Suffering (quotes)


Realise than even suffering has gifts to offer


Suffering, though unpleasant to experience, has priceless gifts to offer 

  • Never to suffer would never to have been blessed. Edgar Allen Poe
  • Pain is a treasure, for it contains mercies.  Rumi
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1.  Suffering leads to spiritual growth and evolution of the soul 

  • Suffering can be endured because there is a reason for it that is worth the effort. What is more worthy of your pain than the evolution of your soul? Gary Zukav
  • Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars. Khalil Gibran
  • … the soul would have no rainbow if the eyes had no tears. Native American Saying
  • Suffering is the sandpaper of our incarnation. It does its work of shaping us. Ram Dass
  • The quickest way to change your attitude toward pain is to accept the fact that everything that happens to us has been designed for our spiritual growth. M. Scott Peck
  • Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved. Helen Keller
  • Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and the sculptor. Alexis Carrel
  • Man performs and engenders so much more than he can or should have to bear. That’s how he finds that he can bear anything.   William Faulkner
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2.  Suffering is fuel for consciousness and the burning up of the ego 

  • Suffering has a noble purpose: the evolution of consciousness and the burning up of the ego. Eckhart Tolle
  • Suffering is a wonderful teacher. Suffering is most people’s only spiritual teacher. Suffering deepens you, it gradually erodes the mind made sense of self, the ego. And for some people the point arrives where they realize “I have suffered enough.” Eckhart Tolle
  • The energy that was trapped in the pain-body then changes its vibrational frequency and is transmuted into Presence. In this way, the pain-body becomes fuel for consciousness. This is why many of the wisest, most enlightened men and women on our planet once had a heavy pain-body. Eckhart Tolle
  • Become an alchemist. Transmute base metal into gold, suffering into consciousness, disaster into enlightenment. Eckhart Tolle
  • The paradox is that suffering is caused by identification with form and erodes identification with form. A lot of it is caused by the ego, although eventually suffering destroys the ego—but not until you suffer consciously. Eckhart Tolle
  • We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey. Kenji Miyazawa 
  • There is no coming to consciousness without pain. Carl Jung 
  • Pain has its own noble joy, when it starts a strong consciousness of life, from a stagnant one. John Sterling
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3.  Suffering can lead to spiritual awakening 

  • People with heavy pain-bodies usually have a better chance to awaken spiritually than those with a relatively light one. Whereas some of them do remain trapped in their heavy pain- bodies, many others reach a point where they cannot live with their unhappiness any longer, and so their motivation to awaken becomes strong. Eckhart Tolle
  • When you can’t stand the endless cycle of suffering anymore, you begin to awaken. Eckhart Tolle
  • The worst thing in life can become the best thing. The very thing that awakens you.  Eckhart Tolle
  • I was very afraid at the beginning, until Master told me that pain isn’t the truth; it’s what you have to get through in order to find the truth. Deepak Chopra
  • The dark night of the soul comes just before revelation. Joseph Campbell 
  • You don’t go through a deep personal transformation without some kind of dark night of the soul. Sam Keen
  • Suffering, if it does not diminish love, will transport you to the furthest shore. Buddha
  • Religious people fear hell. Spiritual people have walked through it.  Frank Warren
  • When we come close to those things that break us down, we touch those things that also break us open. And in that breaking open, we uncover our true nature.  Wayne Muller
  • People have a need to feel their pain. Very often pain is the beginning of a great deal of awareness.  As an energy center it awakens consciousness.  Arnold Mindell
  • You will bring yourself the suffering you need to bring yourself so that you may awaken. Scott McLeod
  • Let whatever happens, be what needs to happen, so that I may awaken. Scott McLeod
  • If there is pain, use it as an awareness, as meditation, as a sharpening of the soul. Rajneesh
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4.  Suffering has the power to open your eyes to new meaning and perspectives on life 

