Realise there are things you cannot control (quotes)


Realise you cannot control it all


Control is the power to influence people or events


Realise that you can control some things in life, but other things you cannot

  • Happiness and freedom begin with a clear understanding of one principle: Some things are within our control, and some things are not. It is only after you have faced up to this fundamental rule and learned to distinguish between what you can and can’t control that inner tranquility and outer effectiveness become possible. Epictetus
  • Life is to be lived, not controlled. Ralph Ellison
  • There are some things I can’t control, and that’s just the way it is. Susane Colasanti
  • The closest to being in control we will ever be is in that moment that we realize we’re not. Brian Kessler
  • The best way to navigate through life is to give up all of our controls. Gerald G. Jampolsky

By all means, control the things you can…

  • Instead of focusing on that circumstances that you cannot change – focus strongly and powerfully on the circumstances that you can. Joy Page
  • I shall focus on those things which are within my control, and act within my sphere of influence. Marelisa Fabrega
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… but let go of the things you cannot

  • There are two kinds of worries — those you can do something about and those you can’t. Don’t spend any time on the latter. Duke Ellington
  • Let loose what you can’t control. Serenity will be yours.
  • If you can fix the thing that worries you, then fix it, otherwise don’t waste precious time or energy on it. Colleen Grant
  • Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door. Coco Chanel
  • There is no good in arguing with the inevitable. The only argument available with an east wind is to put on your overcoat. James Russell Lowell
  • For peace of mind, resign as general manager of the universe.
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The result will be greater energy and a richer life

  • When we stop fighting the inevitable, we release energy which allows us to create a richer life. Elsie MacCormick
  • There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will. Epictetus
  • Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t. Steve Maraboli
  • The more concerned we become over the things we can’t control, the less we will do with the things we can control.  John Wooden
  • If we can just let go and trust that things will work out they way they’re supposed to, without trying to control the outcome, then we can begin to enjoy the moment more fully. The joy of the freedom it brings becomes more pleasurable than the experience itself. Goldie Hawn
  • By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning. Lao Tzu
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Knowing what you can control and what you can’t requires wisdom, often acquired through experience

  • Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Serenity Prayer
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Realise that much of life is unpredictable and it is futile to try to control it all

  • Learn to let go of control, and surf the ever-changing wave. Let unpredictability rule, let randomness be the force of our life, let spontaneity be the rule. Leo Babauta
  • Let go of control and allow yourself to be swept away by the powerful currents of life. Leo Babauta
  • Basing our happiness on our ability to control everything is futile. Stephen Covey
  • People who are Happy for No Reason don’t always need to figure everything out or be in control; they live in the flow of life, trusting the underlying benevolence and wisdom of that larger wholeness. Marci Shimoff
  • Undertaking the journey to get some ground under our feet, is completely missing the point. Pema Chodron
  • When we are willing to be with what shows up in our lives, and quit participating in the desperate, clinging hunt to bend life to our will, we become much happier. Kate Swoboda
  • It’s easy to think we can control life, but we can’t. Life has a tendency to live itself, and we’re along for the ride. Henri Juntilla
  • Control is an illusion in life. The reality is that we have very little control over most things in our lives, and struggling to try and keep a tight grasp on things that we cannot possibly hold onto can only cause us suffering. Amanda Harvey
  • As for the future, your task is not to foresee it but to enable it. Antoine de Saint-Exupery
  • We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us. Joseph Campbell
  • The future is called “perhaps,” which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the only important thing is not to allow that to scare you.  Tennessee Williams
  • Everything under heaven is a sacred vessel and cannot be controlled. Trying to control leads to ruin. Trying to grasp, we lose. Allow your life to unfold naturally. Lao Tzu

All you really have control over is your attitude and response to what happens

  • We cannot choose our external circumstances, but we can always choose how we respond to them. Epictetus
  • While we cannot always choose what happens to us, we can choose our responses. Stephen Covey
  • The art of life isn’t controlling what happens, which is impossible; it’s using what happens. Gloria Steinem
  • Master your responses to external events–don’t attempt to control them. Caroline Myss
  • Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. Charles R. Swindoll
  • It’s impossibile to even try to control everything in the world around us. Contrast this with he more manageable alternative of controlling the way we experience the world. David Michie
  • Don’t fight the reality that now exists in your life. Once we accept that we can’t control the external events, people, and circumstances in our lives, we also see what we can control: our attitude, how we embrace change, and our reactions to change. Ariane de Bonvoisin
  • You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you. Brian Tracy
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Learn to go with the flow


