Let go of the need to judge things as good or bad (quotes)


Judging comes at a price


It is not external things that disturb you but your judgement of them


Judgment is a negative frequency

  • Judgment is a negative frequency. Stephen Richards
  • Negativity

Judging consumes energy, bringing weariness and annoyance

  • One of the cardinal rules of joyful loving is that judging others takes a great deal of energy and without exception, pulls you away from where you want to be. Richard Carlson
  • The burdensome practice of judging brings annoyance and weariness. What benefit can be derived from distinctions and separations? Sengcan

Judging agitates the mind, blocking connection to God

  • Non- judgement creates silence in your mind. Judgment is the constant evaluation of things as right or wrong, good or bad. When you are constantly evaluating, classifying, labeling, analyzing, you create a lot of turbulence in your internal dialogue. This turbulence constricts the flow of energy between you and the field of pure potentiality. You literally squeeze the “gap” between thoughts. When you squeeze the gap, you squeeze your connection to the field of pure potentiality and infinite creativity. Deepak Chopra
  • ConnectionGod

Judging blocks wisdom, truth and understanding

  • There is little room left for wisdom when one is full of judgment. Malcolm Hein
  • Judging is preventing us from understanding a new truth. Free yourself from the rules of old judgments and create the space for new understanding. Steve Maraboli
  • WisdomTruthUnderstanding

Judging blocks love and gentleness

  • Of all the spirits, I believe the spirit of judging is the worst, and it has had the rule of me, I cannot tell you how dreadfully and how long. . . . This, I find has more hindered my progress in love and gentleness than all things else. F. D. Maurice
  • LoveGentlenessKindness

Judging blocks joy and happiness

  • It is your judgments which keep you from joy, and your expectations which make you unhappy. Neale Donald Walsch
  • If you look closely, you will find that by far the greater part of any unhappiness in you is created not by situations, but by what your mind is saying about them. It’s created by the self- talk in your head. Such dysfunctional thinking strengthens the ego, but it weakens you. Eckhart Tolle
  • JoyHappiness

Judgement prevents you from seeing good

  • Judgments prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances. Wayne Dyer
  • Goodness

Judging stops you from living in the moment from your heart

  • If I am judging this moment, I am not living it. If I am living it, I am not judging it. Judging is head centered, living is heart centered. Judging springs from doubt and insecurity. Living springs from love and contentment. And each moment I choose again, as my choice a moment ago is no longer relevant. Michael Jeffreys
  • Live in the presentThe heart

Judging defines you

  • People do not seem to realize that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character. Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. Wayne Dyer

Judging blurs your vision and attention

  • I don’t judge people. It blurs out the center of my attention, my focus, myself. Toba Beta
  • The more opinions you have, the less you see.  Wim Wenders
  • Judgment means that you view the world as YOU are, rather than IT is.  Wayne Dyer
  • VisionAttention

All judgement is self-judgement

  • All judgment reveals itself to be self-judgment in the end, and when this is understood a larger comprehension of the nature of life takes its place. David R. Hawkins
  • Self-acceptance

Constant judging is a kind of disease of the mind

  • The struggle between “for” and “against” is the mind’s worst disease.  Sent-ts’an

Even judging something as good creates the label “bad” for future use

  • Due to the mind’s dualistic world, as soon as I label something “good,” I have simultaneously created the label “bad” for future use. Michael Jeffreys

Most of your judgements are not even your own, but learned from others

  • I have not said your values are wrong. But neither are they right. They are simply judgments. Assessments. Decisions. For the most part, they are decisions made not by you, but by someone else. Your parents, perhaps. Your religion. Your teachers, historians, politicians. Neale Donald Walsch

The benefits of not judging


Letting go of judgement brings stillness to the mind and connection to Source

  • We have to learn to go beyond both a positive mind and a negative mind to become a silent, nonjudgmental, nonanalytical, noninterpretive mind. In other words, the silent witness. In the process of silent witnessing, we experience inner silence. In the purity of silence, we feel connected to our source and to everything else.  Deepak Chopra
  • Stillness

Letting go of judging brings bliss

  • If you want to reach a state of bliss, make a decision to relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved of and the need to judge. Deepak Chopra
  • Inner peaceTranquility