  • There is sometimes powerful meaning in anguish and trauma. Suffering may bring about posttraumatic growth, including spiritual growth, a timeless perspective on possible life paths, and a sense that life has renewed meaning.  Sonja Lyubomirsky
  • Birth, death, and suffering all bring us to the very edge of what our minds can understand. Baba Ram Dass
  • Pain destroys the illusions of false, that is, elitist pleasures. It burns from the inside out. It, therefore, sensitizes us to what is truly beautiful in life. Matthew Fox
  • Out of pain, comes poetry. Ashley Highland
  • The reward of suffering is experience. Aeschylus
  • Suffering is but another name for the teaching of experience, which is the parent of instruction and the schoolmaster of life. Horace  
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5.  Suffering forces you to investigate and reflect … 

  • The pain shows you what’s left to investigate. Byron Katie
  • Not all pain is negative, even though we label all forms of pain as such and resist them. Positive- negativity is a circumstance that causes us to go deeper, to search ourselves, to stop placing blame on the causes of suffering outside ourselves and take self-responsibility. Michael Beckwith
  • Joy, happiness … we do not question. They are beyond question, maybe. A matter of being. But pain forces us to think, and to make connections … to discover what has been happening to cause it. And, curiously enough, pain draws us to other human beings in a significant way, whereas joy or happiness to some extent, isolates. May Sarton
  • When you realize that suffering and discomfort are the call to inquiry, you may actually begin to look forward to uncomfortable feelings. You may even experience them as friends coming to show you what you have not yet investigated thoroughly enough. Byron Katie
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… which can lead to self-discovery, wisdom and growth 

  • Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Kahlil Gibran
  • Turn your wounds into wisdom. Oprah Winfrey
  • So, are you currently suffering? Can you bring a little more awareness to the challenge, maybe shift your perspective and see the opportunity to grow a bit? Brian Johnson
  • Only through suffering can we find ourselves. Fyodor Dostoevsky
  • When we avoid the legitimate suffering that results from dealing with problems, we also avoid the growth that problems demand from us. M. Scott Peck
  • Since the obvious purpose of pain, misery, and suffering is to tell you something is wrong, fix it, change it, reform, improve, get help; if you don’t have the strength to do it, you are stuck with the pain. William Glasser
  • The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers. M. Scott Peck
  • You desire to know the art of living, my friend? It is contained in one phrase: make use of suffering. Henri-  Frédéric Amiel
  • The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt. Max Lerner
  • Pain nourishes courage. You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you. Mary Tyler Moore
  • Evil being the root of mystery, pain is the root of knowledge. Simone Weil
  • Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain. Robert Gary Lee
  • Pain is only valuable once you know that you’ve learned from it.
  • Pain is the root of knowledge. Simone Weil 
  • When we come close to those things that break us down, we touch those things that also break us open. And in that breaking open, we uncover our true nature.  Wyne Muller
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6.  Suffering can fill you with compassion and empathy for others 

  • The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen. Elizabeth Kubler- Ross
  • Suffering and joy teach us, if we allow them, how to make the leap of empathy, which transports us into the soul and heart of another person. Fritz William
  • I call him religious who understands the suffering of others. Mahatma Gandhi
  • To embrace suffering culminates in greater empathy, the capacity to feel what it is like for the other to suffer, which is the ground for unsentimental compassion and love. Stephen Batchelor
  • Without suffering, there’d be no compassion. Nicholas Sparks
  • Those who have suffered understand suffering and therefore extend their hand. Patti Smith
  • If pain doesn’t lead to humility, you have wasted your suffering. Katerina Stoykova Klemer
  • Those who do not feel pain seldom think that it is felt. Samuel Johnson
  • It is our own pain, and our own desire to be free of it, that alerts us to the suffering of the world. It is our personal discovery that pain can be acknowledged, even held lovingly, that enables us to look at the pain around us unflinchingly and feel compassion being born in us.  We need to start with ourselves.  Sylvia Boorstein
  • Without an awareness of our feelings we cannot experience compassion. How can we share the sufferings and the joys of others if we cannot experience our own?  Gary Zukav
  • The wisdom that comes from having experienced heartbreak cannot be bequeathed; it can only be gained through experience. And having truly felt it, we are far more likely to have compassion for others.  Anything that takes us close to true compassion takes us closer to what will one day be an experience of even greater joy.  Marianne Williamson
  • Because God is never cruel, there is a reason for all things. We must know the pain of loss; because if we never knew it, we would have no compassion for others, and we would become monsters of self- regard, creatures of unalloyed self- interest. The terrible pain of loss teaches humility to our prideful kind, has the power to soften uncaring hearts, to make a better person of a good one. Dean Koontz
  • Is suffering really necessary? Yes and no. If you had not suffered as you have, there would be no depth to you, no humility, no compassion. Eckhart Tolle
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7.  Suffering can polish and bring out the best in you 