The secret to happiness is to learn to go with the flow more

  • I relax my consciousness. I unset my heart. I wear the world as a loose garment. I learn to dance with grace on the constantly shifting carpet. I go with the flow. Susan Jeffers
  • Flow is the natural, effortless unfolding of our life in a way that moves us towards wholeness and harmony. Charlene Belitz & Meg Lundstrom
  • Life is water, and we tend to push too hard, thrash about, force things, struggle. Instead, learn to float, learn to allow things to become effortless. Leo Babauta
  • It is possible and desirable to steer your own course, within the general direction of the flowing tide. It is just not smart or productive to try and row your little boat against the strong current of life. That is a sure way to get shipwrecked! Amanda Harvey
  • I really feel like life will dictate itself. You should allow it to unfold as naturally as possible. Just go with the flow. When you’re really desperate, you say a few prayers and hope for the best. That’s the way I’ve always lived my life. Shania Twain
  • Life is safe; flowing with the current of being is the simplest way to live. Resistance never really succeeds. Controlling the flow of life is impossible. Deepak Chopra
  • The moment – the now – is like a river, which carries you forward, ever-changing and ever moving. You either flow with this now or reject it and fight it, but that doesn’t stop the flow; it only determines your experience of it. Gina Lake
  • I would not waste my life in friction when it could be turned into momentum. Frances Willard
  • Make the best use of what is in your power and take the rest as it happens. Epictetus
  • Relaxation means releasing all concern and tension and letting the natural order of life flow through one’s being. Donald Curtis
  • When I struggle and try to organize the Atlantic to my specifications, I sink. If I flail and thrash and growl and grumble, I go under. But, if I let go and float, I am borne aloft. Marie Stilkind
  • Those who flow as life flows know they need no other force. Lao Tzu
  • Going with the flow is responding to cues from the universe. When you go with the flow, you’re surfing Life force. It’s about wakeful trust and total collaboration with what’s showing up for you. Danielle LaPorte
  • To accept things as they are and allow things to unfold as they will unfold and be detached from their outcomes is the basis of many world religions and philosophies, and when it gets right down to it, much of what happens to us or will happen to us is beyond our control, so why fret about it?  Steven Chopra
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Go with the flow – but do it on your own river

  • I believe in going with the flow. I don’t believe in fighting against the flow. You ride on your river and you go with the tides and the flow. But it has to be your river, not someone else’s. Everyone has their own river, and you don’t need to swim, float, sail on their’s, but you need to be in your own river and you need to go with it. And I don’t believe in fighting the wind. You go and you fly with your wind. Let everyone else catch their own gusts of wind and let them fly with their own gusts of wind, and you go and you fly with yours.   JoyBell C.
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Going with the flow requires accepting the inevitable changes that life brings

  • To go with the flow means to stop trying to swim against the tide of life circumstances and change. It is possible to swim upstream of course, but it is exhausting! We go against the tide when we try to fight reality, and resist change. Change is going to happen, whether you like it or not. Struggling against the changes life brings is not going to achieve anything but frustration and stress. Amanda Harvey
  • Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. Lao- Tzu
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Going with the flow requires accepting this moment as it is and not resisting it

  • Flow with whatever is happening and let your mind be free. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing. This is the ultimate. Chuang Tzu
  • Seek not that the things which happen should happen as you wish; but wish the things which happen to be as they are, and you will have a tranquil flow of life. Epictetus
  • If you want reality to be different than what it is, you might as well try to teach a cat to bark. Byron Katie
  • Anything in life that we don’t accept will simply make trouble for us until we make peace with it. Shakti Gawain
  • Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Eckhart Tolle
  • Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Eckhart Tolle
  • Life is beautiful if you flow with its natural beauty. Resistance makes it ugly. Terri Guillemets
  • If you surrender to the wind, you can ride it. Toni Morrison
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Going with the flow requires being open minded and flexible

  • Be firm on principle but flexible on method. Zig Ziglar
  • I am a man of fixed and unbending principles, the first of which is to flexible at all times. Everett Mckinley Dirkson
  • Be infinitely flexible and constantly amazed. Jason Kravitz
  • Flexibility requires an open mind and a welcoming of new alternatives. Deborah Day
  • Being rigid in our beliefs and inflexible in our attitudes means we are unable to flow with life. If we do not bend, we are more likely to break. Amanda Harvey
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Going with the flow requires letting go of battles you cannot win

  • Going with the flow doesn’t mean giving up, giving in, or being swept along to places you don’t want to go. It just means accepting that there are certain currents in life that are pointless to try and fight. Fighting will only frustrate and exhaust you. Save your energy for the ways that it can be useful, and stop wasting it on resisting the inevitable. Amanda Harvey
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Going with the flow requires trusting in divine purpose

  • As our awareness begins to shift, old patterns are beginning to break down and we lose our familliar points of reference. We need to let go and flow with events, not knowing the outcome but trusting in divine purpose. June McLeod
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Going with the flow requires being more like water