Transcend judgment


The most important area to stop judging is in your relationships with others

  • Real magic in relationships means an absence of judgment of others. Wayne Dyer
  • If you would judge, understand. Seneca
  • When we learn not to judge others – and totally accept them, and not want to change them –  we can simultaneously learn to accept ourselves. Gerald G. Jampolsky
  • If you want to know what you think of yourself, then ask yourself what you think of others and you will find the answer. Seth
  • Beware so long as you live, of judging men by their outward appearance. Jean de la Fontaine
  • If you judge people, you have no time to love them. Mother Teresa
  • To judge another is to believe that we understand the position of another soul. Who can really know the consciousness of another soul? Eliott James
  • You do not set the standard. You have not walked in my footsteps, danced in my shoes, or lived in my world. Do not judge me, point your fingers at me, or become experts on my life. Instead, celebrate with me in times of joy and cry with me in times of pain. Only then will we begin to understand each other. Kate Baker
  • Principles for healthy relationships

Today, try judging nothing that occurs

  • I will practise non-judgement. Today I shall judge nothing that occurs. Deepak Chopra

Stop judging the universe

  • I find hope in the darkest of days, and focus in the brightest. I do not judge the universe. The Dalai Lama
  • Open hearts always recognize each other. Open hearts do not judge the universe. When you dive into an open heart, you fall into infinity. Suchi Kumar

Understand that nothing in the universe is good or bad, it just is

  • The first thing to understand about the universe is that no condition is “good” or “bad.” It just is. So stop making value judgments. The second thing to know is that all conditions are temporary. Nothing stays the same, nothing remains static. Which way a thing changes depends on you. Neale Donald Walsch
  • To come to know that nothing is good, nothing is bad, is a turning point; it is a conversion. You start looking in; the outside reality loses meaning. The social reality is a fiction, a beautiful drama; you can participate in it, but then you don’t take it seriously. It is just a role to be played; play it as beautifully, as efficiently, as possible. But don’t take it seriously, it has nothing of the ultimate in it. Osho
  • To enter the Buddha Way is to stop discriminating between good and evil and to cast aside the mind that says this is good and that is bad. Dōgen
  • Divine order

Stop judging what you don’t really know

  • We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path. Paulo Coelho
  • Men and women often judge what they don’t really know. John Bailey
  • No man can justly censure or condemn another, because indeed no man truly knows another. Sir Thomas Brown
  • Understanding

Open to things in your life without needing to label them as good or bad

  • When you learn not to judge, you are basically saying, “I am willing to let anything in without deciding first whether it is good or bad.” In the practice of openness, you will be inviting your soul to be intimate with you. Deepak Chopra

Replace judgement with gratitude and appreciation

  • When gratitude replaces judgment, peace spreads throughout your body, gentleness embraces your soul, wisdom fills your mind. Let gratitude replace judgment and your whole experience of life will take a turn for the better. Neale Donald Walsch
  • Let’s trade in all our judging for appreciating. Let’s lay down our righteousness and just be together. Ram Dass
  • GratitudeAppreciation

Allow things to be both good and bad, simultaneously

  • To view your life as blessed does not require you to deny your pain. It simply demands a more complicated vision, one in which a condition or event is not either good or bad but is, rather, both good and bad, not sequentially, but simultaneously. Nancy Mairs

Instead of judging …


Instead of judging, seek to change what you can

  • But judge not, and neither condemn, for you know not why a thing occurs, nor to what end. And remember you this: that which you condemn will condemn you, and that which you judge, you will one day become. Rather, seek to change those things—or support others who are changing those things—which no longer reflect your highest sense of Who You Are. Yet, bless all—for all is the creation of God, through life living, and that is the highest creation. Neale Donald Walsch
  • The first thing to understand about the universe is that no condition is “good” or “bad.” It just is. So stop making value judgments. The second thing to know is that all conditions are temporary. Nothing stays the same, nothing remains static. Which way a thing changes depends on you. Neale Donald Walsch
  • Do not condemn all that you would call bad in the world. Rather, ask yourself, what about this have you judged bad, and what, if anything, you wish to do to change it. Neale Donald Walsch
  • ChangeControlProactiveness