  • It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure. Joseph Campbell
  • This discipline and rough treatment are a furnace to extract the silver from the dross. This testing purifies the gold by boiling the scum away. Rumi
  • If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished? Rumi
  • We are all broken and wounded in this world. Some choose to grow strong at the broken places. Harold J. Duarte-   Bernhardt 
  • Pain nourishes courage. You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you.  Mary Tyler Moore

8.  Suffering can open your heart 

  • Perhaps the things that break our hearts are the very things that serve to open them. Robin S. Sharma
  • The wound is the place where the Light enters you. Rumi
  • The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven? And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives? Kahlil Gibran
  • Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us. David Richo
  • The unendurable is the beginning of the curve of joy. Djuna Barnes
  • Suffering is awful, but it can awaken us just as much as joy and wonder. The heroic lover is ready to be shaken up so that they can be shaken free. They understand the lover’s heart must break open at some time … maybe many times … for love to flow. Tim Freke
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9.  Suffering helps you to truly appreciate happiness and joy 

  • What is joy without sorrow? What is success without failure? What is a win without a loss? What is health without illness? You have to experience each if you are to appreciate the other. There is always going to be suffering. it’s how you look at your suffering, how you deal with it, that will define you. Mark Twain
  • The hilltop hour would not be half so wonderful if there were no dark valleys to traverse. Helen Keller
  • How would you know what happy is if you’ve never been otherwise. Malcolm Forbes
  • If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant: if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome. Anne Bradstreet
  • I believe you can’t feel real joy unless you’ve felt heartache. You can’t have a sense of victory unless you know what it means to fail. You can’t know what it’s like to feel holy until you know what it’s like to feel really fucking evil. And you can’t be birthed again until you’ve died. Kelly Cutron
  • It’s not good for all of our wishes to be fulfilled. Through sickness, we recognize the value of health; through evil, the value of good; through hunger, the value of food; through exertion, the value of rest. Greek proverb
  • No one is as capable of gratitude as one who has emerged from the kingdom of night. Elie Wiesel
  • When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. Kahlil Gibran
  • There are moments when I wish I could roll back the clock and take all the sadness away, but I have a feeling that if I did, the joy would be gone as well. So I take the memories as they come, accepting them all, letting them guide me whenever I can. Nicholas Sparks
  • Perhaps there could be no joy on this planet without an equal weight of pain to balance it out on some unknown scale. Stephenie Meyer
  • If we are to feel the positive feelings of love, happiness, trust, and gratitude, we periodically also have to feel anger, sadness, fear, and sorrow. John Gray
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Whether your suffering opens or closes you is a choice you have to make 

  • I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain. Oriah Mountain Dreamer
  • As my sufferings mounted I soon realized that there were two ways in which I could respond to my situation – – either to react with bitterness or seek to transform the suffering into a creative force. I decided to follow the latter course.  Martin Luther King Jr.
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Taking into account of the gifts of suffering, do not regret hard times and suffering in the past