  • The wise adapt themselves to circumstances, as water molds itself to the pitcher. Chinese Proverb
  • Thus, flexibility, as displayed by water, is a sign of life. Rigidity, its opposite, is an indicator of death. Anthony Lawlor
  • Taking on a free-flowing attitude allows us to be like water. Water is the most powerful substance, able to wear away the hardest of obstacles and to pass through seemingly impassable places. Amanda Harvey
  • Nothing in the world is more flexible and yielding than water. Yet when it attacks the firm and the strong, none can withstand it, because they have no way to change it. So the flexible overcome the adamant, the yielding overcome the forceful. Lao Tzu
  • Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless – like water. Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup, you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend. Bruce Lee
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Going with the flow requires having faith that wherever the current of life takes you, you’ll be fine

  • You may not be able to see what is ahead of you, but all you have to do is trust. There are miracles and magic waiting for you right now.  Joelene Setterfield
  • If you just go with the flow, no matter what weird things happen along the way, you always end up exactly where you belong. Tom Upton
  • While the unknown is scary, the unknown can also be exciting. Your life could change in an instant anytime. But sometimes, that change is the best thing that will ever happen to you. Maybe I don’t have to know what my fate is to know that everything will be okay. Maybe the not knowing is how we move forward. Wherever I’m headed, I know it’s exactly where I’m supposed to be.  Susane Colasanti
  • We may not know where life will take us, but we can trust that wherever it may be, we will have the strength and stamina to stay afloat. Every turn of the tide offers us opportunities for learning, growth, and adventure, so go with the flow. Amanda Harvey
  • Dancing with life is moving into the flow of our experiences – good or bad – with a feeling of harmony, trust, guidance and love. Susan Jeffers
  • There’s nowhere you can be that isn’t where you’re meant to be… John Lennon
  • As your faith is strengthened you will find that there is no longer the need to have a sense of control, that things will flow as they will, and that you will flow with them, to your great delight and benefit. Emmanuel Teney

If you resist the current , not only will you exhaust yourself, but you’ll most likely suffer too

  • Non-acceptance of change causes suffering. Sampo Kaasila
  • Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. Lao Tzu
  • The resistance to the unpleasant situation is the root of suffering. Ram Dass
  • We can start to see that our pain lies between what we think should happen and what actually happens. Then, if we remove the secret demand for this or that to happen, the pain- gap vanishes. Vernon Howard
  • The act of resisting something is the act of granting it life… the more you resist, the more you make it real, whatever it is you are resisting. Neale Donald Walsch
  • Events may create physical pain, but they do not in themselves create suffering. Resistance creates suffering. The only problem in your life is your mind’s resistance to life as it unfolds. Dan Millman
  • The only problem, the only thing that causes you any trouble, the only thing that slows you down, the only  thing that keeps you from what you want, the only thing that makes you sick is resistance. Abraham-Hicks
  • Pain is the price you pay for resisting life. Dr. Phil McGraw
  • You can’t argue with what is. Well, you can, but if you do, you suffer. Eckhart Tolle
  • The pain that you create now is always some form of nonacceptance, some form of unconscious resistance to what is. On the level of thought, the resistance is some form of judgment. On the emotional level, it is some form of negativity. The intensity of the pain depends on the degree of resistance to the present moment, and this in turn depends on how strongly you are identified with your mind. Eckhart Tolle
  • Stress happens when the mind resists what is. Dan Millman
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Final thoughts

  • We all dread the helplessness of losing control, and yet real freedom lies in recognizing the futility of demanding that life be within our control. Instead, we must learn the willingness to feel – to say yes to – the experience of helplessness itself. This is one of the hidden gifts of serious illness or loss. It pushes us right to our edge, where we may have the good fortune to realize that our only real option is to surrender to our experience and let it just be. Ezra Bayda
  • If you are still trying to control then you still think something can ‘go wrong’. If you still think something can go wrong then you are not in touch with the source. If you are not in touch with the source then you live in fear. You are living in the fear that you have created, and that you are trying to get away from. Paul Lowe
  • When we resist change or try to assert a false sense of control over the external world it always leads to struggle. We must learn to embrace change, work with energies and “allow” circumstances, opportunities and events to manifest according to divine providence. Christin Sander
  • Life is the dancer and you are the dance. Eckhart Tolle
  • As your faith is strengthened you will find that there is no longer the need to have a sense of control, that things will flow as they will, and that you will flow with them, to your great delight and benefit.  Emmanuel
  • Life is safe; flowing with the current of being is the simplest way to live. Resistance never really succeeds. Controlling the flow of life is impossible. Deepak Chopra

On a lighter note

  • My biggest problem is what to do about all the things I can’t do anything about. Ashleigh Brilliant