Instead of judging, bring attention to the moment without labelling it

  • If you look closely, you will find that by far the greater part of any unhappiness in you is created not by situations, but by what your mind is saying about them. It’s created by the self- talk in your head. Such dysfunctional thinking strengthens the ego, but it weakens you. How to end it? Meet situations and people without judgment. Give your fullest attention to the present moment without mentally labeling it. This is the arising of Presence, a new state of consciousness that frees your mind from its old conditioning. Eckhart Tolle
  • AttentionLet go of the need to name and label

Instead of judging, be a light


Instead of judging, look for the treasure and gift in things

  • How would your life be different if you stopped making negative judgmental assumptions about people you encounter? Let today be the day you look for the good in everyone you meet and respect their journey. Steve Maraboli
  • AppreciationLife is a gift

Instead of judging, allow things to be without resisting them


Instead of judging, observe with curious interest

  • Become an anthropologist. Be interested, without judgement, how others choose to live and behave. This is a way of replacing judgements with loving kindness. “I see, that must be the way she sees things in her world. Very interesting.” Richard Carlson
  • Observing is witnessing. Judging is concluding. I do not draw conclusions about Who You Are because in your creation of yourself you are never concluded. Neale Donald Walsch
  • Acceptance is observation of life and suspension of judgment about whether what is happening is good or bad, right or wrong.  Ron Smotherman
  • Allow rather than resist what arises in the present moment—inside or out. Let it be interesting rather than good or bad. Dan Millman
  • The highest form of intelligence is the ability to observe without evaluating. Jiddu Krishnamurti
  • To observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence. Jiddu Krishnamurti
  • Be curious, not judgmental.  Walt Whitman
  • ObservationMindfulness

Instead of judging, allow yourself the freedom to have no opinion

  • You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone. Marcus Aurelius

Instead of judging, trust in the divine order of things

  • There is a higher Will operating most efficiently in this world, although most of us are not privy to it. When we make judgments that things are not happening the way we think they should, this is the height of arrogance. This is acting as though our way is superior to the Higher Power’s.  We’re acting as though we know better.  But do we actually know the cause and effect of everything happening around us?  While we may share in creative power, until we have merged our consciousness in the Creator, we are in absolutely no position to judge when and how things happen. Michael Goddart
  • Divine order

Final thoughts

  • When you judge something, you are giving it power over you.
  • Until you’ve given the world its freedom, you’ll never have your freedom. Adyashanti
  • We have a tendency to label everything that happens to us as either “good” or “bad”. In addition, we use the “bad” label anywhere from 3 to 10 times more often than the “good” label. Be generous using the good label, and be extremely stingy using the bad label. If something extreme happens which you can’t get yourself to label as “good”, then, at the very least, stop yourself from labeling it as “bad”.  The “bad” label limits your ability to notice opportunities.  In the moment you can’t really know if something is bad.  The “bad label” makes you experience negative emotions.  Labeling something as “bad” is a waste of time.  Srikumar S. Rao, Ph.D

On a lighter note

  • A fine beer may be judged with only one sip but it’s better to be thoroughly sure.  Czech proverb
  • Dermatologist: Person who makes rash judgments.
  • Everyone complains of his memory, and nobody complains of his judgment. Francois de La Rochefoucauld
  • Good judgment comes from experience; experience comes from poor judgment.  Higdon’s Law
  • I consider myself to be a pretty good judge of people – that’s why I don’t like any of them. cRoseanne Barr
  • I’m not here to judge, I’m just pointing out all the mistakes you’re making.
  • I’m not intending to imply insult or judgment here but I am curious to know in order to be able to respond to your posts in an appropriate manner so please forgive what appears to be but in fact is not intended as an insulting question: Are you stupid?  Melinda Shore
  • If we were all to be judged by our thoughts, the hills would be swarming with outlaws. Johann Sigurjonsson
  • It is exactly because a man cannot do a thing that he is the proper judge of it.  Oscar Wilde
  • One can’t judge Wagner’s opera Lohengrin after a first hearing and I certainly don’t intend hearing it a second time.  Gioachino Rossini
  • The man who says he is willing to meet you halfway is usually a poor judge of distance.   Laurence J. Peter
  • Whoever called it necking was a poor judge of anatomy. Groucho Marx