Pain is inevitable while suffering is optional


We suffer because we resist what is 

  • All of your pain and suffering comes from your resistance to what is. Dick Sutphen’s one sentence summary of the teachings of Buddha
  • Suffering: the sense that things should be different than they are. Wayne Liquorman
  • The resistance to the unpleasant situation is the root of suffering. Ram Dass
  • Pain is a relatively objective, physical phenomenon; suffering is our psychological resistance to what happens. Events may create physical pain, but they do not in themselves create suffering. Resistance creates suffering. Stress happens when your mind resists what is… The only problem in your life is your mind’s resistance to life as it unfolds. Dan Millman
  • The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want. Byron Katie
  • The pain that you create now is always some form of non=acceptance, some form of unconscious resistance to what is. On the level of thought, the resistance is some form of judgment. On the emotional level, it is some form of negativity. The intensity of the pain depends on the degree of resistance to the present moment, and this in turn depends on how strongly you are identified with your mind. Eckhart Tolle
  • Misery needs your conspiracy; it needs your help. Without your resistance misery cannot survive. Adyashanti
  • What you resist persists. What you look at disappears. Neale Donald Walsch
  • Life is beautiful if you flow with its natural beauty. Resistance makes it ugly. Terri Guillemets
  • The chief cause of suffering for human beings is an inability to have things be the way they are.
  • Life is not suffering; it’s just that you will suffer it, rather than enjoy it, until you let go of your mind’s attachments and just go for the ride freely, no matter what happens. Dan Millman
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We suffer because we cling to permanence 

  • You do not suffer because things are impermanent. You suffer because things are impermanent, and you think they are permanent. Thich Nhat Hanh
  • Buddha established the fact that life will always involve a certain amount of suffering. We will all get old, get sick and die. Our possessions will break and so will some of our relationships. According to Buddha, that’s just how it is. The fact that these things happen does not account for why we are unhappy, however. We are unhappy because we fight against it. We cling to our sense of how things should be, or how we want them to be. It is this attachment to expectations that presents the problem. Only by dealing with the fact that life is unpredictable—and will often bring pain and undesirable events—can we become “non- attached” and avoid the suffering that plagues most people. Brian Johnson
  • Most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for and attachment to things that we misapprehend as enduring entities. The Dalai Lama
  • You only lose what you cling to. Buddha
  • The wise are so totally detached, Pain is for those who are attached. K.Misra
  • ImpermanenceContemplate the fleetingness of life

We suffer when we have fixed expectations that are not met 

  • If you don’t get what you want, you suffer; if you get what you don’t want, you suffer; even when you get exactly what you want, you still suffer because you can’t hold on to it forever. Your mind is your predicament. Dan Millman
  • The gap between your expectations and reality is your suffering. John St. Augustine
  • We can start to see that our pain lies between what we think should happen and what actually happens. Then, if we remove the secret demand for this or that to happen, the pain- gap vanishes. Vernon Howard
  • Expectation is the root of all heartache. William Shakespeare
  • As humans, we also suffer from not getting what we want and not keeping what we have. Kalu Rinpoche 
  • ExpectationLet go of attachment to result

We suffer because we crave something too much and become addicted 

  • The root of all suffering is desire. Buddha
  • The very search for pleasure is the cause of pain. Nisargadatta Maharaj
  • It is not the lack of something that is behind your unhappiness; instead your craving is the root cause behind your unhappiness. Sampo Kaasila
  • Intentions are a form of desire. Desire per se is not the root of suffering; craving is. The key is to have wholesome intentions without being attached to their results. Rick Hanson
  • People think that if they had no cravings, they’d be like deadwood. But in fact, they’d lose their tension. Get rid of your fear of failure, your tensions about succeeding, you will be yourself. Relaxed. You wouldn’t be driving with your brakes on. That’s what would happen. Anthony de Mello
  • Man suffers only because he takes seriously what the gods made for fun.  Alan Wilson Watts 
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We suffer because we believe and identify with our negative thoughts  

  • Suffering is believing in the thoughts that the mind throws up. Eckhart Tolle
  • Suffering seems real because we don’t have a clear understanding of our true nature. Instead, we believe the passing thoughts, such as ‘I am no good, ‘I am not there yet,’ ‘I am stuck’ or whatever the thought may be. Eventually we understand that we are not those thoughts. Once our real self is pointed out, the suffering loses its grip. John Wheeler
  • Pain is of the body. Suffering is of the mind. Both arise in awareness. On the surface, suffering is the mind’s resistance to or refusal of pain. On a deeper level, suffering is the result of believing yourself to be a separate self. Withdraw identification from the ego idea and all suffering drops away immediately. Will things still hurt? Of course. But they will not produce unnecessary suffering. Richard Young
  • What you call “your” thoughts are just thoughts arising in consciousness. Taking ownership of them is what causes suffering. Michael Jeffrey
  • Misery is almost always the result of thinking. Joseph Joubert
  • Pain is inevitable as long as you are identified with your mind. Eckhart Tolle

