guillemets
  • Life is safe; flowing with the current of being is the simplest way to live. Resistance never really succeeds. Controlling the flow of life is impossible. Deepak Chopra
  • The moment – the now – is like a river, which carries you forward, ever-changing and ever moving. You either flow with this now or reject it and fight it, but that doesn’t stop the flow; it only determines your experience of it. Gina Lake
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The rewards of non-resistance


Non-resistance creates possibility

  • Indeed, the capacity to be present to everything that is happening, without resistance, creates possibility. It creates possibility in the same way that, if you are far-sighted, finding your glasses revives your ability to read or remove a splinter from a child’s finger. At last you can see. You can leave behind the struggle to come to terms with what is in front of you and move on. Roz & Ben Zander
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Non-resistance unleashes energy and power

  • Non-resistance is the key to the greatest power in the universe. Accepting means you allow yourself to feel whatever it is you are feeling at that moment. It is part of the is- ness of the Now. You can’t argue with what is. Well, you can, but if you do, you suffer. Through allowing, you become what you are: vast, spacious. Consciousness (spirit) is freed from its imprisonment in form. Eckhart Tolle
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Non-resistance creates peace, freedom and enlightenment

  • Non-resistance, nonjudgment, and nonattachment are the three aspects of true freedom and enlightened living. Eckhart Tolle
  • Peace is non-resistance, complete acceptance, identification with all, everyone, everything. Lester Levenson
  • Presence is allowing whatever condition arises in this moment to be there. Eckhart Tolle
  • To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness. This state is then no longer dependent upon things being in a certain way, good or bad. Eckhart Tolle
  • When the resistance is gone, the demons are gone. Pema Chodron
  • Enlightenment is nothing more than complete absence of resistance to what is. End of story. Adyashanti
  • Enlightenment could be defined as the absence of resistance to what is, the total intimacy with whatever is taking place without any desire to reject or replace it, so intimate that there is no room for a self to separate itself out from the whole.  Rupert Spira
  • Happiness is simply to allow everything to be exactly as it is from moment to moment. Rupert Spira
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Final thoughts

  • Forgiveness is to relinquish your grievance and so to let go of grief. It happens naturally once you realize that your grievance serves no purpose except to strengthen a false sense of self. Forgiveness is to offer no resistance to life – to allow life to live through you.  Eckhart Tolle
  • If you find yourself criticizing other people, you’re probably doing it out of Resistance. When we see others beginning to live their authentic lives, it drives us crazy if we have not lived out our own. Individuals who are realized in their own lives almost never criticize others. If they speak at all, it is to offer encouragement. Watch yourself. Of all the manifestations of Resistance, most only harm ourselves. Criticism and cruelty harm others as well. Steven Pressfield
  • When you fight, you invite a fight. But when you do not resist, you meet no resistance. When you refuse to play the game, you are out of it. Nisargadatta Maharaj