We suffer because we mentally label something as bad and then resist it 

  • Suffering begins when you mentally label a situation as bad. That causes an emotional contraction. When you let it be, without naming it, enormous power is available to you.  The contraction cuts you off from that power, the power of life itself.  Eckhart Tolle
  • It isn’t the things that are happening to us that cause us to suffer, it’s what we say to ourselves about the things that are happening. Pema Chodron
  • Suffering has nothing to do with events, but with one’s reaction to them. What’s happening is merely what’s happening. How you feel about it is another matter. Neale Donald Walsch
  • It isn’t what happens to us that causes us to suffer; it’s what we say to ourselves about what happens. Pema Chodron
  • Suffering doesn’t come from the fact; it comes from the meaning we assign to the fact. Tony Robbins 
  • Let go of the need to judgeThe need to evaluate things as good or bad

We suffer because we identify with our emotional pain and create a story around it 

  • It is not the pain-body, but identification with it that causes the suffering that you inflict on yourself and others. It is not the pain- body but identification with the pain-body that forces you to relive the past again and again and keeps you in a state of unconsciousness. Eckhart Tolle
  • As long as you make an identity for yourself out of the pain, you cannot become free of it. As long as part of your sense of self is invested in your emotional pain, you will unconsciously resist or sabotage every attempt that you make to heal the pain. Why? Quite simply because you want to keep yourself intact, and the pain has become an essential part of you. This is an unconscious process, and the only way to overcome it is to make it conscious. Eckhart Tolle
  • Emotion in itself is not unhappiness. Only emotion plus an unhappy story is unhappiness. Eckhart Tolle
  • As long as we define ourselves in terms of our pain and our problems, we will never be free from them. Eckhart Tolle
  • The pain-body wants to survive, just like every other entity in existence, and it can only survive if it gets you to unconsciously identify with it. Eckhart Tolle 
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We suffer because we close our hearts 

  • The less you open your heart to others, the more your heart suffers. Deepak Chopra
  • The love that you withhold is the pain that you carry. Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • In separateness lies the world’s great misery, in compassion lies the world’s true strength. Buddha
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We suffer because we refuse to let go of our suffering 

  • People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar. Thich Nhat Hanh
  • Pain is not the same as suffering. Left to itself, the body discharges pain spontaneously, letting go of it the moment that the underlying cause is healed. Suffering is pain that we hold on to. It comes from the mind’s mysterious instinct to believe that pain is good, or that it cannot be escaped, or that the person deserves it. Deepak Chopra
  • Many of us are not capable of releasing the past, of releasing the suffering of the past. We want to cling to our own suffering. Thich Nhat Hanh
  • Human beings sometimes find a kind of pleasure in nursing painful emotions, in blaming themselves without reason or even against reason. Isaac Asimov 
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We suffer because we’re out of touch with the truth 

  • It is always the false that makes you suffer, the false desires and fears, the false values and ideas, the false relationships between people. Abandon the false and you are free of pain; truth makes happy, truth liberates. Nisargadatta Maharaj 
  • Suffering points out that there is falsehood somewhere. Suffering occurs when you clash with reality. When your illusions clash with reality when your falsehoods clash with the truth, then you have suffering. Otherwise there is no suffering. Anthony de Mello
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We suffer because we blame 

  • When you blame, you open up a world of excuses, because as long as you’re looking outside, you miss the opportunity to look inside, and you continue to suffer. Donna Quesada
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We suffer because we try to control what we cannot 


The truth is that pain in life is inevitable while suffering is optional 

  • You move totally away from reality when you believe that there is a legitimate reason to suffer. Byron Katie
  • Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. The Dalai Lama
  • If you can go through life without experiencing pain you probably haven’t been born yet. Neil Simon
  • The greater part of human pain is unnecessary. It is self-created as long as the unobserved mind runs your life. Eckhart Tolle
  • Life will bring you pain all by itself. Your responsibility is to create joy. Milton Erickson
  • To avoid pain, they avoid pleasure. To avoid death, they avoid life. Osho
  • Pain and suffering are always inevitable for a large intelligence and a deep heart. The really great men must, I think, have great sadness on earth. Fyodor Dostoevsky
  • Pain is inevitable as long as you are identified with your mind. Eckhart Tolle
  • I believe there are more urgent and honorable occupations than the incomparable waste of time we call suffering. Colette
  • Pain is the feeling. Suffering is the effect the pain inflicts. If one can endure pain, one can live without suffering. If one can withstand pain, one can withstand anything. If one can learn to control pain, one can learn to control oneself. James Frey
  • I am the perpretor of my suffering – but only all of it. Byron Katie
  • Pain is the sensations of discomfort that may be unavoidable; suffering is the ways we react to pain that just makes it worse. Jon Kabat-Zinn
  • Pain is inevitable as long as you are identified with your mind, which is to say as long as you are unconscious, physically speaking. I am talking here primarily of emotional pain, which is also the main cause of physical pain and physical disease.  Resentment, hatred, self-pity, guilt, anger, depression, jealousy, and so on, even the slightest irritation, are all forms of pain.  Eckhart Tolle
  • If you don’t get what you want, you suffer; if you get what you don’t want, you suffer; even when you get exactly what you want, you still suffer because you can’t hold on to it forever. Your mind is your predicament. It wants to be free of change. Free of pain, free of the obligations of life and death. But change is a law, and no amount of pretending will alter that reality. Dan Millman
  • It is almost impossible for anyone, even the most ineffective among us, to continue to choose misery after becoming aware that it is a choice. William 
  • Pain is inevitable but misery is optional. Tim Hansel
  • Disease is somatic; the suffering from it, psychic. Martin H. Fischer
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Suffering is only necessary until you realise it is unnecessary 

  • Is suffering really necessary? Yes and no. If you had not suffered as you have, there would be no depth to you as a human being, no humility, no compassion. You would not be reading this now. Suffering cracks open the shell of ego, and then comes a point when it has served its purpose. Eckhart Tolle
  • Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary. Eckhart Tolle

A perspective on suffering 

  • By suffering, the Buddha was referring to our dissatisfaction with the circumstances of our lives. All of us have experienced this dissatisfaction: it’s found in our longing for our life to be different than it is, even when we have no control over the particular circumstance in question. Toni Bernhard, J.D.

Face your pain and suffer consciously


To free ourselves of suffering, we need to face our pain and open ourselves up to it 

  • Pain itself destroys pain. Suffering itself frees man from suffering. Jiddu Krishnamurti
  • The truth is that you need to say yes to suffering before you can transcend it. Eckhart Tolle
  • We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey. Kenji Miyazawa
  • I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it. Oriah Mountain Dreamer
  • We are healed of a suffering only by expressing it to the full. Marcel Proust
  • One’s suffering disappears when one lets oneself go, when one yields – even to sadness. Antoine de Saint-Exupery
  • If you want to end your suffering, enter your pain. Robert Augustus Masters
  • A lot of people say they want to get out of pain, and I’m sure that’s true, but they aren’t willing to make healing a high priority. They aren’t willing to look inside to see the source of their pain in order to deal with it. Lindsay Wagner
  • The pain in those chakras is meant to be felt; experienced. You are going to feel it (the sadness, and despair) move. It’s part of the “push-through”. The energy in the solar plexus, especially, needs to move… Lena Lees
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Realise that the fear of suffering is often worse than suffering itself 

  • Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. Paulo Coelho
  • The truth that many people never understand, until it is too late, is that the more you try to avoid suffering the more you suffer because smaller and more insignificant things begin to torture you in proportion to your fear of being hurt. Thomas Merton
  • A man who fears suffering is already suffering from what he fears. Michel de Montaigne
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Always be on the watch for the emergence of any emotional pain 

  • Watch out for any sign of unhappiness in yourself, in whatever form—it may be the awakening of the pain- body. This can take the form of irritation, impatience, a somber mood, a desire to hurt, anger, rage, depression, a need to have some drama in your relationship, and so on. Catch it the moment it awakens from its dormant state. Eckhart Tolle
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As soon as you detect it, stop it from taking hold by becoming intensely focused on your inner body 

  • Learn what the most common triggers are that activate the pain body, whether it be situations or certain things other people do or say. When those triggers occur, you will immediately see them for what they are and enter a heightened state of alertness. Within a second or two, you will also notice the emotional reaction that is the arising pain-body, but in that state of alert Presence, you won’t identify with it, which means the pain-body cannot take you over and become the voice in your head. Eckhart Tolle

Observe your pain mindfully and without judgement and it will be transmuted 

  • Just as you cannot fight the darkness, you cannot fight the pain-body. Trying to do so would create inner conflict and thus further pain. Watching is enough. Watching it implies accepting it as part of what is at that moment. Eckhart Tolle
  • The pain-body doesn’t want you to observe it directly and see it for what it is. The moment you observe it, feel its energy field within you, and take your attention into it, the identification is broken. A higher dimension of consciousness has come in. I call it presence. You are now the witness or the watcher of the pain-body. This means that it cannot use you anymore by pretending to be you, and it can no longer replenish itself though you. You have found your own innermost strength. You have accessed the power of Now.  Eckhart Tolle
  • Letting go of emotions through mindfulness

Transcend suffering by …


End suffering by suffering consciously 

  • Become friendly with your pain body. Do not resist it or hold it down. Don’t identify with it. Observe it, while remaining intensely aware of your inner body. Bring your pain body into the light of presence. Free its energy. Allow the pain to become fuel for consciousness. Eckhart Tolle
  • Suffering drives you deeper. The paradox is that suffering is caused by identification with form and erodes identification with form. A lot of it is caused by the ego, although eventually suffering destroys the ego—but not until you suffer consciously. Eckhart Tolle
  • When you accept suffering, however, there is an acceleration of that process which is brought about by the fact that you suffer consciously. You can accept suffering for yourself, or you can accept it for someone else, such as your child or parent. In the midst of conscious suffering, there is already the transmutation. The fire of suffering becomes the light of consciousness. Eckhart Tolle
  • We transcend suffering, not because our problems are solved, but because we experience a level of consciousness in which nothing is missing, a way of being that doesn’t depend on the conditions of our mind, body, and life situation. Peter Fenner
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End suffering by accepting each moment of your life as if you had chosen it 

  • True freedom and the end of suffering is living in such a way as if you had completely chosen whatever you feel or experience at this moment. This inner alignment with Now is the end of suffering. Eckhart Tolle
  • Now, instead of wanting this moment to be different from the way it is, which adds more pain to the pain that is already there, is it possible for you to completely accept that this is what you feel right now? Eckhart Tolle
  • Let there be space around your unhappiness. That space comes when there is inner acceptance of whatever you are experiencing in the present moment. Eckhart Tolle
  • Much of your pain is self-chosen. It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self. Therefore, trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquility; for his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen, and the cup he brings, though it burn your lips has been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has moistened with His own sacred tears. Kahlil Gibran

End suffering by being intensely present in the present moment 

  • The more you are able to honor and accept the Now, the more you are free of pain, of suffering – and free of the egoic mind. Eckhart Tolle
  • The whole essence of Zen consists in walking along the razor’s edge of Now – to be so utterly, so completely present that no problem, no suffering, nothing that is not who you are in your essence, can survive in you. In the Now, in the absence of time, all your problems dissolve. Suffering needs time; it cannot survive in the Now. Ekhart Tolle 
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End suffering by changing the way you perceive external events 


End suffering by disidentifying with your thoughts 

  • I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. I found that suffering is optional. I found a joy within me that has never disappeared, not for a single moment. Byron Katie
  • Thoughts are friends, not enemies. They’re just what is. They appear. They’re innocent. We’re not doing them. They’re not personal. They’re like the breeze or the raindrops falling. Thoughts arise like that, and we can make friends with them. Would you argue with a raindrop? Raindrops aren’t personal, and neither are thoughts. It’s the meaning you attach to those thoughts that you think is personal. Byron Katie

End suffering through love and compassion and forgiveness 

  • The more we think of others, the happier we are. The more we think of ourselves, the more suffering we feel. The Dalai Lama
  • One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love. Sophocles
  • We believe we are hurt when we don’t receive love. But that is not what hurts us. Our pain comes when we do not give love. We were born to love. Alan Cohen
  • As Karl Menninger told his patients, and anyone else who was suffering and willing to listen, “Love cures, the ones who receive love and the ones who give it, too.” Wayne Dyer
  • The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive. John Green
  • What is hell? I maintain that it is the suffering of being unable to love. Fyodor Dostoevsky
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End suffering by taking action to get out of painful situations 

  • While the results of your choices may be difficult or painful, if the alternative was remaining in a situation that was making you miserable, consider this pain to be a blessing. It’s the ‘rip-it-off- quick’ pain of removing a sticking plaster, as opposed to the long, drawn out pain of peeling it off slowly. Perhaps the worst suffering comes from not removing the plaster at all and allowing the skin beneath to become infected. If something is wrong for you, and you will know it in your heart, I urge you to rip it off.  Amanda Harvey
  • Sometimes a little discomfort in the beginning can save a whole lot of pain down the road. Wendelin Van Draanen

End suffering through having a purpose 

  • This is the core of the human spirit . . . If we can find something to live for—if we can find some meaning to put at the center of our lives— even the worst kind of suffering becomes bearable. Viktor Frankl
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End suffering by not resisting pain 

  • The word “yes” sums up spirituality and sanity. An unconditional yes to what is frees us from the self- imposed suffering that results when we fear facing the givens of life. When pain enters our life, we activate our potential for facing it without complaint, and we gain compassion for others who also suffer. A yes to this fourth given frees us from the suffering that comes from useless protest.  David Richo
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End suffering by letting go of your grip on it …

  • Suffering is not holding you. You are holding suffering. When you become good at the art of letting sufferings go, then you’ll come to realize how unnecessary it was for you to drag those burdens around with you. You’ll see that no one else other than you was responsible. The truth is that existence wants your life to become a festival. Osho
  • Pain will leave you, when you let go. Jeremy Aldana
  • People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them. George Bernard Shaw
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… letting go of anxious thoughts, resentments, grievances, regrets and self-criticism 

  • Not only anxious thoughts, but also resentment, grievances, pointless complaining, guilt and regret, criticism of self and others, perpetual discontent…… are ways in which we unconsciously create suffering for ourselves. They arise in imagination (the mind). We need to recognize that these are all unnecessary baggage that brings a heaviness into our lives and strengthens a false sense of self. When you recognize their pointlessness, you can let go of them and then move through life without unnecessary baggage, enjoying the present moment, including its challenges. And so the present moment becomes your friend, and you begin to experience life as supportive, rather than hostile. This is the miracle of transformation. Eckhart Tolle
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To let go of negativity, learn to become detached from it the minute you become aware of it 

  • If in the midst of negativity, you are able to realize “At this moment I am creating suffering for myself.” It will be enough to raise you above the limitations of conditioned egoic states and reactions. It will open up infinite possibilities which come to you when there is awareness—other vastly more intelligent ways of dealing with any situation. You will be free to let go of your unhappiness the moment you recognize it as unintelligent. Negativity is not intelligent. It is always of the ego. The ego may be clever, but it is not intelligent. Eckhart Tolle
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On a lighter note

  • A man has more character in his face at forty than at twenty. He has suffered longer.   Mae West
  • All artists are willing to suffer for their work. But why are so few prepared to learn to draw? Banksy
  • Always make the audience suffer as much as possible. Alfred Hitchcock
  • Anybody can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathize with a friend’s success. Oscar Wilde
  • Doctor: A man who suffers from good health.
  • I do not suffer from insanity, I enjoy every minute of it. Edgar Allan Poe
  • I’ve lost my will to suffer. Ashleigh Brilliant
  • Life is full of misery, loneliness, and suffering… and it’s all over much too soon. Woody Allen
  • Most people don’t mind suffering in silence as long as everyone knows about it.
  • Sex is better than talk. Talk is what you suffer through so you can get to sex.   Woody Allen
  • She suffers in silence louder than anyone I know.
  • We learn so many things from golf – how to suffer for instance. Bruce Lansky